Hello Ladies, I'm new here but I regularly lurk around TTC forums. I decided to sign up because this has a wonderful section dedicated to waiting to conceive!
DH and I agreed when we got married 5 years ago, that we would wait 5 years to get pregnant. We decided on life goals to achieve together before TTC and we've reached them all! We've discussed TTC at length, we've discussed names, parenting techniques, even down to how we want to decorate the spare room as our nursery. My heart soars during every conversation! However.. when it actually comes down to BDing, DH has a complete change of mind. He'll be happy and giddy to discuss TTC with me, how our lives will be during and after pregnancy, how he doesn't want to be an "Old Dad" etc., all throughout AF, during the time leading up to ovulation and then after ovulation.
I understand that talking about it and actually doing it are two completely different things, but I can't help feeling like every month I am on this emotional rollercoaster, soaring so high while we plan to TTC, then completely heartbroken when he backs out of it.
This may just be a rant, but I hope there are at least some sympathetic souls who can understand or relate to where I'm coming from. From now on I'm not going to engage in any planning-talks with him, I can't take feeling so hopeful and then plummeting down month after month (6 months of this so far!) It may just be that he needs some extra time to acclimate to actually doing it, and I am fine to give him that time. I'm not a patient person, but I want more than anything for us to do this together.
Anyone else in a similar boat, or have been before? What did you do to help your DH's fears?
DH and I agreed when we got married 5 years ago, that we would wait 5 years to get pregnant. We decided on life goals to achieve together before TTC and we've reached them all! We've discussed TTC at length, we've discussed names, parenting techniques, even down to how we want to decorate the spare room as our nursery. My heart soars during every conversation! However.. when it actually comes down to BDing, DH has a complete change of mind. He'll be happy and giddy to discuss TTC with me, how our lives will be during and after pregnancy, how he doesn't want to be an "Old Dad" etc., all throughout AF, during the time leading up to ovulation and then after ovulation.
I understand that talking about it and actually doing it are two completely different things, but I can't help feeling like every month I am on this emotional rollercoaster, soaring so high while we plan to TTC, then completely heartbroken when he backs out of it.
This may just be a rant, but I hope there are at least some sympathetic souls who can understand or relate to where I'm coming from. From now on I'm not going to engage in any planning-talks with him, I can't take feeling so hopeful and then plummeting down month after month (6 months of this so far!) It may just be that he needs some extra time to acclimate to actually doing it, and I am fine to give him that time. I'm not a patient person, but I want more than anything for us to do this together.
Anyone else in a similar boat, or have been before? What did you do to help your DH's fears?