When I initially went into labour I just had a constant cramp like pain (but obviously much worse than normal cramp lol) which didn't go away for about 3 hours! I didn't think I was in labour because I expected it to come and go which it didn't initially. The midwives then sent me for a bath and it was while I was in the bath that I remember the pains starting to come and go. By the time I got out of the bath the contractions were more steady with the time in between being pretty much pain free but by that time I was already 4 hours into labour and after finally convincing the midwives to examine me because I was knew I was in labour even though they kept saying I wasn't and I was 8cm dilated! X
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When I initially went into labour I just had a constant cramp like pain (but obviously much worse than normal cramp lol) which didn't go away for about 3 hours! I didn't think I was in labour because I expected it to come and go which it didn't initially. The midwives then sent me for a bath and it was while I was in the bath that I remember the pains starting to come and go. By the time I got out of the bath the contractions were more steady with the time in between being pretty much pain free but by that time I was already 4 hours into labour and after finally convincing the midwives to examine me because I was knew I was in labour even though they kept saying I wasn't and I was 8cm dilated! X
Sav- that happens to me a lot when I overdue it, actually it feels like it doesn't take much these days for that to happen. I fluctuate between feeling like you described while other times the tightening lasts a minute or so and relaxes in between. I took an espsom salt bath the other day when I felt like I was really tight like that and it wouldn't go away and it really helped. The magnesium in the epsom salt is a smooth muscle relaxer and I felt a million times better after. It sounds like everyone's labor is different, but for me the contractions would last for about a minute followed by complete rest until the next one, just slowly getting stronger in intensity with less time in between.
Had my ultrasound this morning, everything looks great. Baby is head down and measuring roughly 4lbs 11 oz (39%). Looks like I will get my wish of baby being over 7lbs 
. The doctor was a jerk though. After he tells me everything looks great, he proceeds to tell me that he recommends weekly ultrasounds until the end. So I asked him if everything looks ok, why do I need such close monitoring. His response? Because the research shows that weekly ultrasounds when you are of advanced maternal age greatly reduces the chances of fetal demise. ??????? Thanks asshole, nice bedside manner. I'm basically the last person that needs to be reminded that bad things can happen but honestly, I just don't and can't live like that. If everything looks fine I guess I just don't see the need to keep scanning unless something new comes up and my midwife has a concern about something. Then when I told him this pregnancy was a FET from an IVF cycle when I was 35 (I'm 38 now) he suddenly changed his tune and said never mind I don't need anymore further monitoring because they care more how old I was when I conceived him not how old I am now. So within a five minute conversation he went from trying to convince me to have weekly ultrasounds just in case my baby might die to have a nice life everything looks great. Jerk.
. The doctor was a jerk though. After he tells me everything looks great, he proceeds to tell me that he recommends weekly ultrasounds until the end. So I asked him if everything looks ok, why do I need such close monitoring. His response? Because the research shows that weekly ultrasounds when you are of advanced maternal age greatly reduces the chances of fetal demise. ??????? Thanks asshole, nice bedside manner. I'm basically the last person that needs to be reminded that bad things can happen but honestly, I just don't and can't live like that. If everything looks fine I guess I just don't see the need to keep scanning unless something new comes up and my midwife has a concern about something. Then when I told him this pregnancy was a FET from an IVF cycle when I was 35 (I'm 38 now) he suddenly changed his tune and said never mind I don't need anymore further monitoring because they care more how old I was when I conceived him not how old I am now. So within a five minute conversation he went from trying to convince me to have weekly ultrasounds just in case my baby might die to have a nice life everything looks great. Jerk.
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Geez, what a sensitive doctor...
It's amazing how insensitive doctors can be sometimes. I get that this is their job and all but.. we're more than patients and fetuses. We're actual people and our children.
That said - glad to hear everything looks great and your bub is in a good position! My next u/s is in a week - I *think* that will be my last one until we actually meet!
So, it's been a few weeks since we last touched base on this - how we all doing with names? I think we finally landed on one this week!
That said - glad to hear everything looks great and your bub is in a good position! My next u/s is in a week - I *think* that will be my last one until we actually meet!
So, it's been a few weeks since we last touched base on this - how we all doing with names? I think we finally landed on one this week!
Her name is Chloe 
Middle name is still slightly up in the air. It's down to 2 or 3 choices, and I told my wife that she can pick. Peanut's middle name will be my middle name (it's a middle name that a lot of people in my family have and one that I've always wanted to pass along to one of my kids) so I figured it's fair that she choose this baby's.
Middle name is still slightly up in the air. It's down to 2 or 3 choices, and I told my wife that she can pick. Peanut's middle name will be my middle name (it's a middle name that a lot of people in my family have and one that I've always wanted to pass along to one of my kids) so I figured it's fair that she choose this baby's.
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I like Chloe!
We're still right where we've been this whole time, with a short list of middle name maybes.
We're still right where we've been this whole time, with a short list of middle name maybes.
Chloe is a gorgeous name was one of our top 3 if we were having a girl. We are no where near closer to picking a name. We went away for our anniversary on Sunday overnight and had 3 separate arguments over it. My husband still isn't budging what so ever on the 1 name he likes and won't even discuss anything else. He said I got to choose our daughters name so he should get to pick our sons name. Difference is, he liked the name I picked for our daughter amd I don't like the name he is trying to pick for our son and it's a name I'll need to call him forever so I'm not settling on it.
I finished for maternity leave today, thank god!! I'm exhausted and my sickness has came back so I really just needed a break x
was one of our top 3 if we were having a girl. We are no where near closer to picking a name. We went away for our anniversary on Sunday overnight and had 3 separate arguments over it. My husband still isn't budging what so ever on the 1 name he likes and won't even discuss anything else. He said I got to choose our daughters name so he should get to pick our sons name. Difference is, he liked the name I picked for our daughter amd I don't like the name he is trying to pick for our son and it's a name I'll need to call him forever so I'm not settling on it.I finished for maternity leave today, thank god!! I'm exhausted and my sickness has came back so I really just needed a break x
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I'm glad you're getting a break!
You're right, compromise is one thing, but it's unreasonable to ask you to use a name you actually dislike. Our agreement with the middle name is that if we haven't found one by the birth, I'll get to choose, but even so I'll take his opinions into account instead of just choosing the one I love and he dislikes. Unless the labor is really bad, maybe
You're right, compromise is one thing, but it's unreasonable to ask you to use a name you actually dislike. Our agreement with the middle name is that if we haven't found one by the birth, I'll get to choose, but even so I'll take his opinions into account instead of just choosing the one I love and he dislikes. Unless the labor is really bad, maybe
Chloe is a gorgeous name was one of our top 3 if we were having a girl. We are no where near closer to picking a name. We went away for our anniversary on Sunday overnight and had 3 separate arguments over it. My husband still isn't budging what so ever on the 1 name he likes and won't even discuss anything else. He said I got to choose our daughters name so he should get to pick our sons name. Difference is, he liked the name I picked for our daughter amd I don't like the name he is trying to pick for our son and it's a name I'll need to call him forever so I'm not settling on it.
I finished for maternity leave today, thank god!! I'm exhausted and my sickness has came back so I really just needed a break x
was one of our top 3 if we were having a girl. We are no where near closer to picking a name. We went away for our anniversary on Sunday overnight and had 3 separate arguments over it. My husband still isn't budging what so ever on the 1 name he likes and won't even discuss anything else. He said I got to choose our daughters name so he should get to pick our sons name. Difference is, he liked the name I picked for our daughter amd I don't like the name he is trying to pick for our son and it's a name I'll need to call him forever so I'm not settling on it.I finished for maternity leave today, thank god!! I'm exhausted and my sickness has came back so I really just needed a break x
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Chloe is cute!!
Baby had two failed NST's this week. After the first failure we had an emergency ultrasound. After the second they said I should just wait until Tuesdays scheduled appointment. I'm worried and waiting.
I think I need to start my maternity leave within the next two weeks so I'll get that process started immediately. I'm exhausted with work right now.
Baby had two failed NST's this week. After the first failure we had an emergency ultrasound. After the second they said I should just wait until Tuesdays scheduled appointment. I'm worried and waiting.
I think I need to start my maternity leave within the next two weeks so I'll get that process started immediately. I'm exhausted with work right now.
Oh no! What is an NST? And what does a fail mean? X
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Bet that's a relief to be done with work Tess! I pushed mine back a fortnight stupidly - so rather than finishing on the 11th of this month it's now the 25th. Call me crazy 
I guess I'd rather the time when my babies here rather than before but I am exhausted and every day is becoming harder. What leaving present did they get you?!
Not too sure what an NST is ladybrown, hope everything is ok?
I love the name Chloe too. We finally set Layla in stone for our little girl, yay! I have suggested Layla Chloe as her full name, middle name is still proving to be a pain in the bum! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
I guess I'd rather the time when my babies here rather than before but I am exhausted and every day is becoming harder. What leaving present did they get you?! Not too sure what an NST is ladybrown, hope everything is ok?
I love the name Chloe too. We finally set Layla in stone for our little girl, yay! I have suggested Layla Chloe as her full name, middle name is still proving to be a pain in the bum! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated
Lady brown- I'm sorry to hear that. Failed meaning the baby didn't move the appropriate amount of times or have a spike in heartrate? Not failed meaning the baby's heartbeat was decelerating right? I hope it turns out to be nothing. Maybe it was just an off/quiet period? I can picture that happening to me with the way this baby moves compared to how my son moved. Im assuming because you didn't say otherwise that everything looked ok on ultrasound?? Glad you will be starting maternity leave soon. How did the move go?
Layla is beautiful!
Tess- I hear ya on the name front. That's pretty much exactly where we were, except I eventually came around and agreed to the name she loves. But I only think it's Ok. I hated it at first, but it's growing on me slowly and feeling like it's 'ok' I've realized is going to be as good as it gets. That in and of itself feels a little sad. If I still hated it I wouldn't be compromising, but since it's slowly growing on me, I caved and stopped pushing the 2-3 names I loved. I have a coworker with 7 boys and she has named a bunch and her husband has named the other bunch and she said some of her husbands choices she didn't like at all but in time she grew to love the names because she obviously loved the babies and now couldn't imagine their names as anything else. I'm counting on that to be true for me and that some day I'll love his name as much as my wife does. Like I said, if I absolutely hated it, I wouldn't be compromising, but I've moved from hating it, to feeling like it's I guess ok. I'll write it here at some point, but not for awhile. I can't say it out loud yet in fear my feelings are going to sway back to not being ok with it.
Layla is beautiful!
Tess- I hear ya on the name front. That's pretty much exactly where we were, except I eventually came around and agreed to the name she loves. But I only think it's Ok. I hated it at first, but it's growing on me slowly and feeling like it's 'ok' I've realized is going to be as good as it gets. That in and of itself feels a little sad. If I still hated it I wouldn't be compromising, but since it's slowly growing on me, I caved and stopped pushing the 2-3 names I loved. I have a coworker with 7 boys and she has named a bunch and her husband has named the other bunch and she said some of her husbands choices she didn't like at all but in time she grew to love the names because she obviously loved the babies and now couldn't imagine their names as anything else. I'm counting on that to be true for me and that some day I'll love his name as much as my wife does. Like I said, if I absolutely hated it, I wouldn't be compromising, but I've moved from hating it, to feeling like it's I guess ok. I'll write it here at some point, but not for awhile. I can't say it out loud yet in fear my feelings are going to sway back to not being ok with it.
Oh no! What is an NST? And what does a fail mean? X
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An NST is similar to monitoring during labor. They strap two monitors to your bump to measure contractions and heart rate. Some also have you push a button when baby moves. You do it for at least twenty minutes, longer if necessary for a good reading. It can show whether and how hard you're contracting, how baby is responding to the contractions, and it gives a better overall look at heart rate than just a quick Doppler reading. They're a good way of measuring how baby is doing, and failing usually indicates that an ultrasound is needed to see what's causing the problem and whether baby is safer out than in. My midwives do them routinely the last few weeks of pregnancy but not all offices do.
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Oh I know now. I had the same thing at 27 weeks and had to press that button, got a print out at the end - was scary! Hope all is well ladybrown they might decide to get her out sooner rather than later 
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