Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[hoping:)]

She is beautiful, Hearty!!! Modified bedrest sounds like a great idea and at least you will be able to get out and enjoy some fresh air

Vicky- It does get confusing! I did my fare share of research... I'm a Google adict... but it scared me more so I just do the best that I can. I would have freaked about the other baby being wrapped up to it's head! I can't believe the Dr.'s just dismissed it! Room temperature is something I also still obsess over because it can be a factor with SIDS.

 

[heart tree]

What should the room temperature be? I was reading that the baby doesn't need really hot rooms and that as long as you are a comfortable temperature, they will be too. We hate having the heat on at night. What should we be aiming for in terms of temperature?

 

[jenny25]

Amanda you can buy kids bedroom or baby's bedroom temperature plates which shows you why the room should be I can't remember as its been that long I do have one somewhere I will look it out xx

 

[vickyd]

My pead said that the temp should be such that me and Alex are comfortable without too many clothes on lol! We never have the heating on at night either and we dont have a thermometer in the room. I guess the temp is around 18-20 degrees in the winter but the summer it goes up to like 25-28 but we have the fan on and Hero sleeps in either a t-shirt or just her diaper.

A dummy is a pacifier. They say that using a pacifier reduces the risk of SIDS, but also that it shouldnt be used if breastfeeding so again more confusion lol!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Thanks for all your advice girls, I'm seeing my consultant tomorrow and will be mentioning my worries.

Amazing scan pics Hearty, I have no doubt that your lil girl will be a stunner.

Re:room temperature, we've never slept with the heating on, just wrapped Poppy up more in the more colder months.

Re:SIDS - I only ever gave Poppy a dummy to reduce the risks, she never really wanted it but I was so worried that I kept offering it to her! I also have a Angel movement and Sensor monitor which I could NOT live without, it's symbols that she's breathing and an alarm would go off if god forbid she ever stopped, I wake now about 3-4 times per night to check it! I would 1000% recommend it!

 

[hoping:)]

I believe I was told 65-70 degrees. I don't have a room thermometer so we just do what Vicky said and if Tim & I feel comfortable we feel it should be fine for Penny too. They told us to dress her one layer warmer than we are. When it is colder she sleeps in a onsie/sleep & play, long sleve sleep sack & a swaddle. I think as she gets older I don't worry so much because if she is uncomfortable she will definitely let us know.

Before we put Penny in her own room we made sure we had a great monitor. We looked at the Angel Care sensor pad but opted for the Izon because we can view it from any of our Apple devices and it is also very sensitive. The 1st month we used it all the time but now it is not even plugged in It has about a 5 second delay so we always hear Penny before it goes off. Now we just sleep with our bedroom door open and can hear her just fine I thought those who didn't use monitors were crazy but now I am one of those people... I guess I am feeling brave these days!

Penny only gets a paci/dummy when she is napping or going to bed. She seems to really like it but will fall asleep with out it too

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Treating you all to a milo bump pic, lol.

https://i331.photobucket.com/albums/l474/cas_cas83/75074bdd.jpg

 

[vickyd]

Awww Sass such a cute bump!!!!

 

[Round2]

OMG Sassy, you're so tiny and perfect! Damn, I'm jealous.

I think doctors are much more relaxed about SIDS here. I've never been told anything about temperatures, pacifers or sleeping in the same room. The only thing my pediatrician said was to avoid co-sleeping. But now you've girls have got me thinking. There's so much I didn't know about it!

Vicky, I had the weirdest dream about you and Hero last night. You and Hero came to visit me and I wanted to give Hero a present of a talking doll....so I made you guys drive me around to a bunch different Wal-mart's so I could find a doll that spoke Greek. A bunch of weird stuff happened, then I eventually I gave birth in the sporting good isle at Wal-mart!!

 

[hoping:)]

Sassy- your bump is sooo cute!

Round- pregnancy does give you pretty crazy dreams! lol

 

[heart tree]

Round that dream made me laugh! I love that you gave birth in the sporting goods aisle!

Sassy you look amazing! My bump is already bigger I think. You carry your babies beautifully.

I've read that pacifiers help prevent SIDS so I'm planning on getting some. Thanks for the temperature tips. I'm glad we don't have to blast our heat at night.

I read that sleeping in the same bed can increase SIDS, but sleeping in the same room reduces it. So many things to know!

 

[vickyd]

Round thats crazy! Have i mentioned it here before how Hero loves these cheap talking dolls????? Did I assist the birth in the spoting goods isle??? hahaha!!

Hearty there is also a huge debate on the co-sleeping and SIDS. Apparently if its done right there is no danger. I LOVE co-sleeping with Hero, especially when she was 3-5 months it was the best and i did it all the time.

 

[heart tree]

So confusing Vicky! There is just so damn much to figure out. I'm going to keep baby next to my bed simply because she wouldn't fit in our bed with us!

I hope you birthed Round's baby in her dream.

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Luca has always liked a really warm room and loads of layer. That boy loves to boil! You'll soon realise what suits them.

In terms of SIDS risks, well a girl in my aqua natal group lost her son at 14 weeks when she was co-sleeping with him. She didn't roll onto him (as proved at the PM) but the coronor did suggest at the inquiry that he would probably be alive if they weren't cosleeping. It was a very hot night though (I remember that night and Luca was unsettled) and she had been a few glasses of wine at a BBQ that day which I know increases the risks because of toxins. Anyway it without a doubt scared me from cosleeping and the only times i've done it since is at my parents house because Luca just won't sleep a full night there so I usually bring him in with me, but only now he's much older. But with that shock and fear of co-sleeping came me doing some proper sleep training and not just doing the easy option of having him in bed with me, which hopefully is why he's been a really good sleeper most of the time apart from when he's ill. He generally does 11-12 hour stints at night and has done for ages.

 

[heart tree]

OMG Cesca, that is so sad! That must have been so scary for all the other moms to hear. So are you saying that wine increases the risk because she was breast feeding?

God, pregnancy is just the tip of the iceberg with worrying, isn't it? Once she's born, I'm seriously going to be worrying more than I am already. How do you moms even sleep? I feel like I'll want to watch her sleeping every second to make sure she's ok.

 

[LucyJ]

I found the whole sids issue very confusing so much information I was always scared of cosleepimg although we did do it a few times not that I realky sleep. Ideal room temp is between 18 and 20 I was always worried about Benjamin being to hot when I saw my midwife after he was born Id get her to check if he was the right temp we were told he should have an extra layer on than us. Our moniter has a built in thermometer which has been handy we dont have the heating on at night either.

My confusion at the moment is about bumpers and quilts are they allowed them. Benjamin is a rule braker I put him on his back at the botom of his cot but when I go and check on him hes normally on his tummy at the top of his cot He would never take a dummy.

Round a love your dream thats brillant hope.

Allie I would move Alistair when you feel ready I know I wasn't ready before and it would of caused to much anxiety but so far its gone ok I felt ready to do it. We're at my mum and dads now for easter so hes back in with us

 

[heart tree]

I thought bumpers and quilts were a no no. Oh I'm so confused!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Oh cesca that is awful, poor girl. Same thing happened to a friend of a friend of mine, totally freaked me out and I have never co-slept! I read somewhere that co-sleeping is the main cause of SIDS.

Poppy has bumpers and a quilt, her bumpers are cot wraps though so completely safe. I only put the quilt over her when it's chilly but I feel shes old enough to move it if it did cover her face though!

Again having a monitor that lets me know she's breathing is a god send!x

 

[heart tree]

I'm getting a monitor. No question about it.

 

[LucyJ]

Cesca that is so scary.

We've not used bumpers as thought they were a no no but he does have a tendency to stick his legs through the bars of his cot and then gets stuck or bangs his head. I thought as he was older he could have a quilt found this gorgeous one but on the back of the pack it says not suitabe for under 12 months.

Hearty its definitely full of anxietys I was forever checking Benjamin when he was first born, Ive relaxed as hes got older but must admit I still check on now just not as much. I worry about so many things and fine theres always something new to worry about but its the best thing in the world being a mum.