Due In May :)

[Powell130]

We got really lucky and got NB-12 months from her. Mainly 0-9 months, but still a bunch in every size. I was like WOW!

 

[Powell130]

I'm seeing mw tomorrow so going to ask if I can get weighed as I have know idea how much I've gained.

Think I have a slippery fish in my belly and not a baby because i woke up this morning to lots of flipping about!

Happy papaya week!!

 

[Jary]

Thank you Powell! You too! Eep, where is the time going?

 

[Jary]

Saw mw but forgot to ask her to weigh me and also forgot to ask her about the Mat B1 certificate for work! Doh!

 

[Hann12]

Congratulations on being papayas!!

My MW never weighs me, didn't do it at all at any appointment when I expecting DD except the checking in one. Not sure that they really bother here unless they have concerns to start with with high bmis, might be wrong though.

 

[Powell130]

That seems weird to me about the weighing because the nurse always takes my blood pressure and weighs me before I even see the OB. Crazy how different countries and stuff do things differently, huh?!

 

[shellgirl]

Hi Everyone,

I've been hiding out since last week when we got the scary news about my blood work. The risk was very high at 1 in 10. We were petrified and devastated. After a lot of talking, we decided to go forward with an amnio. I couldn't have that type of anxiety hanging over me for my entire pregnancy wondering if my baby girl was healthy. I had the amnio yesterday and was anxiously awaiting the results. The doctor called this morning and she is 100% healthy and 100% a she. I am so relieved and thankful. This last week has been the worst of my life and I am just so over joyed right now. I'm thankful for all weight gain and stretch marks to come. Nothing else matters now that I know my baby girl is in good shape.

 

[Powell130]

Yay!!! I'm so happy to hear this!!! I bet you and hubs are over the moon

 

[Jary]

Congrats Shellgirl! So pleased your little one is doing well and that you and your OH can relax and enjoy the pregnancy!

 

[Hann12]

That's great news shellgirl! I'm so sorry you had to go through it in the first place. At least you can now relax and enjoy the pregnancy with no more worries

 

[Stevensmummyx]

Congrats shell! Must be such a relief! Glad yo hear your little princess is perfect x

 

[Powell130]

Hubs said "oh no you didn't lol"

 

[cgav1424]

Awesome news shell! When we went in for the NT scan, hubs and I had already decided that we would get an amnio if we got alarming results. It's just better to be prepared in my opinion! I'm so glad that everything turned out perfectly for you guys! xx

 

[shellgirl]

Thank you so much everyone. I can't think of a time in my life when I've been more scared. I'm just so over joyed that everything is ok!

 

[Powell130]

So I need some advice. I've been getting the feeling like I need some time away from hubs. All we do lately is argue over stupid shit. Last week we even went like 3 days without even speaking. I've gotten to the point when he complains about something that I just say "ok" because anything else will cause a fight. He never says anything about being in a bad mood from work, but will just blow up when he gets home. Like yesterday, he seemed like he was in a bad mood when he walked thru the door, so I asked what's wrong. He says nothing. So I'm like okay come look at all the baby stuff I got from my friend today. I show him, he says "that's alot of stuff" and goes in the living room and sits down. Kinda made me sad because I was super excited about all of the stuff and thought he may be too, thought he'd wanna see the things she gave us rather than just looking at everything as a whole. When I brought it up to him that it upset me that he didn't seem like he gave a shit...started an argument. He hardly touches my belly and only does so when I get him to, only talks to the baby when I ask him to tell him good night and good morning. When I brought up that that makes me upset because I still feel like I'm the only one excited about it (i mean i know he'll be exicted when the baby is born, but it's not like he doesn't exist yet, he's just in my belly) it started a fight. I'm tired of the baby only hearing his voice when it's us arguing.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to be here feeling like I'm living with a roommate rather than my husband, but I don't want to end my marriage or anything. I just feel we need some time apart and idk how to go about doing that! :/ I definitely have a place to stay if we do spend some time apart, my dad lives across the street and has a guest room. uuuughgggh I just dont know what to do. I'm tired of arguing, I'm tired of crying, I'm tired of feeling alone, I'm tired of him picking fights with me, I'm tired of having to be an ass to him to defend myself when he's a dick for no reason. When we argue he says stuff like why does everyone give me shit. I try to point out to him that when he's in a bad mood, everyone around him picks up on that shit cuz he puts out a really strong vibe. The guys at work can tell when he's in a bad mood just by looking at him, same with his parents/brother/family, same with me. Yet he thinks we all have a problem. It's like he doesn't understand how his vibes and stuff effects others. Idk what his deal is... I'm just tired of it...

 

[cgav1424]

Hey Powell - I know how you feel. Hubs doesn't act all that interested in this baby either. He's been really stressed out at work and thinking about finances and everything. We had a shit year (2012) between me needing two D&Cs, both our kids going to the emergency room (DS for stitches and DD fell and bumped her head and got a huge goose egg), and hubs needing 4 moles removed in 4 different procedures because they were pre-melanoma. So our medical bills were through the roof even though we have great insurance. Anyway, we've been arguing or just not talking and there's just been tension and it's been making me super sad. We finally had a heart-to-heart this past weekend and he told me how stressed he's been financially. It helped to plan everything out and for me to reassure him that I was planning on working when baby was 6-12 months old. I'm a SAHM and have been since DS was born (he's 11 now) and he didn't know that me working was an option. Ugh. Even though I immediately told him after we got our BFP that I knew we couldn't make it and live the way we wanted to unless I worked too! All I asked him was that I stay home with the baby for the first 6-12 months. He agreed, but apparently totally forgot about that conversation we had. It's been better since then, but he's still not as excited as I want him to be or as positive as I need him to be.

I know he's capable of being excited and talking to my belly, etc. He was like that with both kids and used to play guitar and sing to my belly all the time. For some reason, he's just been detached with this pregnancy. I know he'll come around, but it's made me sad. He's never been one to get excited about baby stuff so I wouldn't take it personally about your DH not wanting to look at a bunch of baby gear. It's just so different for them. We have this little person growing inside us that depends on us for everything and I think it's hard for some men to grasp that. It's harder for them to bond while we're pregnant and takes an actual, tangible baby for the bonding to take place.

Don't make any rash decisions about taking time apart now. Just try and sit down and have a real talk with him. Set some ground rules before you sit down like no yelling, no judging, and no interrupting each other. And just be totally open and hopefully he can reciprocate. If not, then maybe go stay at your dad's for a night since it's just right across the street. I'm sorry you're going through this, hon. Pregnancy is supposed to be this magical time, but between hormones and heightened emotions and the financial stress of bringing a new baby into this world... I think sometimes the excitement gets lost. You and DH will be fine. And you have a huge cyber-support group ready to listen and be here for you anytime! xx

 

[pinktiara]

sorry to hear what your going through with the hubs I found mine was sort of like that not as much fighting or being a jerk just not as interested with our first turns out he was super scared and nervous but a week after our son came yes a week haha he was back to normal. This time were trying to get away with eachother before the baby comes it's alot of stress on a man too which us women never think of because were carry the darn baby what do they have to be stressed about.Hopefully in time things will be better for you guys xo

 

[Stevensmummyx]

I'm team blue!! Xx

 

[Sass827]

Congrats shell! Good job being brave enough to do that scary test! I'm so happy it all worked out for you! Must have been such a hell week.
Congrats on team blue Charlene!
Powell- I'm sorry you and DH are in the shits. I think it's just such a different experience for guys. Mine has been having nightmares. I think it's been scared in general and financial stress. If you think you want a break, take it! There's nothing wrong with going over to your dads for a bit. Maybe it's what your DH needs too? Try to have a talk about
it.
AFM, my mom is makin my life hell. She calls once a week and just screams murder at me. She's making stuff up about me and DH and stuff she claims happened, but we were there. We know it's not true. I think she's having a breakdown of some kind. her plates full- my brother is on drugs and she and my dad are fighting a lot, but it's like she's taking it all out on me. Now, she's cancelled our shower and told me she wants nothing to do with me anymore. I'm almost at the point that I don't want anything to do with this crazy version of her either. I just want my mom back.

 

[Hann12]

Congratulations stevensmummy!

Anna - I'd sit down and talk to him like you have with us, just lay it out there with how you are feeling and hopefully things will get resolved much better. Men don't show their excitement as much as we do, especially over the little things we buy. I have so far bought everything for this baby, including all the decoration etc for the nursery and DH has said its nice but he's not really bothered to be honest! It could look like anything and he would have said that! I struggled to get him to talk about baby names, we agreed on our boy name but not a girls name. He just couldn't be bothered to think about it like its a trial. Finally I just said that I needed to get it resolved in my mind what they would be called if its a girl and we agreed a name but I wouldn't say that I left the conversation feeling like he loved the name, it was just like he accepted it. Its annoying but I really think thats how men can be. They get excited about cars and stereos instead lol

Sass - I don't even know what to say, I'm just so sorry that your mum is being like this. Its really rubbish to take everything out on you. The only thing I can suggest is backing off and leaving her to it and hoping she comes to her senses. It sounds like it would be better for you to have someone else organise the shower even if she hadn't cancelled, she clearly has a lot on her plate. Really hope she changes her attitude soon