Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[heart tree]

So jealous of the B&B meet up! We need more of them. 2 girls on my PAL thread are moving to California, so I might have a meet up in my future.

Lucy, I want pics the dress you end up choosing for the wedding. I can't imagine fitting into anything but an oversized sack these days!

Allie, what homework do you have? Are you back in school?

Just had a cervix check and growth scan today. It went great. Here's a link to the post I wrote about it in my journal. Don't feel like re-writing it. https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/p...-blooming-after-4-losses-94.html#post18792245

My weekend was good. I went to a cloth diapering class on Saturday and am now pretty decided on what cloth diapers I'm going with. I'm really excited about it! I did manage to catch Tim's cold and so ended up feeling crappy on Saturday and Sunday. I think I'm turning the corner though. I hope so. Being sick and 32 weeks pregnant is no fun at all.

Hope everyone is doing well!! xoxo

 

[Allie84]

Hey girls!!

Hearty, glad you had a great scan! 32 weeks, WOW!!! Love the 3D photo. They always look distorted, don't worry about mixed up sperm lol. We had tons of 3D scans with Alistair and while there is some resemblence, there was definitely distortion. I'm glad you're feeling better, and hope Tim is in tip top shape to wait on you. I promise I will make time next time I'm in the Bay area visiting my sister to see you and your little girl!

Homework...yes, I'm taking some undergrad psych courses that I had signed up for so I could start the School Psych program in the fall. However, upon careful consideration I've decided the program is most definitely not more me. I would need to take some additional math prereqs including College Algebra and Stats, and well, I know any career that requires College Algebra is not for me. I'm still taking the classes though; hopefully they will apply to whatever I do decide to pursue which will probably still be in the education field.

Lucy, yay for Ben cutting some more teeth! Do you have a photo of a link to the dress? Did you buy it or are you holding out for something cheaper. Hope the weather's cleared up some.

Vicky, I love your SIL stories. They always crack me up. So sorry you're having in-law drama. Hope things are going better?

Round, thinking of you! Is it possible you have a baby? No updates this weekend? I hope if there's no baby you have been laying around with your feet up....

Nato, well done on the weight loss! How'd you do it? Any tips for a fatty who is now weighing more than prepregnancy weight? Very sad! I joined weight watchers but I can't seem to do the tracking very well. It's a lot work and I have very, very little time. And lots of excuses apparently. Oh, Eloise sounds like a hoot. I could picture her bouncing and crashing out lol. Alistair gets VERY hyper and excited and full of squeals sometimes. Over random things. It's hilarious! I wish I could post video on here...I have video of him in hysterics over a plastic bag.


Hope everyone is doing great.

 

[Allie84]

I uploaded the video to YouTube to show you guys. My camera work is shoddy on my phone, but I just had to film it because I found his reaction hilarious.

Babies find the most random things funny. And he's definitely laughing not crying. He's just beyond sense with laughter.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-dTOogkwUY

 

[heart tree]

Oh Allie, that is hilarious!!! One of my favorite things ever is a laughing baby. Tim just watched it with me and we both had a good laugh. Thanks for making my night more cheerful!

 

[Round2]

OMG Allie, that's hilarious!! The best sound in the world is a gigglying baby. Love it!

Nato, you skinny minnie! Congrats. You're doing fabulous.

Lucy, yes please post a pic.

Hearty, your little girl is beautiful. Sounds like things are going perfectly. So happy for you.

AFM, less that a week to go. Had my appointment yesterday and the plan is to check my cervix on Monday then I'll be induced within 48 hours if I've dilated at all. My doc is pretty confident I will have dilated since I've given birth already. So far no more bleeding or contractions so I'm thinking he's going to wait till the induction.

It's so unnerving knowing that I could be giving birth next week. The anxiety is definately building. It's feels weird this time, I'm excited, but I'm also so aware of what is to come. I also feel a little sentimental that this is my last pregnancy and that my baby making/growing days are over.

 

[Jaymes]

Allie - That was HILARIOUS! I it! & Boo to homework!!

Rounders - EEEK! That is so exciting!

Nato - WAY TO GO!

Hearty - sorry you're not feeling well!

AFM - Not a whole lot going on, MIL is driving me nuts and I am back to work more often, not something I want to be doing right now. Sports supplements and Pregnancy don't go well together.

 

[SMFirst]

Round - exciting for you!!

Heart tree - glad you got a good scan. Which cloth diapers will you be using? We use cd but I just have a variety. My fav are totsbots though

Allie - super cute video

Well one way I learned to drop weight quick is to catch a stomach bug - DH and I were both sick at the same time last week, had to call in mil to help watch the baby!

 

[NatoPMT]

Loved the meet up pics but feel extremely unhappy that there is an ocean in the way

Allie, will watch the video when weezy wakes up, i want full volume and shes on the floor curled up round my feet like a little sausage dog

You wont like the answer. I have given up all processed sugar, so nothing white (not even a sneaky crumpet), no juice (I used to have about 3 glasses of grapefruit a day) and no biscuits or cakes. Obviously. Nothing else has changed so I think i had a bit of a sugar problem, the pains in my joints have gone and my bloodshot eye has gone, both of which i think were inflammation which sugar causes. Im still having loads of fruit, but you are allowed 90g of fruit sugar a day as it doesnt do the same damage as refined sugar. I am now confined to leggings, maternity pants too big, old jeans still refusing to do up

oo hang on baby sausage dog is awake, be back soon

 

[hoping:)]

Hearty-LOVE the scan picture! She is going to be such a cutie pie! Like Allie said... 3D pictures are often distorted. Penny's ultrasounds look just like her but squished. In one picture I was convinced she had a deformed ear and 6 fingers on one hand I hope you start feeling better

Allie- ADORABLE! I love when they do that When Penny is hysterically laughing people think she is crying was well! Good luck with the homework!

Round- Oh my gosh! You are soooo close to meeting your little man!

Jaymes- I have been meaning to ask you... what brand do you guys make? I want to find some to I can try it out

SM- I'm glad you are over the flu. Being sick and having to take care of a baby is the worst! Its good your MIL could help

Nato- GOOD FOR YOU! ALL that crap is bad for you but I don't see the harm in treating your self every so often to help motivate you to keep going. Make sure you are drinking lots of water and including fiber in your diet
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AFM- Last night was the first night Penny slept through the night in months She went down at 9pm and was up just before 7 am I really hope it continues. Also... My baby and DH surprised me at work with flowers It has been a good day!

 

[NatoPMT]

hha allie thats ace. I especially like his little laugh at the end when you have stopped 'mummy, dont stop'. Im with you on the No Maths rule.

Hearty - great news! AND only 52 days to go, you are so doing this. How are you feeling about the birth, do you have a plan?

Rounders, holy crap, no 52 days for you!!! what is it about whats to come that youre anxious about, the birth itself or having a newborn? I know you say youre a bit sad, but even better is that you have your family - i think sassy said something similar but more along the lines of thank zeus I dont have to do that again. I never, ever thought id miss pregnancy, but the whole phantom kicking thing says i must - i can sympathise.

Hi S&M! glad youre doing well. Best diet i ever went on was salmonella.

only read this page so not sure what lucy photos we have to see, but i still wanna see them

 

[NatoPMT]

Lucky girl hoping, i saw the fb pic. You deserve it.

The only thing i miss is grapefruit juice. I am not craving sugar in the slightest - i have lots of green tea and water and i am the Chickpea/Lentil/Bean Queen so no probs for fibre. I also have porridge for breakfast again instead of commercial ceral which was just easy when eloise was little. I have it with sultanas, cinnamon and nutmeg which is like rice pudding for breakfast. ace.

No treats for Nato. None. Didnt even have any birthday cake, i gave it all away.

<puritanface>

Well done penny lace for sleeping so well! were you still bringing her into your bed? Eloise still crashes in my bed usually from about 6am now so we get to lie in until 8.30am. Just the odd night sleeping through turns into every night pretty soon. Go penny.

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Nato do you have any good lentil recipes? Luca loves them and because he's milk free and doesn't seem to like meat much he lives the life of a hippy vegan!

 

[heart tree]

SM, I'm going to use the Gro-Via system. It is a waterproof shell that has cotton inserts you can snap in, or biodegradable disposable inserts. I'll use the disposable inserts when traveling. At night I'm going to use Fuzzibuns. They are the same size as Gro-Via and for extra support, you can slip the Gro-Via cotton inserts into the Fuzzibuns pocket for double duty protection. I may try a few other brands, but these two seem to work best for my needs.

Round, I can't believe it's about to happen! I second Nato's questions. What is making you anxious?

Amber, I've been reassured that my girl's photo is distorted. Thanks for telling me a similar story. As much as I love seeing her face, I really can't imagine she'll look much like that. That would be a complete departure of either of our facial features. Unless they really did mix up the sperm during IUI! Congrats on the full night of sleep!

Nato, I'm feeling pretty good about the birth. The plan is to have Tim and my mom there. It's going to be hard to figure out when my mom should come out as she lives 3,000 miles away. I'm hoping to use gas and air to get me through the labor, but I'm not opposed to an epidural. I want to try and labor as much at home as possible. I'd really like to not get induced. And I'm really against taking narcotics. They didn't help me at all when I had them for my first D&C and they can have an effect on the baby. I think I'm feeling more anxious about being prepared. I haven't bought everything that I need. I don't have anything set up in the nursery. I'm kind of slacking in that department. She might have to sleep in a drawer if I don't get my act together.

Well done on the weight loss! Cutting sugar is definitely a good way to do it. Were you drinking the grapefruit juice for EWCM? Might you start drinking it again soon? I can't wait for you to jump back into the TTC madness.

 

[SMFirst]

Hoping - that's awesome penny slept thru the night!

Heart tree- I've heard good things about grovia and I think I have some fuzzibuns myself.. I never tried cloth overnight as several people mentioned its not worth the headache dealing with leaks at 3am but I hope it works for you!

 

[LucyJ]

Allie I love the video of Alistair lauging so cute i really believe anyone feeling down should listen to babies laughing it just warms your heart. I was watching it while Benjamin was playing and he stopped to come + have a look and kept on smiling so cute. Good luck with the homework I'm sure you'll be able to use these courses in future jobs/education.

Amanda love the pics of your little girl Im so exicted for you try not to worry about being prepared I wasnt at all and thought he'd end up sleeping in a draw but you'll have time and people to help get anything you dont have and need. We had to send friends out to buy clothes for Benjamin as everything we had was way to small my mum bought some outfits for him so he had a few bits. Steve got the spare room cleared out and the painting done in 48 hrs but it was a while before we got his room finished and to be honest it still needs some shelves and pics up. It will all come together I promise. Make lists of what you need to and what you need to do. I had lists and my mum and steve went through it to see what they could help with while I was in hospital. The only thing I would say is check the carseat fits in your car as we has a bit of a drama on the day we came home.

Round Im so exicted for you cant wait to see pics of your little man.

Hoping that is so sweet of dh and penny to send you flowers I saw the pic on fb and they were beautiful. I got some gorgeous roses of steve the other day he just came home with them saying Benjamin had told him to get me some pretty flowers so cute.

Nato you are doing do well I dont think I could cut out sugar maybe I should try this weather doesnt help. Seriously thinking we should book a last minute holiday to somewhere sunny. I havnt sorted out when Im coming up to my mum and dads yet it was meant to be this week and for the weekend as steve is going to a school reunion on friday but its fathers day sunday so thought it would be a bit mean to leave him on his own. Hoping to be up mid july for a week if your about will sort dates this weekend and let you know be lovely to meet up.

SM glad your feeling better and your mil could come and help with Adam.

AFM: I have a pic of me in the dress not the best pic its over budget it was on a last chance to buy and in my head I thought it meant it was in the sale I've just found out they've changed the date of the wedding its now going to be the 1st Sept. I have some pics of my little boy as well but will post in a bit as need to check what hes up to as hes gone very quite.

 

[Round2]

Lucy, you look fabulous! Really, that dress is stunning!

Hoping, what a great feeling. Did she sleep again tonight?

Nato, you've got some killer will power. I'm sitting here stuffing my face with watermelon so that I can forget about the ice cream bars in my freezer. I'm sure I'll end up eating both.

Hearty, don't worry - I didn't finish the nursery until a few weeks ago. I still only have half of my hospital bag packed. A drawer will be fine for the first few weeks.

SM, sorry to hear you guys are all sick. It's going around here too. Hasn't hit me, but everyone else has had the stomach flu.

Re anixety - hmmm what's not to feel anxious about? I'm terrified of something going wrong durring delivery. I'm afraid something is going to be wrong with him after he comes out. I'm afraid of how this is giong to change my relationship with my daughter and my husband. I'm worried that I'll have another colicky baby and have to deal with that along with taking care of Maddy. Don't get me wrong, I'm ecstatic to be meeting my son and starting our life with our family completed. I know how lucky I am to be welcoming my second child to this world and I am eternally grateful for that. I think just being the cusp of all these uncertainties is making me a little crazy. It's weird how different I feel this time. With Maddy I was just delieriously happy and excited. I'm not sure if it's because of my losses or the fact it's not my first baby....but this time I'm just nervous.

 

[hoping:)]

Lucy- so cute that Ben “told” Steve to get you flowers. You look beautiful it that dress! I really love the color.

Round- all those anxieties sound totally normal. My friend was having her 2nd while I was having Penny and her feelings were quite similar to yours. Fear of the unknown is tough especially when you have two (DH & Maddy) other people’s feelings to consider. I really hope your little guy is an easy baby and that Maddy takes to him right away and is a good little helper. My God daughter is always doting on Penny and her little sister. She always wants to be in the action and very readily offers to feed them and help change them or even carry things out to the car for me. Her mom is pregnant with their 3rd and she told her parents they should name it baby “Henny” (that’s what she calls Penny) so we could both have baby “Henny’s” She also wants to name a cat baby "Henny"

Afm- Penny slept from 9pm to 5am so not too bad. When I went to check on her she was soaked because she peed through her diaper. I’m sure she would have slept longer if she wasn’t cold because once I stripped her down she slept in our bed until 7:30. Before she would wake once in the middle of the night… usually at 1 am or 4 am so we are making some progress.

Last night I caught Penny on video going from a belly position to a sitting position all by her self! It was too cute! She also can now crawl backwards so I taped that as well and put the videos on FB. Last night she fed herself for the 1st time She ate a plum and was so cute burying her little face into it. I’m pretty sure the clothes she was wearing are ruined but I was so proud of her!

We surprised Tim with an early father’s day gift. I made him a card with pictures of Penny and I and also a custom made iphone cover that has 3 pictures of us. I want an iphone now so I can make myself one!

 

[Allie84]

Oh, Lucy, the dress is beautiful! Love the color and am soooooooo envious of your figure. Any chance you'll have an opportunity to wear it before September?

Round, those fears sound normal to me! It's very surreal having all of these unknowns right around the corner and having no idea what it will be like. But then it somehow comes naturally...it's how we're designed, I guess.

Nato, noooooooooooooooooo. Booooo. I mean, hooray for you, but you're right, I don't like knowing your methods work so well. Haha. I've had the thought that I'm probably full of sugar induced inflammation. I am seriously a sugar fiend. I was going to ask how you dealt with cravings but then I read you don't miss sugar!? Did you struggle at first? I'm feeling so incredibly fat and I'm going to be embarassed to show up at my high school reunion next month looking this large.

I meant ask, how on earth does Eloise sleep at your feet? Does she fall asleep playing and nap on the floor? Too adorable.

Hoping, well done Penny!! That's amazing. Our babies are growing up sooooo fast. Love the flowers as well. Do you have any tips or did you do anything differently for Penny to sleep that long?

For the first time last night, Alex slept on the couch because Alistair was not sleeping. He woke up at 2 and SCREAMED whenever we put him down,even after being fed formula, changed, burped, cuddled, nursed twice, given teething tablets and eventually Tylenol in case it was his teeth really bugging him but I have no idea. He was awake and upset from 2-4 for no known reason.

 

[NatoPMT]

Cesca, Luca is a boy after mine own heart. I often just replace meat with lentils in dishes, lasagne, spag bol etc, but Eloise is a bit little for really finding recipes for her yet - I have only given her one lentil dish so far and she threw up badly afterwards. There's lots on the web if you google baby lentil recipes

Luce - you look so tall and elegant! The dress looks absolutely lovely.

Hearty, i havent seen the extra pics yet, will go and have a look after posting. I wanna see BabyGirlHearty. I think youre right to keep somewhat of an open mind, i was all hypnobirthy for 18 hours before i started threatening people for an epidural. My friend was desperate for an epidural and did the whole thing with gas and air and she is a real wimp. I agree on the opiates. I was hoping i could sneak some pethidine home, but i really agree it should be avoided if possible, as you know, the epidural doesnt affect the baby at all. The grapefruit was just cos i love it. It didnt really do anything for me ewcm wise. It was all about the tea for me, i had loads last week but didnt do sexy, gonna start trying next month i think, not full on, but flippantly, nonchalantly. See how long that lasts. Thanks for the encouragement!

Ach Rounders, no pregnant woman should be denied ice cream. Fact. My take on the anxieties is that it might even help you be more relaxed afterwards, if your expectations are riddled with worry and you are sure it will be hard, then it might be that nothing phases you when he's here. I think discoers are more anxious than the average, and i think it's good to accept and acknowledge that you have them. Don't feel you have to be anything other than how you feel. With Maddy, 'ignorance' was bliss, now you have her to worry about and the journey it took to get you here.

Now for my anxieties, Penny sounds like she's doing so much more than Eloise!!! Im not worried about Eloise, but worried i am somehow stopping her do stuff by not encouraging her in the right way. I know she's individual etc, but i cant help it. That said, she sleeps and eats brilliantly (apart from my fear of her choking maybe holding her back)

The sleeping thing sounds like its progressing brilliantly - can we see the video of the sitting up? I will check fb first before i demand they are posted actually

Allie - yes eloise was napping on the floor, which is one giant playpen at the mo. I dont like putting her in her cot at the mo as my monitor has broken so shes napping where ever i am. She is adorable. Very.

The sugar thing, seriously Allie, I have eaten something, ie chocolate or biscuits or cake
every day for the last 30 years. It was always on my mind. I could eat a whole packet of biscuits in one go if i put my mind to it. I went cold turkey and the first week was hard, but then it go really easy and i just dont want it now. It has been playing on my mind because of the killer cells and the joint pain, but my skin has lost a few years since i stopped eating sugar too - i really cant recommend it enough if you are a sugar head like me. Now i just have to stop the crack.

I would say dont worry about the school thing, but i missed a reunion before christmas for a few reasons, my arse being one of them. I can sympathise.

Just out of interest, stop sugar for a week and see how you feel, if you really dont want to carry on, you know theres an end in sight but by the 7th day, you might not want it anymore.

Hopefully the 2-4am thing was just a blip. eyes crossed it was.

 

[NatoPMT]

Hearty just had a look at the scan pic, and it does look distorted. One pic of eloise looked like she was Tubs from the League of Gentlemen (see pic below) and she is the most beautiful thing ive ever seen.

IF she had a big nose, i have seen so many babies with big features who grow into them. Its actually big featured babies who look best when the rest of their faces catch up.