Feel like I'm the only pregnant woman in the world, who CAN'T get any :(

[FlatShoes]

"flacid men tails"

hahahha

Soft cocks are so pitiful! They really do look pathetic. I just want to give them a little flick and say 'cheer up little man'.

In fact, I might.

 

[JaymeeBee]

aww hun, i know ho you feel. my hubbi wont touch me, he thinks its weird with me having a baby in there. he called me 'boom boom' as in 'fatty fatty boom boom' i know hes joking but sometimes i think he means it. i'm very insecure and have always been a small size 8 so have found it difficult with my body changing and he doesnt help the situation.

i'm also concious about my boobs, they've always been small and he was chuffed when at the beginning they got a bit bigger but now keeps saying they look small. (yeah thanks babe). its probably because my belly is bigger in comparason. but it makes me feel bad. he also like to point out that bio oil wont work against stretch marks and points out every little mark on my body. i'm gonna end up with no slef confidence by the end of this ay.

sorry that didnt really help. but i know how u feel hun xxx

My Nicholas is the same! He says my head looks like a pumpkin since becoming pregnant. If he catches me getting dressed he makes this weird face and then acts like a stranger accidentally walking in on someone in a dressing room.

The things our men are saying (and in my case doing) are not good for our self esteem

aww hun thats not nice. and no it's not doing much at all for our self esteems at all.

i sometimes have to ask him to touch my bump so he can feel her kicking but he wont touch it very often.

its quite strange coz before my bump appeared he used to bang on about the fact that i had litterally no bump for ages. x

OMG Em,

My OH is like that too! I used to have to literally beg him to touch my belly when Peyton would kick. He'll do it every now and then, when he can tell I'm upset about her condition, but he never seems to do it when she is super active. My DD on the other hand loves to feel her baby sister's kicks.

Sometimes I cry about it, cuz when I was pregnant with my first DD I had no one to share her kicks with and wished I did. Then when I got pregnant this time I was initially excited at the thought I would have someone to share the experience with...how WRONG I was

aww hun bless ya. i just wanna give you a big squishy hug!!!

maybe its just a psychological thing that they just find it strange? i dont know. i worry that he's not gonna 'connect' with her, so to speak. but maybe it'll happen once they're born. i know that sometimes thats the case.

but i know what you mean, it defo isnt as i thought it was gonna be. he hasnt had much of an input into this pregnancy at all, even though it was planned.

my brother is having a baby with his girlfriend and he seems to complete opposit. he goes to the shop for her when she wants something, he helps her with housework, and he's so excited about being a dad, he even said he's carry the baby and give birth if he could so she wouldnt have to go through the pain, my hubbi wouldnt never do or say those things he's poo!!! x

Wow your brother sounds like an amazing man, his gf is very very lucky. Don't get me wrong I love my Nicholas and I know he means well (e.g. the Christmas gift), but he goes about things ALL wrong.

I know he is excited to be a daddy (well he's already a step dad, but this will be his first biological child). I just wish he would be a little more sensitive to my emotions.

Things he needs to realize:

1. I am fully aware of the fact I am not the size 7/8 he fell in love with and may never be again. I also realize that I have gained a lot of weight this pregnancy and don't need him pointing that out every 5 seconds.

2. I am a human being and just because I can't see my toes anymore, doesn't mean I don't still get the urge to be "touched" every now and then.

3. YES, his "alone time" does bother me, when he knows that I would take even just a little cuddle and a belly rub, if he would just offer it. Also a back rub would be nice, hehe.

and...

4. I would really appreciate it if he invested more time in this pregnancy. I really hate it, when he is home and I have an appointment and he chooses to stay home and lay around instead of come and support me. Then he has the audacity to ask me what's going on when stuff comes up. Then I have to say, well if you would have went then we'd both know.

Also he has the attention span of a squirrel, so if my explanations are longer then a minute, he gets fidgety and says, tell me about later

 

[JaymeeBee]

You poor ladies.

I am happy to not be getting any so can't sympathise there but some of your gentlemen folk are out of order. Ok, if they're honest enough to admit that the pregnant form doesn't turn them on or frightens them then it really is a shame as men need that visual turn on to, er, enable performance. HOWEVER, insulting your bodies and looks is out and out disrespectful and if 'alone time' is required it should be done discreetly and certainly not when you're around and locked out of the room so you know exactly what is going on!!

I suggest you make a point of having a good old laugh at their bodies and flacid men tails next time they are bathing or dressing, they might understand how you feel then. Arseholes.

I know my OH has alone time but have no idea when. Must admit, I've had a bit of alone time myself because I still get the urge now and then, I just don't want full .

I don't think I'm brave enough to try the laughing at his bits part though, but it would be funny.

Just pull the face he does to you then, fair is fair

If he asks what the face was for just deny all knowledge and then do the same next time.

 

[JaymeeBee]

"flacid men tails"

hahahha

Soft cocks are so pitiful! They really do look pathetic. I just want to give them a little flick and say 'cheer up little man'.

In fact, I might.

Do it and let me know what happens.

 

[MeAndMyShadow]

Arrrggghh! My DH has his fair share of "alone time" as well. I want some lovin too!! Men!

 

[KimmyB]

"flacid men tails"

hahahha

Soft cocks are so pitiful! They really do look pathetic. I just want to give them a little flick and say 'cheer up little man'.

In fact, I might.

Sorry I just nearly did a wee when I read this
sorry you girls are having a hard time with your OHs
I know that my hubby doesn't fancy me anymore (and the last time we had sex at about 34 weeks it was a logistical nightmare!) but atleast he is caring in other ways. If I were you I'd take Flatshoes' advice

 

[kittykittykat]

i know how you feel. what you are describing is exactly what iam going through. im praying things change when baby is born.

 

[mumtobeplus1]

Oh I really feel for you ladies, Im very lucky in that my hubby cant keep his
hands of me, The same as hes always been. He doesnt do 'alone time' and i
feel awful for you ladies who have to put up with their OH locking themselves
in the bathroom ect, think id feel so unwanted if my hubby did that

Me and hubby still go to the gym 4 times a week together, and he always
encourages me and tells me im doing well and that hes proud of me ect.
Hes never ever made me feel like im fat, or he doesnt fancy me ect.

Really sorry some of you ladies are going through tough times.

 

[LuvMyBoys]

, ladies!! I'm sorry your OH's are being this way. I can understand if they just aren't attracted but the hurtful comments aren't required. I am sure we are all well aware of how our bodies have changed without the mean jokes!! My DH sometimes calls me "fatty" (jokes, but whatevs!!) and yesterday he said that I seem to be eating more. When I asked why two weeks ago he said I hadn't been eating more, he said he was lying. WTF!!!

I agree with some of the others in that although I'd like some sex, it's just too damn hard with this big bump and all the weight!! We tried yesterday and it was just pitiful, not to mention I feel self-conscious about the new changes. Logistics, eh!! I'm glad I'm not the only one who prefers my 'alone time' nowadays...

 

[JaymeeBee]

Maybe I should try some "Alone Time" and lock him out of the bedroom...only thing is...I think he would be grossed out if anything. It's seems like a no win situation for me

I'm so pathetic I even tried dolling myself up one time after he came home from being gone all week. He didn't even comment on the fact I had tried to look half decent just to get his attention...needless to say I buried my embarassment/sorrows in a tub of cherry cheesecake ice cream that night...now that part was worth it

 

[rabbitswife10]

"flacid men tails"

hahahha

Soft cocks are so pitiful! They really do look pathetic. I just want to give them a little flick and say 'cheer up little man'.

In fact, I might.

 

[MiuMiow]

Oh dear... Actually, my gut reaction is knee the idiot in the happy sacks! Not too hard, you may want more babies but seriously, he's being a total prigg and there is no excuse whatsoever for being so mean.
I understand a baby on the way is hard for guys too and they all deal in their own ways, but there are way too many OH's on here that need a good slap up the head.

Let him buy you the elliptical, you can buy him a running machine, a wax (total body), a mani, a pedi, a haircut and colour (because why would you have to look at brown/blond/red hair with your sensitive vision?) Oh and elocution lessons and a course in Russian history (because let's face it, his conversation is a tad bit limited...)

Ok so the above is way overdone but you get the general idea: start ordering info on stuff and signing him up for any possible 'self-improvement' and don't be shy about being very insistent about these. You have put up with his imperfect self for so long, and he has made you realise that it is ok to push your partner in the direction of change... You could have yourself a lot of fun with this and it'll relieve some of your frustrations to have a good laugh...

But do knee him in the happy sacks too...

 

[minties]

If it's any consolation, my OH loves my pregnant body and still wont go near me with his willy!

I found out I was pregnant before my period was even due, and we've only had sex 3 times since then. We normally had sex 3 times a week!

He, however, is always SO encouraging when it comes to trying to get his rocks off any other way with my assistance...charming! Oh and also says if I'd like sex we can do it in the butt!

Men are just....weird...

 

[PurpleKisses]

Your OH DOES realize that if it wasn't for him, you wouldn't be pregnant, right??? I don't get how men can be so insensitive! My OH is in love with my pregnant body. I really wish he would say he was buying me an elliptical for Christmas! I'd tell him to shove it up his a**!

I've gained a good 40lbs since I've been pregnant and every time I mention my weight gain, he just says, "You're pregnant. You're beautiful and you're lose it when the baby gets here."

It really agitates me when "men" criticize a woman's pregnant body. Being that he's your OH, he should already know that you care enough about yourself to lose the weight....

 

[Raspberries]

Sorry to hear he said that, I doubt men think before opening their mouths! maybe he was joking about the christmas present or as the others have said, have you mentioned being worried about the baby weight? Cos he might think in his man-warped way that he's helping.

 

[Angel_dust]

Sorry to hear your OH is being a twit. My ex husband was the same about sex in pregnancy, unfortunately some men dont like it because they think they will hurt bubs and have some sort of concern, and some dont like it because they are just being idiots! But i do know how horrible and rejected it made me feel when he said no to sex all the time and pushed me away. That was 12 years ago and i can still remember it now!

As for the mentioning to you about losing weight after bubs is born,...how very dare he! how rude! How would he like it if you started making comments like that about him!


My OH does call me fatty but in a jokey way and pretends to count how many mini muffins i eat in a night...i do love my mini muffins .... and he says he still finds me attractive when pregnant, our sex life has got less than it was but only through tiredness and things like that. I think its a real shame that your OH has to be like this, I hope things get better for you soon xxx

 

[JaymeeBee]

Sorry to hear he said that, I doubt men think before opening their mouths! maybe he was joking about the christmas present or as the others have said, have you mentioned being worried about the baby weight? Cos he might think in his man-warped way that he's helping.

To be fair, I have probably mentioned, either in his presence, or during a random conversation, that I wouldn't mind losing some of the baby weight after I get my body back. However it was never at the top of my list, or something I planned to go nuts about. I found with my first DD, that breast feeding and eating healthier helped the weight come off at a good pace. I didn't exercise, but I had no vehicle at that time, so I guess in a way I was exercising by having to walk EVERYWHERE.

If he didn't say certain things (joking or otherwise), or avoid touching me altogether, aside from the occasional kiss goodbye or hug. Maybe than being told I was getting an Elliptical for Christmas wouldn't have been so insulting. I hate hate hate going anywhere with him right now because I feel like he looks at other women and wishes he wasn't stuck with me, his undesirable, over-sized ball-n-chain.

Do I think he was trying to be insensitive (about the Elliptical)...no, he's a man...God only knows what goes through their brains before they do and say the things they do. I know he means well, and wants me to be in good health and not give up on myself just because I will have two kids to take care of. If anything I wish he would understand that being pregnant is not easy, emotionally or physically. All I really want from him, is to feel like he still finds me attractive and not worry that I make him cringe.

 

[PurpleKisses]

Jaymee, I can't excuse his behavior simply because "he's a man". My OH would have hell to pay if he said anything, jokingly or otherwise, about my weight gain. He made the mistake of doing so early on (I was about 16 weeks or so) and didn't hear the end of it until he apologized. Also, I made a point to tell him that I'm carrying his child! It's not like I'm just sitting around eating cake and cheeseburgers all day, I'm gaining weight to support the life that him and I created.

He needs to think about what comes out of his mouth...it's called be a responsible adult. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't say anything out of line to his boss, so why say anything disrespectful to the woman that's carrying his child?!

There are just certain things I don't tolerate...and you shouldn't either. My OH already knows that since I give him lots of respect and consideration, I demand the same in return. If not, then there will be no "us". I'm not saying for you to go to that extreme, but you definitely need to put your foot down.

 

[JaymeeBee]

Jaymee, I can't excuse his behavior simply because "he's a man". My OH would have hell to pay if he said anything, jokingly or otherwise, about my weight gain. He made the mistake of doing so early on (I was about 16 weeks or so) and didn't hear the end of it until he apologized. Also, I made a point to tell him that I'm carrying his child! It's not like I'm just sitting around eating cake and cheeseburgers all day, I'm gaining weight to support the life that him and I created.

He needs to think about what comes out of his mouth...it's called be a responsible adult. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't say anything out of line to his boss, so why say anything disrespectful to the woman that's carrying his child?!

There are just certain things I don't tolerate...and you shouldn't either. My OH already knows that since I give him lots of respect and consideration, I demand the same in return. If not, then there will be no "us". I'm not saying for you to go to that extreme, but you definitely need to put your foot down.

Thank you for your post, it really made me think about things. You are definitely right, I do need to put my foot down a bit.

 

[PurpleKisses]

No problem, hun. I can relate to you in the sense that I didn't have DS's father there and this time around I was ecstatic to have an OH to share the experience with...so at first, when he would make little comments about my weight gain and seemed really insensitive, I would tell myself, "Well at least he's here.". Then I realized, that him being with me and staying with me while I'm pregnant isn't enough. It's not like he's doing me a favor, especially if he isn't going to be supportive. So, I put my foot down and demanded that he respect me, just as he wants me to respect him. I told him, that although I don't want to, being a single mom does not scare me because I did it with DS. I told him that I WILL NOT be disrespected, because it sets a bad example for my children. Although, he never made comments or acted out of order in front of DS, who's to say that it wouldn't happen in the future? He still has his moments, but he's been very supportive and loving since I told him how I felt.

He really needs to play more of a supportive role to you...especially with everything you've been going through with little Peyton already and the things that will happen after she's born. It's a team effort, and he really needs to stop being so selfish.

Lots of for you hun.