feel like giving up

[scollins04]

hi all
I'm so depressed right now all I want to do is cry but I'm stopping myself from doing so
I feel like giving up ttc and try and come to terms with the fact I wont ever complete my family

this month marks my 7th year ttc#2 with a miscarriage in may and july

daughter keeps wishing on birthday candles, stars, wishbones and even has wrote to santa asking for a baby brother and it kills me I cant give her that

I have been experiencing some symptoms of pregnancy this cycle and I'm due tomorrow or thurs so tested this am with fmu and its again so will expect as per usual

 

[BSelck24]

Didn't want to read without offering a little support!! Don't lose hope!

Have you seen a Doctor about possible infertility issues? What have they diagnosed?

 

[happymrs]

Hi scollins04,

I know that feeling very well, I too feel like giving up after ttc for 3 and a half years for my first baby. 7 years is such a long time.

Only you can know when it is the right time to stop, I know its not right for me as if I have a month 'off' I still now when I'm ovulating and can't stop thinking about 'what if this is THE month!' .

I wish you all the luck in the world. x

 

[lauralynn3boy]

I am right there with you! So sorry! I have been TTC for 3 years. MC in October. I feel like giving up. I have gained weight so I feel like just going on a diet but I am too depressed to lose weight....all I do is eat...

How old are you? I'm 34. So, I'm thinking I might not have any eggs left. The crazy thing is I conceived in my 20's right away.
Hugs and know you aren't alone.

 

[tommyg]

Only you can decide when you have hit the end of the ttc road. 7 years is such a long time. I've been trying 4 years I can't imagine me still trying in another 3. My age alone would rule it out.
I think I would ask your GP to at least help you find out what the problem is. Then you will know if it is even possible for it to happen for you.

 

[scollins04]

hi thanks for replies ladies
Ive been keeping offline while af was here couldn't face it plus a friend in usa was due 3rd baby which she has just had via C-section she named it oopsy all pregnancy as wasn't planned

drs cant do nothing as tests show were both fine just I am overweight so dr blames that and wont think of treatment until I lose weight which as laura has said it hard to diet when your depressed but I don't feel like eating much

so kinda in limbo until my weight comes down and dr thinks when it is down ill conceive naturally and wont miscarry this time

if anyone wants to sort of be diet buddies or just a friend to say "oi no junk food" when your having cravings ect and work through this then just pm me please

 

[scaryface]

Hi Sorry to hear all this.

I have a DD from a previous relationship, but my DH has azoospermia and we need to do artificial insemination which is horrendously expensive. I feel so guilty every month its a BFN.

I am also slightly overweight and used to eat horrendously unhealthy. I've now started eating better, but mainly because I want to concieve rather than anything else. I had a miscarriage twice as well as my DD so I KNOW it can happen.

Good luck. xx