Doom and gloom people?

[Tasha]

It drives me nuts when I see people saying similar to what you've experienced. Yes there are tough moments but for me those moment were far outweighed by the good, with all of my babies.

I have to say waking in the night (although for us it didnt happen often) was one of the most special times for me. Amazing snuggles taking in their smell and everything about them, at a time where it is so quiet, it feels like you two are the only people in the world. You cant beat that feeling

 

[imaswimmer2]

On the single parent stakes one of my friend was a single mum with her first.

She reckoned she had it easier as she didn't have 'a grown up child' to look after aswell!

I know so many people who's OHs think the woman should do everything, so think how much easier it will be without that

Omg so true! This is actually why I'm so terrified that they're making me get a c section, because I just don't feel I will get physical and mental support from DH during recovery (p.s. I've told him this, not just talking smack online lol) because men never go through this, they just can't relate. My husband works manual labor heavy highway construction, so even at 34 weeks pregnant I'm expected to work 50 hours a week on my feet, then come home and do 100% for our 12 month old, cook, and clean -_-'

If I were a single parent, I'd be doing almost as much but at least I wouldn't have to see a lazy butthead chillin on the couch with a beer watching tv haha

 

[coffee cake]

I'm a newly single mum of two with one on the way, if I can do it, so can you! And let me tell you: it may be hard but it's worthy EVERY SECOND! Surround yourself with positive energy, lots of loving people and you will be fine - no, even more than fine. I KNOW you will rock this.

 

[Rel]

I am a mom of two and expecting my third. And I still get the "and it will get worse with 3" and on top of that my mother especially keeps pointing out the "faults" in my kids now...
The thing is she had 3 kids but as she actually said when friends of mine pointed it out, her mother really was the one who dealt with a lot of things in the house, including us, so she doesn't want me to be able to deal with it because she wasn't able to herself!
But I'll tell you what, I didn't think that I was going to have 3 kids but I could be happier. I know that it will be challenging, just like it was adapting to having one, then two, but it is also the best thing in the world.
All the people who tell you the horror stories are either parents themselves and there is a fair chance that they have more than one child, so they should know better (and if it was so terrible, why have more than one?) or they don't have kids, in which case they can't really say anything because they haven't been there!
There will be difficult times, that is true, but your baby has already given you a new life and the bond between you is just going to get stronger, so you will love every minute of it!

 

[Skywalker]

It drives me nuts when I see people saying similar to what you've experienced. Yes there are tough moments but for me those moment were far outweighed by the good, with all of my babies.

I have to say waking in the night (although for us it didnt happen often) was one of the most special times for me. Amazing snuggles taking in their smell and everything about them, at a time where it is so quiet, it feels like you two are the only people in the world. You cant beat that feeling

That's a really beautiful description of night time with the baby!

 

[Mummy May]

Yep, people are always negative aren't they! Its not always like they say though, its pretty obvious that you're going to be tired and emotional - its like they think you haven't quite realised this yourself. And even the stressy parts are worth it when bubs smiles at you or grabs your finger xx

 

[BigLegEmma]

Urgh! I've been following your thread since yesterday when funnily enough I had my most recent harpy cows experience - one of them I'd only just met for the first (and last) time as she was visiting one of the others and she still felt the need to stick her stupid oar in! Can't even write about them yet, I'm so mad. I didn't even volunteer info or get on the topic of parenting or babies; they led the conversation there just so they could pontificate about what wonderful mothers they are and how every choice I've made and will make is wrong, near-sighted and I'll never follow through on. Stupid b-s.

 

[Starry Night]

Love the image. I don't mind women sharing what worked for them but it can come without the attitude and judgement.

I still love it when people go on and on about why I should VBAC (which I am) and how hard c-section recovery will be when they have never had one and I have. I always feel like saying "Oh, really, tell me more...." LOL

 

[jenmcn1]

I remember when I first became a mom. Had a lot of these comments as well. Not easy to deal with. I resorted to the fact that I had no clue going into it, and I was fine with that. It's all part of the learning process, and it bugs me when people go on and on about all the negative and difficult things ahead. Quite frankly every baby is different. The truth is, it's a big life change. And that's ok. We all have to go thru it. Be encouraged that as difficult as the adjustment can be, it wonderful and so worth it.

 

[lovelylaura]

I think people do it because it is alot more overwhelming than anyone can ever prepare you for. I don't think it's done in malice it's almost like it's ok to find it a bit shit or tiring we understand more than you know, if you need to whinge once in a while its fine come to us we get it. Don't get upset by it. x