Entering the world of Assisted Conception...like it or not...

[miranda007]

Oh Hiker that's so exciting!!!! Don't worry about the egg retrieval it was no big deal! They give u good drugs lol. I only got mild cramping - just make sure u have a hot water bottle at home. You'll be fine.

And when you're pregnant, Smile is right, it won't matter how it was created... I don't even think about it.

 

[Hiker1]

Thank you for your encouragement. I just woke up with a slightly anxious feeling in my belly, like am I doing the right thing? What if iui worked this cycle? But then again, what if it works too well? Or what if it doesn't work at all? So I'd be back to the drawing board again and 2 months further before I'd get thus chance again. Sigh.

Smille, the egg retrieval Tuesday, and I'll either have them put back Friday (day3) or Sunday (day5). She said she'd prefer day 5. Not sure why? I'm going to refrain from consulting Dr. Google about ivf and stay blissfully unaware. Just need to stay calm.

 

[Smille24]

I think day 5 makes more sense bc it gives more time for things to develop and give you a greater chance. I think day 5 is the norm. I am very excited for you to go ahead with this. Yes, it's a big step forward but your chances of success are SO MUCH greater. Are they putting 1 or 2 fertilized eggs in? It sounds like your dr is very knowledgeable and really listens to you. Good luck Tues!

Yes, stay off of Dr. Google. I haven't used it much bc there are so many horror stories and I can't handle it. It will only lead to added stress. I think you know you're doing everything you can. Just breathe and everything else will fall into place.

 

[Hiker1]

Thank you Smille for your continued words of encouragement. You have been so nice through all my drama these past few months. I wish I could meet you and give you a great big hug!!!

The doctor said she would not put more than 2 back in, and that putting in 2 doesn't necessarily increase your chances. I am pretty sure she said putting in 2 will give us a 30% chance of twins though (which I still don't think is that high - like my mom said, that's 70% chance it won't be). I think she also said often people will start with 1, then if that doesn't take, then the next month try 2. Or if we do day 3, I think she recommended putting in 2 then, but 1 on day 5. I can't remember - she said a lot of stuff though! She's actually not my regular doctor. She was filling in for him while he was away for a few days. Not sure if mine would have recommended IVF this round or not. But I have to trust her (that's been a huge transformation in myself throughout this process - letting go and letting others take charge).

I am not sure what we'll do - I think this is a one day at a time thing, and just wait and see how many are actually viable. I'm trying to prepare myself that they will all shrivel up and die and we'll be told we can't have children.

In the meantime, just need to get through the egg retrieval first.

 

[MMW430]

When we did IVF, we put one embryo back in with our fresh transfer. I was really on the fence between one or two, but ended up being glad I followed medical advice and only doing one, because it worked and we had one baby. Twins (or more had the embryos split) wasn't something I would have necessarily wanted.
However, had it not worked, I would have been so mad at myself for doing only one. It's such a hard decision.

 

[lemon_tree]

This is really exciting news, Hiker! I'm so so so hopeful for you. 7 follies is awesome, and I can't wait to hear how this all goes! Rooting for you so hard. They will not shrivel up, and all you need is one or two. Whatever you decide is best for you, we're with you all the way.

 

[Smille24]

Do whatever feels right in your heart. If twins are something you are absolutely not comfortable with, don't take that chance. You will have a baby, you have a great dr and they will get you pregnant. It's just a matter of time.

 

[miranda007]

7 is a great number of follies. With what I know about IVF, women who get crazy egg numbers on the sims most eggs don't do so well. So you're better to have smallish numbers. Yes stay off Dr Google (he's sometimes that hack of a Dr from the Simpsons!!) I love that you're trusting your Dr. It feels good to let go.. They're the experts. You're doing the right thing! Day 5 is better because the eggs have had more time to develop so they can see a bit more clearly which is the best to put in. In saying that, plenty of people have successful Day 3 embryos transferred and they've had beautiful babies. The people under the microscopes.. this is what they do.
Good luck it's an exciting time for you to be moving forward. Smile is right.. do what your heart says in regards to putting two in. Personally twins wasn't something I wanted (I would have obviously been happy if it split) I just know there's a few more complications with twins and they have the tendency to premature.. And you're a bit more likely to need a c section.. and I wanted (hopefully to be able to have a few babies)... BUT in saying all that there's so many amazing ladies on here who have twins and they're so happy and there hasn't been any dramas with them coming early.. AND twins.. even thought it would be busy, they always have that special bond and they have each other to play with. My Mum said to me... tell them you're fine with twins "put a few in there you'll save two years" (as in you won't need to worry about having your 2nd baby so close together as they'll already have a sibling to keep them company. I hope this has helped.. to know my thinking.. Whatever you decide will be right for you guys.
xxx

 

[Hiker1]

So...bad news. Went in today to sign the papers and they told us our infectious disease blood panel won't be done in time for the egg cryo. And it's necessary by law to have that. So they said if you're going to do ivf, let's do it right, not jump the gun. So we still have the option of iui tomorrow or cancel this cycle altogether. I've spent the past 5 hours sobbing on and off. How do we decide? I want this so bad, and don't want to put this off any longer, but I don't know if I could bear selective reduction if we had multiples. Now my hubby is saying he isn't even ok with twins. Only if it was by accident - like an egg split - not due to freakish numbers of eggs from meds. So I feel like lots of things with marriage, if we aren't both on board, we gotta bail. This is too important for me to push for something he isn't comfortable with.

We also decided...I think...that no more injectables plus IUIs. We just can't keep doing this Russian roulette with babies. Ivf is more controlled and plus we could hopefully have embryos for the future. And with my DOR, whose to say in 2 or 3 years my ovaries would even respond? This way way, theoretically, we could have more kids later regardless of whether my stupid ovaries decide to stop working sometime soon or after baby #1.

This is so freaking emotional I can barely stand it.

 

[Smille24]

I'm so sorry hun. It is extremely important to be on the same page, especially with a huge decision like whether to chance multiples. I know you're hurting, take some time breathe, cry do anything to let it out. Lots of to you.

 

[lemon_tree]

Hiker, that sucks, I'm so sorry. What a huge emotional bait and switch. I hugely agree that it's important to be on the same page as each other, particularly with something as important as this, but I wish it didn't mean another delay for you. Either way, you've learned more about what you each want and have a plan for next cycle, and that's definitely something good.

 

[Hiker1]

Thanks guys. What a rollercoaster ride of emotions. I just don't know how much more I can take. We decided to cancel today. It sucks. I'm feeling some definite cramping - sure my eggs are dropping right as we speak - I feel it's such a waste. I am kinda ticked off they put me on this high of a dose again. After last month having 5, why would they keep me so high? Now we had to make this difficult decision and waste a lot of time. We are leaning toward ivf but maybe will try one more month of injectables...that is if they can get the meds right and not have me produce so many so it's not so risky. I left a message to speak with the doctor so I guess I have to wait to see whether they recommend trying this once more or just move onto IVF.

Thanks so much for your support. I don't know what I'd do without having you guys to listen.

 

[miranda007]

Oh Hiker what a roller coaster of emotions you've been on. It's not fair is it? Yeah I would be annoyed too that they didn't lower the dose of injectibles. And I know what feeling like you've wasted a whole month feels like.

 

[lemon_tree]

Hey girls, wanted to check in and see how you all are doing.

 

[Smille24]

Lemon- how are you? Any news yet on when you can do the iui?

Hiker- I've beem thinking about you and hope you're doing good.

 

[lemon_tree]

I'm good, had my MRI yesterday and get results in about 10 days.

Probably have to skip the IUI this cycle. My DH is traveling and he'll be gone during my usual O date.

 

[Smille24]

I'm so sorry to hear that . I know it seems like forever, but soon you'll be on your way to the iui.

 

[beemeck]

I suppose I can join you ladies here since I know most of you already! First IUI will be next month!! nervous and excited...!

 

[lemon_tree]

Good luck, Bee, I'm so excited for you!!

 

[beemeck]

so bummed that your DH has to travel for next month - we could have been first time IUI buddies My DH is cutting it close - he's traveling the 5-6 of April and our first US is scheduled for the 9th. I thought we were gonna miss it too. do your CHs being changed help anything??