"Does anyone else not test early" Refugee Club

[plastikpony]

Hello all you fabulous ladies!!

How is everyone doing? Panda, are you getting excited for your 4D scan? I am!! Can't wait to see what your little girl looks like!

Mummy, how many weeks were you when you had your first scan? My gynae said to just chill for a while and he'll see me at 6 weeks, so my appointment is next week Wednesday, first thing in the morning! I absolutely can't wait!! DH has been phenomenal. He's treating me like I'm made of glass and might break any second, it really is too cute! Because of all our issues getting pg, the Dr already had me taking vitamins that he said to carry on taking until I see him, so I'm pretty comfortable we have that base covered.

I'm missing my coffee. Honestly, I would just love a nice Cuppucino about now! That and a glass of Coke. Strangely I don't miss wine at all. Yet. I think I'll probably start missing a good Champagne soon though!

Nimbec, how are you holding up? Isn't it hilarious that we spend our lives waiting to get pg, then when we do we spend our time waiting for our scans and getting to 12 weeks?!

JustMe, how are you feeling dear? Any more ideas about moving to the beach? I wouldn't mind a nice long beach holiday about now!!!

 

[MummyWant2be]

Panda pleaaaaaaaaaase do post us a pic of your 4D also can't wait...

Plastik - i had my first doc's appointment when i was 4.5 weeks preggas - but then again i had some bleeding so i had to c the doc...and found out all was well - appearently it's normal to get a bleeds in the first trimester...and i will be going back again next week Sartuday (i will be 6W7d) hopefully we'll gt to hear the heartbeat

any MS yet?

 

[plastikpony]

Been feeling rather nauseous on and off, but mostly when my tummy is empty. No throwing up yet. I've been so hungry, but now today I'm having to force myself to eat. Weird! How about you hunny? Any other symptoms?

I haven't had any bleeding yet, but read that it's common in up to 30% of pregnancies.

 

[nimbec]

Hi all! Plastil I'm good thanks haha yes same as you wishing time away untill i know all is ok with my lil beanie!!! I've been referred to epu so should have a scan at 6 weeks - oooh 2 weeks time praying i make it that far!

Have you told your instructor yet? I have the opposite problem i need a reason not to be riding clients horses or having them in for schooling!!! My top horse is with his owner atm as i have had a few heart issues i have a pacemaker so just needed to sort a few bits and bobs out so ....ladies do you think i should just say i'm not well enough to ride yet??? I know thats lying...BUT anu other suggestions??

Panda yey so looking forward to seeing your pic!!

 

[plastikpony]

Hi Nimbec!!

I haven't told my instructor yet. I made an excuse last week saying that work was just hectic so I was going to give my mare 2 weeks off. This week my instructor is away competing at the South African Championships, so I only have to worry about it next week. I think I'll tell her on Wednesday if my appointment goes well.

I am going to tell one of my really good frieds tonight. I'm sure she thinks I'm upset with her or something coz we ride together all the time, and every time in the last 2 weeks I've had to make an excuse to either not ride with her or not go out with her, so that I wouldn't have to make excuses about riding or drinking. I don't want her thinking I'm being weird, so will just swear her to secrecy and tell her the truth!

It's up to you what to do Nimbec! I know we don't want the whole world finding out, but it's not going to change our chances of miscarrying. Trust me, as soon as my instructor knows the whole yard will figure it out within a week or two!!

 

[MummyWant2be]

no MS yet - just tender boobz, back ache, and flu...and i eat lots

good luck ladies in telling your Instructors/clients

 

[justmeinlove]

Not doing well at all today, could really do with some cheering up tbh
Had terrible time trying to sleep last night and something I read up on facebookn had left me feeling REALLY negative about being pg and totally ok if I mc'd. Etc. Then had a bunch of dreams about dead things which I am worried are prescient - esp. as before my CP I dreamt of roadkill the night before (really vividly!).

So of course today I wake up totally shattered and feeling achy around my middle Am now really paranoid that it's an mc - and tbh I don't want that. I know I have been doing a LOT of complaining about not being happy, but a lot of that is coming from the fact that my hb has been really ill for a month now (so food, cleaning etc have either not happened or been something one of us HAS to do despite totally not feeling up for it) and he hasn't felt well enough for us to be able to talk or do any happy things together. After him talking to me today and being really positive and loving (he's not better at all, but he was pulling it together for a bit, enough to get across how much he loves me and how great this will be) I feel a lot more positive about wanting this and am now really freaked out that it is an mc and I have caused it by being so negative Which I know is ridiculous, if you could cause an mc just be wishing for one, who would need abortion clinics!

But still. I am feeling very sad and anxious today (and know I am also absolutely SHATTERED). Any cheering up would be really really welcome

 

[plastikpony]

Aww, my friend I'm sorry I only saw this now!!

I hope you are feeling better today? Please don't worry, nothing you did is going to cause you to miscarry!! Remember that everything happens for a reason, and you and OH and LO are going to be just fine!! Every week the chance of miscarriage drops significantly and you are edging toward that 12 week mark SO quickly! I think it's divine how much you and your man obviously love one another. Twinges and cramps are totally normal. Unless you are in constant pain that you can barely stand, you have nothing to worry about, ok?

It's so easy to get paranoid about things, but I just console myself by telling myself that I am doing the best I can for my baby, and if anything goes wrong it's because it was meant to happen that way. Not that I wouldn't be devastated if it did, the point I'm trying to make is that it's pointless trying to worry about something that you have absolutely no control over! Try and stay calm and happy because I'm sure that would make the little bean feel good too.

I'm going away with DH this weekend for nice relaxation and pampering. I can think of nothing better than chilling with the love of my life with a new little life is slowly growning inside

 

[justmeinlove]

Hugs!!! Am feeling a bit perkier today, so yay! And you're totally right and I do know all that, thank you for reminding me

 

[flamingpanda]

This week has been ridiculously busy. I'm too hot in this stupid weather and people are really beginning to wind me up now. My back pain which I thought was gone has crept around to my front and now I have the most excruciating pain when I walk in an area it would be inappropriate to hold! I'm going to have to go back to the doctors next week and see if I can get some stronger pain killers again. I hate taking them when pregnant but if this carries on I'm worried I'll end up signed off sick.

Saw the midwife again this morning (a different one again because mine is off sick). Thankfully all my bloods came back ok and my GTT was within normal range. BP was still fine and my urine still clear! So that's one less thing to worry about. Paul is off work today so he was able to come with me and hear the heartbeat for the first time. But he had to rush home because we have a new bed coming today. We dismantled the old one last night and slept with the mattress on the floor, which is maybe why I woke up with pain rather than it coming on slowly throughout the day. Then I got a text to say that one of my friends is home for the week and am I free tonight. Which I sort of am, but we really need to go food shopping. One, we have nothing in to eat and two, it's our dog's first Birthday tomorrow and we're throwing him a party. I know that sounds mad but he has people coming over and I haven't baked him a cake yet. The 4D scan is at 10:20 tomorrow and people will be coming over at 2:30. So there really aren't enough hours in the day!

If I had the option of what to do right now I'd really like to just go to bed and sleep.

Ugh.

I am kind of excited for the scan but I have this awful fear that she won't play ball and we'll get bad pictures. I didn't care too much with the NHS scans but this is costing £100 so there's more riding on it!

Glad to hear you're feeling better justme. I've had plenty of up and down days, I think our worries are normal. If we weren't worried there would be something wrong with us.

 

[Impet Limpet]

What a wonderful idea for a follow on thread!

I'm glad to see everytime I get chance to look at the TWW thread there is another BFP announcement!

I ended up dipping out of the first tri board because all the threads were scaring me, and I haven't posted much on 2nd tri but I do read the threads.

Me and husband have been clearing out the house too now, generally decluttering (we moved straight in from our parents house so we used the spare roos as dumping grounds too, so now we are slowly working our way through and binning stuff we don't really need.

 

[justmeinlove]

Impet, I am absolutely anticipating having some sort of 'MUST GET RID OF STUFF' freak out at some point too

I think a clothing emergency may have hit me! Today my bloaty tummy has managed to somehow take on the appearance of a tiny bump....meaning that I am now at work in jeans and 2 layers of tops, hoping it doesn't look like that now - and thinking I REALLY need to go find something to wear for the rest of the week that hides it a lot better, if it keeps up! My new contract STILL isn't finalised yet so ARGH!

Anyone got any great ideas for something Sainsburys sells that would do the trick?! It's holidays here so I can dress ridiculously casually...

 

[nimbec]

I am just wearing very loose tops with a loose cardigan over the top....hoping people will just think i've put a bit of weight on for a while lol! i caved and bought a pair of maternity jeans the other day as i cant fasten mine up they are great sa fir everywhere and have a big stretchy band that isn't digging in me!! Just hoping i havent jinxed anything!!

 

[justmeinlove]

Also I feel I have to say - Plastik! You're on SWEETPEA! (if it helps I had no idea how big that was meant to be when it was me either!). But how cool! Feels like only the other day that was me! Apparently tomorrow I should hit prune - I have no idea how big a prune is either...but on the good side I don't want to eat one (nor do I have a pathological loathing of them, as I do olives...!)

 

[plastikpony]

Hi Ladies!!!!

Panda, how was your scan? And your doggy's birthday party? I totally do that for my dogs, and get all my friends to bring them some toys for gifts

JustMe, no suggestions sorry, I'm sure South Africa is WAY different to the UK in terms of clothes for sale I would reckon somthing a little longer and loose should do the trick though. When are they goint to finalise your contract? Sounds almost as useless as my company.

Nimbec I'm totally going to have to go that route soon! I've stopped riding my horse, which was my only form of exercise, which means that I'm putting on weight Not cool!!

Impet, it's awesome to have you with us again!!! Those threads really are scary. I venture over there every now and then for a look, but then don't go back for a while!

Well our weekend was awesome! So relaxing, slept a whole lot and went on a game drive where we ended up pretty much in the middle of a herd of 9 elephants! SO exciting and a little scary too!! My scan is on Wednesday morning, and honsetly it couldn't get here soon enough. I'm trying to stop myself getting anxious but not having the best luck

 

[plastikpony]

Thanks JustMe!! It is very exciting!! The olive looks SO yummy, I think I'm going to have to go and buy some. And pickled onions and gherkins!! I'm not sure I can classify that as cravings yet, since I've always loved them!

Quick one, what are you ladies doing with regards to exercise. I hate to say it but I've been a bit pathetic since I stopped riding and haven't been doing anything!! Fatty!!

 

[nimbec]

Hi Plastik i've stopped riding and been told by consultant to just do gental exercise like walking swimming but i havent done any yet and won't until scan just incase - severe paranoia!!

 

[plastikpony]

I know the feeling Nimbec! We have a pregnancy exercise group in our area called preggi bellies, run by professionals. Think I might join up if everything goes well at the scan. They say most ppl join after 12 weeks, but I'm PARANOID about getting too big, so will probably join right after my scan

 

[justmeinlove]

We just bought a Wii fit! Am really looking forward to it. You can generally keep doing what you're used to though...I tried hula hooping again for a bit the other day ;-) my problem has been energy to get to the gym, which is why we've given notice and bought a Wii instead ;-)

 

[Impet Limpet]

For exercise I had a break from the gym between 6 and 12 weeks because my morning sickness was awful and I was very fatigued. I felt quite bloated and really felt I was losing all my tone, I felt a little guilty at the time for becoming so lazy, if I'd realised how much energy would return in the mid tri I wouldn't have felt so bad!

I'm now back doing body pump and pilates. In fact I was surprised at how quickly my body seemed to come back to normal and retone, I now have the tiniest baby bump, but it is a bump and not bloat.