Annie77
Cautiously expecting
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I will just keep this short but really need to get this off my chest.
My husband did not want any more children after 2nd daughter and although I did, I didn't rock the boat and just got on with it.
In january 2010 we applied to the local fostering/adoption agency to become respite carers for children with disabilities. It has been a long slog and this January we moved to another agency as the original one was deadly slow and disorganised.
It came to light in July, after a huge amount of training and interviews etc that the agency will stop any respite placement should the foster carers have another birth child - even if the carers, child and family wish to continue. Because my hubby didn't want another baby I didn't give it too much thought, if anything it reinforced the idea that I would not be getting pregnant again.
However - we had a genuine oopsie in august followed by a very upsetting ectopic and methotrexate treatment. We didn't tell our social worker as we didn;t see why we should as it didn't change our mind about fostering. However, my husband is now agreeable to having another (last) baby and so I intend to stop using protection next cycle.
I want to have a baby but I also want to provide respite care (roughly 1 weekend in 6). Due to my medical background we are likely to be matched with a child with severe disabilities but if we are both keen and the parents are happy - where is the harm?
I feel guilty going to the approval panel tomorrow but feel that even if I could give 6 months worth of respite, it would be worth it to the family? Am i right or am I just being deceitful??
My husband did not want any more children after 2nd daughter and although I did, I didn't rock the boat and just got on with it.
In january 2010 we applied to the local fostering/adoption agency to become respite carers for children with disabilities. It has been a long slog and this January we moved to another agency as the original one was deadly slow and disorganised.
It came to light in July, after a huge amount of training and interviews etc that the agency will stop any respite placement should the foster carers have another birth child - even if the carers, child and family wish to continue. Because my hubby didn't want another baby I didn't give it too much thought, if anything it reinforced the idea that I would not be getting pregnant again.
However - we had a genuine oopsie in august followed by a very upsetting ectopic and methotrexate treatment. We didn't tell our social worker as we didn;t see why we should as it didn't change our mind about fostering. However, my husband is now agreeable to having another (last) baby and so I intend to stop using protection next cycle.
I want to have a baby but I also want to provide respite care (roughly 1 weekend in 6). Due to my medical background we are likely to be matched with a child with severe disabilities but if we are both keen and the parents are happy - where is the harm?
I feel guilty going to the approval panel tomorrow but feel that even if I could give 6 months worth of respite, it would be worth it to the family? Am i right or am I just being deceitful??
