My last pregnancy he came to almost ALL of the appointments and for my gender ultrasound his parents and my mom came. I hated having everyone there for the gender ultrasound, it was too overwhelming and DH is a "Johnny raincloud" and knows how to ruin good news. Tech,"Congratulations it's going to be a boy," parents clapping and smiling, hubby, NO EXPRESSION--boring. Stay home.
He's such a worry wart, every appointment he came to, he just griped," I hope this baby will be healthy", "I hope we can afford to give it a great life", "I hope I'll be around to see him graduate," don't get me wrong these are ALL rational thoughts, but EVERY appointment? He would say these with a frown on his face and in a very somber, depressing way, while I'm trying to be excited and enjoy seeing my baby on the ultrasound screen.
I don't want negative Nancy's, Debbie downers, and Johnny rainclouds around during my happy time. 9 months is a long time for a mom and when you get those couple "peek a boo" ultrasounds to see what your precious baby looks like in your stomach, you want to capture that moment and hold it close to your heart--not hear someone griping in the background.
This pregnancy I didn't invite him to the first appointment and I won't for the others. Unless he comes out and says "hey babe, can I go to the next appointment?" I'll just keep my appointments quiet.
Wow, I went on a rant there, I guess you can tell I'm a tad frustrated with DH, he asked me if we could try for another baby and I agreed, I got my BFP and showed him the test and he was more concerned with painting our shed, so I won't force him to be involved.