For ages Paul didnt do anything. U can see from posts on here that I was at my wits end. He isnt great but a little better. One day I said to him that I was beginning to feel I would be better off doing this by myself because at least the wouldnt be relying on someone who isnt helping me.
All I was asking was for him to tidy up after himself. To maybe get up with LO once in a while. There was a stage that Aria woke about 20 times a night and Paul didnt get up to her once! I was on my knees sobbing one night because I was BF and just couldnt do it anymore and you know what he did? Shouted for me to come back to bed whilst LO is still howling and then promtly fell asleep! I was beyond angry at that and we had a proper talk about it.
It's helpes massively that I'm back at work so now he has no option but to do his share, although I;ve noticed MIL becoming more and more involed because he's calling and meeting up with her which is fair enough as I used my mum like a crutch most of the time.
Although I do still get annoyed at his selfishness from time to time. Today for example. I get up with LO at 7am whilst OH lies in till after 10am. I'm working tonight, he's off, i'm loaded with cold, he's fine, I'm pregnant, he's not yet he gets the lie in? The sleep things is always our biggest arguement. The MIL comes in talking loudly after I went to bed and OH doesnt even bother to ask her to be quiet therefore I am now awake and have had no sleep before nightshift and I dont feel grand as it is!
Sorry I always end up hijaking these threads
. I think your OH is being extremely selfish. I dont know what more to advise as you have tried talking to him. I would suggest packing and going to your mum's as well but I know I wouldnt actually do that, maybe your stronger than me though.
Good luck hun.
xxx