Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

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Amanda- it is so cool you and Allie got to meet and have a baby play date. I can’t wait to see the pictures Allie took. Yay for getting an extra long stretch of sleep. She is learning so much and will continue to amaze you! I loved the days when Penny would take 3 naps. We are officially down to one but it is at least 2 hours.

Mel- I don’t think you came across as harsh. You gave her a lot to think about and I hope she takes it to heart. She sounds a lot like my sister. I really hope the counseling helps

I am hoping it was a false positive to make things less complicated. Good luck!

Lucy- I posted in your journal. Love the scan pic and you look great!

Vicky- Good for you getting your back sorted in just 2 visits. It sounds like it is time for a shopping spree for your little girly. Try out zulily.com. They have awesome venders and up to 90% off!

Gibs- 16 weeks has come so fast! The vintage clothing show sounds awesome! Is it a maternity line? Will you be able to show us a picture? I’m sure you will look fabulous and the fancy meals sound just like what a 16 week preggo needs.

Sparkly- It is so great to see you 23 weeks preggo with healthy twin girls!

Allie- we need to see pictures of your meet up!

AFM- It finally happened… We have been matched!!! We meet our couple next Saturday! I am completely excited, nervous and a tiny bit terrified but I can’t wait to get this process started. The couple is adorable and currently live in NYC. They are gay (I was hoping I would get a gay couple) and just seem so full of life.

Besides the surrogacy excitement I’ve just been busy loving my girl. She is a hoot and so lively. She has been adding lots of words to her vocabulary and even surprised me with her break dancing skills the other day. She would attempt to tumble but end up in a weird head spin and then pose! I don’t know where she picks this stuff up! She loves to dance and copies her daddy’s moves (he is an awesome techno style dancer) and is just so dramatic with her movements. I love her to pieces and adore how sassy and funny she is.

 

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[msarkozi]

OMG that is so exciting hoping!! I am so happy for you Penny is so adorable!

Thanks girls. I really feel it is a huge cry for attention as well. She did message me back and she just said she loves her boys to pieces but she wants a relationship with her brother. I'm really not sure where this has come from all of a sudden, as they haven't really ever talked to begin with and never were close growing up. I told her she can't expect it overnight and to work up to it slowly.

 

[Sparkly]

Mel - I didn't know that you could get a false positive on a GD test? I really hope it is for you hun.

Hoping - OMG that's brilliant news I really hope the meet up goes well for you

Allie & Amanda - It's lovely that you both met up, I would love to see pics

Ginny - 16 weeks

AFM - 24 week scan and midwife appointment tomorrow.....I think I may be getting slightly excited about it (this is a first as I am normally terrified) I guess I'll just have to see how I feel about it in the morning....thankfully it's at 9am so less time to fret! Then afterwards we are going to the pram shop to pick up the twins pram Now that I AM excited about

 

[msarkozi]

yeah I guess it can be a false positive, so then they run the 2 hour test to make for certain. I should know my results Thursday though (as I am going to call and find out from one of the girls that works there). I think I am ok with not having sugar though....it's been over a week now that I have cut it out, and I don't really miss it right now.

Good Luck at your scan tomorrow

 

[heart tree]

Ooooh, that would be great if it was a false positive Mel! It really sounds like your SIL is looking for attention. She also sounds like she has mental health problems. Possibly a personality disorder? Hard to say based on what you've written, but I'm glad you are setting clear boundaries with her. That's exactly what she needs.

Happy 16 weeks Virginia! Can we see pics of your modeling show?

Amber, OMG That's super duper exciting! I can't wait to follow your journey! I also want to see video of Penny breakdancing. Hilarious!

Gaynor, good luck tomorrow. I think it's very exciting! Glad you are feeling excited now. I remember finally feeling less terrified around 24 weeks.

Lucy, your bump is adorable. You are so petite! I love the scan pic. I can't believe you are team That would drive me insane!

Vicky, sounds like a shopping trip is in order. New clothes for Hero and a new bikini body for you! Wouldn't it be nice if we could just shop for that?

Delilah has been sleeping 11-12 hours every night. She slept for 11 hours last night, woke at 6:40am this morning for 10 min and fell back asleep until 8:15am! I had time to exercise, shower and prep everything for dinner before she woke up. Great way to start the morning! Unfortunately she's getting harder to put down for naps. For some reason she's fighting them like crazy. Once she's asleep, she sleeps. But man, does she fight me. She's also keen on biting me while nursing. When I tell her "no" she cries and then gives me the cold shoulder. LOL!

 

[msarkozi]

lol, that's funny about the cold shoulder but not about the biting. Great job on sleeping Delilah! Don't you feel so refreshed?!

My SIL was supposed to arrive into Alberta yesterday and I haven't heard from her at all. So we will see what happens now. The Aunt she is staying with lost her son a couple years ago and is still grieving badly - doesn't leave the house or anything. So I am guessing it will be like Gord says, the two of them just want to sit in the dark together and sulk. Not really sure that's where she should be if she has mental health problems, but as long as she goes and gets help then it should be ok. I am guessing she won't though. Guessing she won't get a job either.

 

[heart tree]

I guess for your SIL it needs to be one step at a time. Maybe this is the first step for her. Maybe if she can be encouraged to get help, in time, she will. Or maybe not. I hope she does though.

Yes, I feel so refreshed. I didn't think I'd ever sleep through the night again. This morning I woke up before her again and exercised and showered. I've been doing the 30 day shred. Normally I do it during her first nap. It's awesome to have that nap time to relax or get things other than exercise done. I love my sleeping girl! LOL!

My girlfriend told me she has a 5 yr old and a 2 yr old. Neither sleeps through. The 5 yr old still gets up 2-3 times a night! My friend hasn't slept through the night in 5 years. I think I would slit my wrists.

 

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Mel- My sister sounds very similar to what you described but she is finally getting her life back on track. With my mom gone she is very determined to build a stronger relationship with me and my older sister. I hope your SIL can get her life in gear too.

Sparkly- 24 week scan AND pram pick up is exciting! It sounds like you are a little more relaxed about the pregnancy now. Those little girlies will be here in no time at all!

Amanda- I was only able to get pictures (ipad shuts off music if I try to record). I did post a few pictures on FB but they don’t do her justice. There is also a video on FB of her dancing in the back yard and throwing out a few of her ‘techno’ dance moves. When she is old enough I definitely want to put her in dance class.

It sounds like Delilah is developing some sass with her cold shoulder routine. It’s hard not to laugh sometimes when Penny is in diva mode and extra sassy. The biting while breast feeding sounds painful! Enjoy getting to finally sleep! I too have a friend whose 2 year old still gets up a few times in the middle of the night

 

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Amber, I'll go check out FB. I hope Delilah likes to dance. I was a dancer in my former life. I'd love to do classes with her. Oh and I can't help but laugh at some of her antics, even when they frustrate me. It's so cute!

I'm feeling ecstatic right now! She started a phase recently where she was fighting naps. I would try to pat her down, but she hated it and would scream. Today I did our normal routine of reading books, giving her kisses and putting her in her crib. But this time I just walked out of the room. She played for a while, then fell asleep on her own! She hasn't done that in months. I'm psyched. I started her nap earlier today and since I dropped the 3rd nap, I'm not feeling stressed about keeping her on a tight schedule to so we can fit in the 3rd nap. I really hope this is her new trend. Fighting with her is exhausting!

Are all of my posts about sleep?

 

[msarkozi]

With her sleeping so long at night now, she probably doesn't need that third nap anymore. It's when they drop to one nap a day that it sucks lol! I am scared of when that one goes too!

I've been fairly fortunate with Kash. Whenever I put him down for a nap or bedtime, I just tuck him into his bed, and he reads to his animals and just goes to sleep on his own. There is the odd time where he wakes up in the night still, but it's a quick fix of something to drink and then back to sleep he goes. I'm pretty sure he wakes up as well because he wants to sleep in my bed, which I do give in the odd time.

I can't believe though that I am almost back into the non sleep stage, and going to have a 2 year old!! I am really not sure how this is going to work at all lol! I am going to be a zombie!

 

[vickyd]

Hearty i will be the one people reference to when talking about kids who still dont sttn haha!! Hero wakes up more than 3 times most nights and we co-sleep!!! No way has she EVER self soothed and i can count the amount of times she slept through in her own bed on two fingers!
Im more envious that you exercise...I cannot muster the strength to do any kind of workout, other than cracking open a bag of doritos....The only thing i can manage is instead of taking the bus to work which stops in front of my house, is to walk 20 minutes to the nearest subway station. I do this to and from work which gives me about 40 minute walking work out. Then i come home and open the bag of doritos so ive tired myself for nothing. Crap.

 

[VGibs]

I didn't really get any pictures at the show. I lost my phone the night we left. The few pics my mom got are on my FB.

I have a quick parenting question. So my niece was down for a few days and she is 3. She still uses a soother for her naps which she regressed to after my nephew was born last year. Well when MeMe was with her she saw her with the soother. We have a bunch of soothers at home because I got a bunch when I was pregnant, from baby showers and what not. Gah I hate my grammar when writing on my phone. Anywho, when Meme got home she started putting the soother in her mouth and asked for it tonight to sleep with. She was a nightmare tonight and I was exhausted so I just gave her what she wanted. Well I just went in to check on her and she has the soother in her mouth! She has NEVER been interested in it before. I asked my mom if I am starting a bad habit and she said that it would solve the bottle issue. Yes, I give her 4 oz of water to go to sleep. And it's better then her sucking her thumb. My mom also pointed out that I had a soother until I was 5 *mainly because I discovered my infant sisters body when I was 2 and a half years old and was traumatised, not because my parents were lenient* and I turned out ok. Should I continue allowing her the soother for sleep? Or nip it in the bud now? I am worried she will regress after this baby is born. I'm probably over thinking this.

 

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Gibs, I have no advice right before bed. Let me sleep on it and think about it.

Vicky, I've never liked doritos, luckily. I wouldn't be able to exercise if I wasn't getting proper sleep. I used to have an exercise addiction years ago. I have been known to over exercise. Doing this DVD is a good way for me to keep it in check. I know it sounds ridiculous that exercise could be a problem, but it has been for me in the past.

Mel, I don't know how you are going to do it with 2. It sounds very scary to me!

Well my girl needed 3 naps today. Oh well! She's sleeping, that's the key.

 

[vickyd]

Gibs i still let Hero sleep with a soother. I dont see the problem, she will grow out of it eventually and if it gives her a sence of security than why refuse her that.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

I don't see any probs with the dummy if only for bedtime, I'd definitely rather that than a bedtime bottle.x

 

[Sassy_TTC]

I do read every single day religiously but never have the time to comment on everyone.xx

 

[VGibs]

Sass - haha ya I read everyday too and then by the time I get around to commenting I have so much to say and not enough time to write it in

 

[msarkozi]

It's a tough choice and I would say it comes down to what you are comfortable with. If it is a bedtime only thing, it might be easier to take away again, then if you allow it all throughout the day. We each have our own beliefs as well, so whatever you feel is right for you, then I say do that

 

[LucyJ]

I think if it was me I would nip it in the bud now especially as she's never been interested in one before. Like Mel said you have to do what feels right for you and meme.

Wow delilah has 3 naps Benjamin only ever had one apart from when he was tiny. Glad shes sleeping well and so are you. It always makes me laugh when I hear friends saying their little ones have dropped a nap and just have one now. At least he sleeps through most nights now he still comes I'm with us sometimes. I'm so Impressed you get up and exercise I use Benjamin as my alarm if he sleeps in then I tend to as well.

Mel it's a bit scary isn't it I think I'm sticking with denial and it will all be ok

Vicky sounds like some shopping is needed we're getting like that with Benjamin he's just starting to grow out of his 6-9 months clothes although today he's in a pair of shorts my mum bought him last summer they are 3-6 months bless my little boy.