Feel like I'm the only pregnant woman in the world, who CAN'T get any :(

[JaymeeBee]

No problem, hun. I can relate to you in the sense that I didn't have DS's father there and this time around I was ecstatic to have an OH to share the experience with...so at first, when he would make little comments about my weight gain and seemed really insensitive, I would tell myself, "Well at least he's here.". Then I realized, that him being with me and staying with me while I'm pregnant isn't enough. It's not like he's doing me a favor, especially if he isn't going to be supportive. So, I put my foot down and demanded that he respect me, just as he wants me to respect him. I told him, that although I don't want to, being a single mom does not scare me because I did it with DS. I told him that I WILL NOT be disrespected, because it sets a bad example for my children. Although, he never made comments or acted out of order in front of DS, who's to say that it wouldn't happen in the future? He still has his moments, but he's been very supportive and loving since I told him how I felt.

He really needs to play more of a supportive role to you...especially with everything you've been going through with little Peyton already and the things that will happen after she's born. It's a team effort, and he really needs to stop being so selfish.

Lots of for you hun.

I feel myself breaking down today, because I realize that there is just so much that needs to change in this relationship and we only have 8 weeks left before little one is born.

I actually asked him this morning before work, if he ACTUALLY does love me, or if he just feels obligated to stay with me because of the kids. He looked at me like I was being stupid or something and said of course he loves me.

But I find myself thinking...Well why don't I feel it anymore??? I was a single mom with my DD for a while, than I met him and he...basically...swept me off my feet. We have always been inseparable, aside from him working out of town for weeks at a time. However, since getting pregnant and finding out Peyton needs surgery...he has been very distant, especially these last few months...since I've gotten huge.

Thankfully my self esteem isn't so low, that I would stay in an unhappy union for years just because I didn't want to be alone. The idea of raising two little girls alone, does scare me a bit, but I know others have done it - and done it successfully.

All I know right now is that me and him need to sit down and have a heart to heart, because we can't keep going in the direction we're going.

 

[PurpleKisses]

Yes, that would be the best thing. If he loves you, he should be more than willing to tell you how he feels. Sometimes men are afraid to show when they're worried, upset or stressed out...but your OH needs to know that you're there to help him cope with his fears. If anyone, he should be talking to you about how he feels and the apprehension he may have. Sometimes men don't understand that although we (women) are the ones doing most of the physical work to bear a child, it still is a team effort. We need them there to be supportive. For me personally, this pregnancy as been physically harder than my first but emotionally, it was easier because I know my OH was there to be supportive. Men often don't realize that a simple, unprovoked "I love you" or "How are you feeling today?" or "You're beautiful" can do wonders for a woman, especially when she's pregnant.

I really hope you and your OH can come to a resolution that would make both of you happy because happy parents=happy home. Both of your girls deserve to grow up in a home where they can look at mom and dad's relationship and say, "I want that when I grow up."...children can sense tension and ill feelings...and they know when somethings not quite right...