Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Megg33k]

Hiya! I had to pop in what with the drama and all. I still have Dawn on my FB list, mostly out of morbid curiosity. I've suspected her of lying for at least a year (maybe more), so it was no shock to me. I never had proof though, and I'm not one to go making accusations without something more than gut instinct to go on. I was hoping to catch some of the dish on FB, but it seems she's deleted everything people post too quickly. I haven't gotten to see any of it. I've followed her "journey" for a good, long while, so I think that's maybe why I picked up on it quicker.

The other girl you were talking about was babywanted73. Her name is Shannon, and I've talked to her at length (I used to, don't much anymore). I do still have her on FB too, and she seems to have leveled out a lot. She actually went on to have a son, complete with test pics, bump pics, and pics of him (with and without the rest of her family [ie her, husband, son, step-daughters]).

I honestly don't believe she and Dawn were in the same category at all. Dawn lied for attention. Shannon genuinely *believed* the things she claimed. I technically have no proof that they were or were not true, and her being banned had nothing to do with "lying" on here. (I do know why she was banned though.)


Congrats to whyme! Welcome back Sugar!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

I'm confused, doesn't take a lot when you have cotton wool for a brain!

*must pay more attention in future, to keep up with potential future drama*

I was lying when I said "normal"

 

[vickyd]

Off topic but last night i popped a small zit just inside my nose and man i was bleeding for a good 30 minutes.

 

[Megg33k]

Yeah, Sassers... Get with it!

I'm not normal either... not even close.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

seeeeee nothing "normal" about you!!

 

[NatoPMT]

vicky, did you stick a bit of tissue to it like my dad used to on his shaving cuts?

i once stuck a pin in a birthmark and that bled for about 2 hours.

Im still confused too, sassy, but im giving it up as a bad lot now.

megg - glad babywanted has her wanted baby

im off to rub moisturiser onto my glasses

 

[pregoinnorge]

I'm super confused too, but oh well! Sorry to all those hurt by her..

I'm laughing here picturing you will moisturizer smeared all over your glasses, hahahaha

Zits in the nose are the worst!

Just to update -Ella is still teeny tiny and is barely 13 pounds at 5 months. They are sending us to a proper pediatrician to figure out how to pack on the pounds. My gut instinct thinks she is fine, but just small. She is meeting all her milestones and seems healthy otherwise, but the HV makes it sound so scary. My husband is thin and has a problem keeping weight on, especially when he gets stressed so maybe she is just more like him than me?

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hope the appointment goes well, I'm sure Ella is fine, ignore the Hv all they seem to do is scare the crap out of you! Like you say your hubby is skinny so she probably just takes after her daddy! Let us know how you get on.xx

 

[vickyd]

Amy what centile is she on? I have found that even the most experienced pead will make a big deal about weight. Hero has always been on the big side, always in the 90th centile and the docs scared us by making her have all the metabolic disorder tests. I put it down to the fact that she was ff from day one and after being diagnosed with cow protein allergy and put on easy digestable formula she would require more formula to be full. It was only like 10-20 ml more but i suppose they are so filled with calories that even that small amount would make the difference. Is Ella bf?

 

[NatoPMT]

I'm sure Ella is fine, ignore the Hv all they seem to do is scare the crap out of you! Like you say your hubby is skinny so she probably just takes after her daddy! Let us know how you get on.xx

thats exactly what i was going to say. HV's get all uppity about weight and i think unnecessarily so. If she's meeting her milestones then she's just little.

There's babies 3 months older than Eloise at playgroup and she could body slam them she's that much bigger. And they are all absolutely fine and healthy. Its good to get extra checks and you could hopefully get advice from the paediatrician about sleeping and stuff

 

[roonsma]

I'm totally confused

Megg did Shannon have another account before that one? Was she banned before? She rings a bell?

I can remember another girl too who Sugar outed, the one who told us the Dr said she could miscarry as she had a cough Who was that then?

I always just thought Dawn didn't really know what was going on with her body( she seemed a bit dim to me), durrrrrr me hey!

Happy 22 weeks Jen!!!

Amy, i bet your instinct is right and you'll just have a dainty little girl

Hi to all :wave:

 

[Dazed]

Roon - I think you are right about Shannon being banned and then having another account. I haven't seen any activity from her as she was here and on the Race thread. The other member that was questioned was want2bamum86.

 

[Round2]

Oh my goodness, look at all the gossip I woke up too! Craziness! I have to admit though, I'm not at all surprised by any of the girls discussed. I think my spidey sense kicked in quite early about all of them. It makes me feel sad that they have to lie about such an awful thing to get attention. I know they hurt a lot people, but they must really be hurting themselves to do something like this. Nevertheless, their actions are inexcusable.

Preggo....Maddy was about that weight too around Ella's age. She went through a spurt from around 4-9 months where she didn't gain any weight. She kept growing in length, but didn't gain a pound. My doctor was freaking out, but I knew she was healthy and happy (despite the colic!). Momma's instinct is never wrong!

Vicky......ewwwww!! Good thing you're not taking blood thinners like me, that sucker would still be bleeding!

Round, sorry it's been a rough pregnancy. Are you happy hubby doesn't want more?

I was really sad about this after I had Maddy. But after we went through all the losses and struggles to get a second baby, I know now I definately do not want any more kids. Plus, my hubby has a 14 year old son. He was 2 when I met him, so we've basically been doing the diaper/daycare years for a decade and half. I'm ready to move on. How about you, are you planning on more?

Well I'm 'working' from home today. But I've got a cake to bake for my DSS birthday, a house to clean and some laundry to do. Hmmmm maybe I should just go to work and relax!!

 

[Allie84]

I'm scared to move or make a sound, I currently have two sleeping babies in my house....I'm babysitting my friend's 6 month old. Both are sleeping which is a miracle. I've been up since 4 with Alistair (took him 2 hours to go back down). Less than 3 hours of sleep total for me. Uuuuuuugh.

Ooooh, juicy!! Love the gossip hehe.

I'm like Roonsma, I kind of of just thought these girls were a bit dim. The three word posts, the creepy photos...I just thought they were clueless and was judging them quietly.

Amy, I quit worrying about Alistair's weight because he was reaching his milestones and happy. As the girls talked about. That said, he started to gaining weight when we started solids. Have you started solids yet? I think you mentioned you had started. Alistair gets BF 7 times a day, formula twice a day, and solids twice a day (one serving of fruit or veg or rice). I took him into the doc for his chesty cold yesterday and he was over 15 lbs. But I honestly wouldn't worry. Sorry the HV freaked you out!

Round, yes, we're planning on more. Hopefully a few more but we'll see how my bp/ gestational diabetes is next time. We'll start NTNP or TTC in November when Alistair is a year. I'm actually starting to look forward to it and I'm curious to see if it will take 10 months like it did last time! Enjoy 'working' from home!

BTW I'm such a fatty. I was feeling sorry for myself being up all night and then stuck with two babies all day on no sleep (and a case to work on) so I had Alex bring me Burger King for breakfast. I feel so gross now! I've actually gained 10 lbs recently! I was down to less than pre-pregnancy weight but it crept back on.

 

[jenny25]

You know I had the similar problems with aarron and I had the most horrible health visitor he always whacked on at my skills as a mother asked why I always referred to him as wee man it's a Scottish term for little man which he was he didn't walk till he was 20 months old his development was slow etc she actually got social services involved thought I was beating my son cause he had a couple of bruises from walking around or bumping into things I went nuts at her and put in a complaint social services could see he was happy healthy and that there was no problem I told her if she came near my house again I'd have her for harassment so I then changed health visitors who was so much better she forgot aarron was born early and was in special care his weight at 37 weeks when born was 4lb5 look at him now happy and healthy with a few learner in problems which we are getting processed but he is a great kid xx

 

[Sugarlove2]

Hi girls I can't believe Dawny is an imposter! I too thought she looked like a serial killer in her new hair do pics, but still! You just never know what goes on in people's minds!

Amy Charlotte weighs 13lb and has only gained 4 ounces in over 2 weeks. I think she's just not a particularly big feeder. She seems to go little and often. The HV told me to bring her back in 2 weeks time to get her checked again. Reckon it's their job just to make us worried. At the end of the day, you know your little girl better than anyone, so go with what you feel is right. She's a little cutie by the way, looked at some pics on fb.

Allie, I was doing well on the weight loss front, then went to Center Parcs on hol and ate shit all week. Now back in the habit of eating rubbish again! I didn't have a sweet tooth before having Charlotte, but now I seem to need sweet stuff through the day for energy.

 

[NatoPMT]

haha at rooney and Allie, me too. ahem.

" It makes me feel sad that they have to lie about such an awful thing to get attention. I know they hurt a lot people, but they must really be hurting themselves to do something like this."

i never get too upset about trolling myself, not wanting to undermine Jen's hurt, but it doesnt really bother me. I got quite spectacularly trolled on another site by a poster called Kirstie, cesca prob remembers it. It was about cot death which sounds terrible, but she would phone me up in floods of tears and she was so unhappy that i wasnt angry at her when she was outed. Everyone was up in arms about it, but she was really hurting. You can fake stories and personas but you cant fake crying so hard you cant speak. Even if there arent the tears like that, i agree that you have to have serious problems to do that, and if the problems arent the ones you post about, they are still problems.

Rounders, you can add another few years to the diaper decade - and the fact you will have a great sized family when BabyBoyR arrives.

Allie join the fatty crew. Fatties cant crept round silently i have found. I always have to step on a squeaky toy or my giant arse knocks something over. I need a beep beep beep alarm when im in reverse.

Jen, i am saying for the 2nd time today, I wouldnt mess with you.

 

[NatoPMT]

be careful sugar!!! she might be watching and adding you to her 'to do' list

 

[Sugarlove2]

Yikes Nato, you're scaring me now!

Allie how exciting about trying for another baba before too long? Nato, are you trying again soon too?

 

[jenny25]

Lmfao nato I'm harmless I've never had a fight in my life lol I'm just a Scottish lass with a little temper lol xxx