Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[roonsma]

Mel..... have you been on the March Mummies today? I can't find it anywhere!! x

 

[msarkozi]

is the NT one to find out about disorders? I know what you mean though...I had my scan at 7+2, and now I have to wait until October for my next one...I'll almost be 20 weeks by then!

I popped in there a couple times today....If you go to User CP and click on List Subscriptions, it will show in there

 

[heart tree]

Vicky, that's awesome news. I'm totally not surprised babe! I love your response for people who ask about having babies. I've had so many strangers and clients ask me. It always shocks me.

Yogi, I struggle with social events as well. I feel like my life revolves around my losses and then getting back on the ttc wagon. Sometimes I don't feel like I have anything to talk about with people. Since I've had 3 losses, most people know not to ask me about babies. However, I feel like I can't make random chit chat anymore. I barely even watch the news anymore to talk about current events. I feel like I'm in a ttc vortex. It's probably not healthy. When I do go to events I ask lots of questions of the other people so I don't have to answer anything about myself. Otherwise I'd be telling them about all of you since you've all become my life!

Jaymes, that is one big bump for 7 weeks! Nice work lady. Mel, we want to see yours now.

Lucy, you better get busy this weekend babe! I'm cheering for you.

Good luck at the job Allie. You'll be great. I heart retail therapy, it always makes me feel better!

Hi Roonsma, glad things are going well!

Not much from me today. Going to get acupuncture tonight. It's my idea of heaven....

 

[Megg33k]

Soooo.... I'm here! Uhm... Everyone seems to have such good news... and I'm the one about to bring it all down! Sorry in advance! I HATE MY JOB! I was miserable all freakin' day! Let's go down the list, shall we?

1. I woke up at 4am for no apparent reason and couldn't sleep anymore.
2. I only got 3.5 hours of sleep.
3. I arrived @ work to find out that security knew nothing of me or my starting.
4. I waited 25 minutes just to be escorted in to the building.
5. I was then told that I was supposed to start YESTERDAY, which no one told me.
6. I was dropped off with some guy to listen to him take calls (at least he was funny).
7. I listened to calls from 8:30am until 1:30pm... BOOOORING!
8. No one really told me anything all day about what I should be doing.
9. None of my accounts were set up, so I couldn't do much of anything anyway.
10. I couldn't get my badge made, because the supervisor filled out the request wrong.
11. My "training" is just a series of boring online tutorials.
12. The room we're in is about 85 degrees (29C) after 12pm.
13. No one told me when to even show up tomorrow.
14. I would rather amputate my own feet than ever wear the shoes I wore today again.
15. I came home crying!

I've had better days!

 

[Dazed]

Oh, poor meggie! So sorry babe. We all have those days. I used to work for a woman that would make me cry everyday.

 

[msarkozi]

awe Meggles! Hope you have better days!

 

[Allie84]

Ohh Megg, so sorry about your day! It certainly sounds awful. I hope tomorrow goes much, much better for you!

 

[msarkozi]

omg my dad makes me laugh...this is his status on facebook:

Dear Cabelas... I have been looking through your lastest fall catelogue and was unable to find any large bore rifles that might be suitable for our new GRAND-SON / grand daughter. If this is a special order item,could you please let me know who I am to contact so I can get this on time for the birth of our grand child... PS... just in case, do you offer them in camo pink!!!

For those that don't know, Cabelas is a huge hunting/fishing store

 

[Megg33k]

That's hilarious, Mel! I love it!

 

[msarkozi]

I suggested we start with a fishing pole instead of a rifle, lol.

No bump picture tonight...the bump is in hiding!

 

[heart tree]

Megg

Crappy days should be shot out of existence with pink camo rifles.

 

[yogi77]

LOL that's awesome Melissa

 

[msarkozi]

yes, as you can tell, girl or boy, they will be hunting/fishing with grandpa! I love it because my brother has a girl (will be 2 in December), and my parents never get to see her or anything. I haven't even seen her since she was 2 days old. His wife has torn the family apart. So now they are actually going to get to be grandparents with this baby. I am going to enjoy watching them with their grandchild, the way grandparents should be able to!

 

[Allie84]

Aww, that's great Mel. Your dad sure is excited to be a grandpa, it's really cute!

My parents were over tonight and my mom with 'no pressure', as she put it, asked about grandchildren. She said she had a dream of me in maternity clothing. She doesn't know of my miscarriage as I don't want to upset her unnecessarily, but if she only knew how hard I was trying.

Hearty, I've been thinking of what you mentioned earlier about living in a ttc vortex. I totally feel that way, as well. I was thinking about something and said to Alex, 'Oh, I'll have to tell the girls on Disco Derail!' I thought of it before I thought of telling my bff (who lives in Scotland, so is rather far away...we moved there together and she stayed..thank God for Skype). I know part of it has to do with the fact that with moving from Colorado last year I left all of my social circle behind, and I don't really have many people up here. It's an awkward stage between college and motherhood, two avenues in which people make up their social circles. TTC and BnB have really become my socialization since my miscarriage at the end of April. I sometimes find it hard to identify with my old friends as they are not only still in Colorado but also at a stage where they don't understand ttc and miscarriages and all the emotion and mental energy it entails. I'm just really grateful to have a group of wonderful women who understand me!

I'm off to bed to get up super early for the new job. Eek! Good night everyone!

 

[heart tree]

Well said Allie. I'm a little beyond the in between of school and motherhood at 35 (almost 36...gulp!) But I do know what you mean. Most of my friends from college have children. I don't like talking to them, because it is all they talk about and it makes me feel inadequate. The nice thing about San Francisco is that people tend to get married and have children much later in life. None of my friends have children here. But, they aren't as driven to ttc like I am. I feel like I have no one to talk to except the B&B girls sometimes.

All I ever think about besides work is getting pregnant and my miscarriages. It's really all I want to talk about but I know my friends wouldn't understand. I love being able to talk about it all day long here and not feel like a freak.

Good luck at the new job. Did you get a back to school outfit?

 

[Megg33k]

Well, I'm always available to talk without you feeling like a freak, Hearty!

 

[prgirl_cesca]

I am in the same camp too Allie. I'm 26 and married, but no kids. My friends from university all live in London and are career girls - mostly single, no plans for kids until they're a lot older. So I don't spend that much time with them as much as i'd like. My married friends are all in their thirties and have kids, so never invite me to anything as it'll all be 'baby talk' as they put it so I feel a little lost sometimes.

 

[vickyd]

Poor meggles!!!! To be honest though i think all first days at work suck! I remember mine, actually the whole week, as the day from hell! I got shown the lab and pretty much left on my own to figure what the hell to do!!! I had no training whatsoever!!!!!! I make it my purpose now to help newbies as much as i can so that they dont go through what i did.... I really hope that it gets better for you babe!

Allie good luck with the new job sweetie, hope yours goes much smoother!!!!

Hearty none of my Uni friends have kids, or married and actually most arent even in a relationship!!!!! They think im the weirdo for wanting kids and getting married so young...34!!!!! On the other hand hubby's friends all were all married years before us and most of them have kids by now. Since we socialise more with them, i get the baby questions all the time even though they know about my losses. I just come up with witty/nasty replies which make hubby squirm but i figure if you are insensitive enough to ask, get ready to hear whatever i dish!!!

 

[Megg33k]

I agree, Vic... with everything you said! Hoping the job bit gets better... or else it will get gone!

I actually avoid making friends who I think might have babies before me. I'm such a bitch! LOL That mostly leaves me with the parts of the gay community who aren't family oriented... and... uhm... singles who aren't even trying to date or couples who are worse off than we are! We have one couple that we only met up with once... They've already had 2 failed IVF cycles and are looking to adopt now. I have one friend who has a 1 year old boy, but she's not currently with anyone to fall pregnant again. And, that's mostly it! How sad!

P.S. Regarding the couple looking to adopt... She actually blatantly said we probably wouldn't speak anymore if I got pregnant. Well... More like, we wouldn't speak anymore after I had a baby. If I had kids when she met me, it would be fine. Even a pregnancy would be fine. But, if I actually had a baby, she couldn't really be around me anymore... even away from the baby. It was awkward. I didn't really know how to respond, tbh. It didn't help that I was pretty sure I was pregnant again when we met them, and I was... sort of. I mean, it was the very beginning of my 2nd loss. But, I never quite brought it up to them. She knew I'd lost one already and said I should be happy I could get pregnant... Gee, thanks!

 

[vickyd]

She sounds very charming....!!! WTF?????
Why dont you just stop being friends now since you will be having a baby in 2011???? Get it over with i say...!!!!!