fat or is it a baby bump

[CandyApple19]

I think there is a general feeling among of lot of us that we aren't allowed to speak honestly - we can only answer the question if the answer is "yes." There are times when what we speak WILL hurt someone's feelings, even if no ill-will is intended. I believe that's what Carly is talking about - we have to tip toe around and be careful about what we are saying so we don't accidentally hurt someone's feellings, but really, leading people along isn't doing them a lot of good.

It's like when people post tests that are clearly BFN or EVAP, but so many people want to be "positive" so they lead someone along to give them hope.

I think it is really sad we can't be honest on here.

But if you were that honest to someone in real life that are asking for your help they'd probably give you a smack, some of the stuff that was said is unbelievable! only cause its online it doesn't make it ok to do. Treat people how you would in real life, there is no difference.

 

[hotpinkangel]

I agree candyapple, I've noticed a few people on here are so blunt and negative, just they've been lucky enough not to say it to me. Regardless of what u might think, there's no need to be so blunt as to upset someone, either don't post or word it differently. I do agree that people should be honest though, if I was bleeding and worried I'd hate for someone to tell me it's normal just to make me feel better. That helps no one. Just a bit more thought before we type I think!

 

[mummy3]

candyapple, you are so right! Seriously, some people need to really think before they open their mouthsor use their fingers). You can very well tell someone whether or not you think they are pregnant, and you can give opinions either way but there is no place for name calling and meanness.

Soccer, good luck on friday. i hope you will keep us informed

Oh, and yeah my house can look like its been burgled come 5pm with 2 toddlers and a preschooler

 

[CandyApple19]

mine currently does! my son is throwing his toys everywhere.

 

[mummy3]

candyapple, you are so right! Seriously, some people need to really think before they open their mouthsor use their fingers). You can very well tell someone whether or not you think they are pregnant, and you can give opinions either way but there is no place for name calling and meanness.

Soccer, good luck on friday. i hope you will keep us informed

Oh, and yeah my house can look like its been burgled come 5pm with 2 toddlers and a preschooler

Should say I can spell and use punctuation, computer keeps playing up

 

[PrayinForBaby]

I think there is a general feeling among of lot of us that we aren't allowed to speak honestly - we can only answer the question if the answer is "yes." There are times when what we speak WILL hurt someone's feelings, even if no ill-will is intended. I believe that's what Carly is talking about - we have to tip toe around and be careful about what we are saying so we don't accidentally hurt someone's feellings, but really, leading people along isn't doing them a lot of good.

It's like when people post tests that are clearly BFN or EVAP, but so many people want to be "positive" so they lead someone along to give them hope.

I think it is really sad we can't be honest on here.

But if you were that honest to someone in real life that are asking for your help they'd probably give you a smack, some of the stuff that was said is unbelievable! only cause its online it doesn't make it ok to do. Treat people how you would in real life, there is no difference.

But when clearly she's not taking any advice given unless its "Ooo hun, I think you are!" then its just feeding into her....she very may well be, but we should be telling her to get to the dr and take care of herself...not saying "huh, yea I think you're pregnant by the looks of your tummy." Thats preposterous! Heck I know people that always LOOK pregnant just bc they are fat, people are shaped different so comparing "bumps" without knowing if you are indeed pregnant is silly. Clearly, she has a lot of growing up to do if she is pregnant because its pretty selfish to not be making her baby a priority and finding out properly. And if she's not pregnant, then she's neglecting her own body of finding out why she's had no menstrual cycle, gaining weight so rapidly, etc etc etc....it's irresponsible. This is not being mean, I would say this to my mom the same way. Grow up chick and get yourself taken care of.

 

[rainbows_x]

All right, can't take it. Gonna leave this forum, (because there's much better ones out there) so I can say what I want now. There's a bunch of whiny people here. "Oh wahhhh, you had a suspicion someone was lying and you said something, you're gonna hurt someone's feelingggsss." She's an idiot, and I know you're all thinking it. It's quite obvious she's either:

A) Trolling
B) Pretending she's pregnant because she's fat
C) ********

It's also quite obvious she's not ready for a kid. Look in the background of her pictures. Her house is an absolute wreck.

Have fun interacting with idiots.

P.S. If you type like a 9 year old, I can't take you serious. This goes for multiple people in this thread. Dumbasses.

maybe my hands type faster then my brain does and i am ready for a kid ok how many 15 or 14 year olds u see have a kid and u tell me that im not ready for one, im more mature and grownup then they are

Could you not sterotype all 14/15 year old mothers.
I know plenty of amazing young mothers (me included!)& for you to say you are mature than all of them is a bit bloody harsh IMO.

 

[hayley1982]

Well ive been gone awhile.i know i can put opinions forward quick some of those were harsh.the state of a house does not always mean a thing.our place is a tip most of the time but id rather use my time towards the boys.as long as the boys are ok and not in harm whats thd prob

 

[Wobbles]

To be quite honest Andella95 there's no excuse for Carlys post there's a difference between that and if you see a pregnancy test line so if you feel you should tip-toe around certain things your probably right nobody has the right to call out troll or throw around any of the A, B or C statements Carly did. Talk up for yourself don't speak for 'a lot of us' contact the admin via the forums PM feature or use the 'contact us'.

The forum is for SUPPORT if you can't offer that, add constructive posts or relate enough to have an opinion on a thread you have read then leave the thread, that or your using the wrong forum.

MANY a time people have been wrong, publicly wrong for attacking someone who came for advice only came across confused, not clearly explaining themselves etc so instant attack.

If you suspect someone is trolling ignore the post then use the report post feature and allow the admin to deal with it.

Your right Carly there are much better forums out there ones that don't act quickly on trolls, who don't care if you slate people and don't pay attention anywhere near as much as us.

 

[Louise1985]

good luck for friday

hope u get all the answers u are after xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[CandyApple19]

blah blah blah, this is stupid . i hope i wasn't being told i grow up prayinforbaby? or we're you clearly clarifying what you wanted to say to her?

 

[AP]

Any chance we can get back to SUPPORTING the OP here?

 

[caz81]

Its impossible to tell from looking at pictures, I know when I put on weight it all goes around my belly & nowhere else so if i eat too much I can look pregnant when im not!

The test lines you shown, look like evaps to me as they dont look thick enough or in the right place.

I hope that you get the answer that you want at your appointment on friday & things get sorted out for you whatever is going on

 

[Becci_Boo86]

Soccer124 needs all of our support its hard on her she dosnt know what going on. she went to the doctors last month and had bloods done and was neg. but had that test taken and got a blue line (pic in thread) she is just worried cos she has never felt like this before. she has been to a doctor since july so she hasnt just left this till now.

i hope friday goes ok for soccer124 i have see pics of her lieing down with her tummy as it is and it still sticks out. My tummy goes alot flatter when i lie down but that defo flab!! lol but i dont mind my wobbly bits cos thats me and mine look like wobbly bits. but Soccer124 doesnt so thats what makes me think its defo something more.

 

[jules1]

OK, I'm new to this thread and am quite shocked. I've only ever had supportive responses on these forums (even when I've clearly been going a bit mad!) so am surprised at some people's judgemental comments. From what I've read so far, it sounds like Soccer HAS been to the docs a couple of times and had negative results....but is questioning those results because her body seems to be telling her otherwise. She has an appointment for Friday - it's not an emergency so Friday sounds reasonable to me.

Judging whether someone is fit to be a mother based on the way they talk or type, their confusion, their differing approach to ttc or the background of their photos is downright snobby - being wealthy enough to afford a private scan, well spoken, tidy or anything else does not make anyone a better potential mother or not.

Do you know what I think Soccer? I think there's a possibility you are pregnant and having unusual responses from Doctor's appointments or tests. Rare but possible. I also think it's possible that you might not be pregnant - that maybe something else is causing the bloating or the missed periods. I think it's great you're going to the doctor on Friday and I hope either way you get some answers.
Try to ignore the nasty comments - people can be funny when they're ttc - it does crazy things to our heads and hormones.

Wishing you lots of luck xx

 

[hayley1982]

Either theres saying stuff by opinions and then theres down right nasty.i know you ladies think i can be opened mouth but i aint that nasty.theres putting things and putting things.ive put my views both ways on how it is.but it only matters what soccer wants and hopes for

 

[ncmommy]

Soccer-best of luck on Friday. I hope you get some answers no matter what they might be!

 

[Wiggler]

Soccer - Wishing you lots of luck for your appointment on Friday, I hope everything goes well x

 

[Mummy2B21]

bump

 

[mommytoTandE]

soccer... I wish you the best on Friday at you appt. I hope you get some answers. This is a great forum... I hope you are ok.