Aw Clare... Im sorry you are feeling low.
Look, forget that thread and dont read it anymore...she will want the last word and its not really worth the effort. Let her think she has gotten the better hand, i know you are a wonderful person who only wants to help. Her loss... and by the way, what a crop of plops when she said that we "Forget" what its like to try!! When you want something so bad the feelings remain the same...for ANYONE trying for a child, be it their first, second or third. We are women, the need for baring children is strong in us!! Surley this is no brain science!
Cheer up my little sun beam, you have us and we aint going anywhere x x x x