Feeling hopeless

[SoccerMomtoB]

34 yrs old TTC #1. 11dpo with BFN on 9,10&11dpo. Used mix of ClearBlue digital and FRER. AF due Sat, 6/11. Feeling really hopeless 😢

 

[2ducks]

Hi! How long have you been ttc? Everyone on this board gets a lot of highs and lows. I recommend joining some conversations and actively posting. I am turning 33 in one week and we have been ttc for 14 months, there have been many days where I have felt hopeless and sad but I find that posting on this board helps release some of that emotional tension. Good luck and I hope to see you around!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

im 31, been TTC #4 since 2008. Its such a hard journey.

 

[2ducks]

im 31, been TTC #4 since 2008. Its such a hard journey.

Hello, Please keep in mind that this is the ttc#1 forum which is exclusively for women who are ttc #1. For those of us who are struggling to ttc #1 this board is a safe haven. While I sincerely hope that you are able to finally have your fourth baby I intentionally stay primarily on the ttc#1 board so I don't have to read from women who have other children because honestly, some days it is hard. I guess what I am saying is look where you are posting.

Good luck to you and your family.

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

We just recently started trying but today I went to the bathroom and saw some blood. I'm rarely early and AF isn't expected until Saturday. Little cramping and very sore and tender breasts. I'm hoping its IB as today is 12dpo but I'm not sure. This whole thing is so confusing to me. I don't want to get my hopes up but I can't help but feel like I am pregnant. Any insight would be great. I'm trying to learn how this site works and follow along as much as possible!!

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

She was responding to my post. I am TTC #1.

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

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[Mrs. Atole]

im 31, been TTC #4 since 2008. Its such a hard journey.

Hello, Please keep in mind that this is the ttc#1 forum which is exclusively for women who are ttc #1. For those of us who are struggling to ttc #1 this board is a safe haven. While I sincerely hope that you are able to finally have your fourth baby I intentionally stay primarily on the ttc#1 board so I don't have to read from women who have other children because honestly, some days it is hard. I guess what I am saying is look where you are posting.

Good luck to you and your family.

BACK OFF, geez, i was just responding to her that shes not alone in her struggle. You think i some how cant relate to you because i have children? Its magically better trying for #4 than #1?

You must be ignorant, there is a HUGE difference in ttc #1 to #2 #3 and #4, WE have yet to experience motherhood and yet you have 3 kids, i'm sure your struggle is hard i dont mean to be mean but your comment on
"Its magically better trying for #4 than #1?" is just plain stupid !!!!

 

[Mrs. Atole]

im 31, been ttc #4 since 2008. Its such a hard journey.

hello, please keep in mind that this is the ttc#1 forum which is exclusively for women who are ttc #1. For those of us who are struggling to ttc #1 this board is a safe haven. While i sincerely hope that you are able to finally have your fourth baby i intentionally stay primarily on the ttc#1 board so i don't have to read from women who have other children because honestly, some days it is hard. I guess what i am saying is look where you are posting.

Good luck to you and your family.

i agree.

 

[Mrs. Atole]

We just recently started trying but today I went to the bathroom and saw some blood. I'm rarely early and AF isn't expected until Saturday. Little cramping and very sore and tender breasts. I'm hoping its IB as today is 12dpo but I'm not sure. This whole thing is so confusing to me. I don't want to get my hopes up but I can't help but feel like I am pregnant. Any insight would be great. I'm trying to learn how this site works and follow along as much as possible!!

I wouldn't let that feeling get to me if you just started ttc, stay positive !

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

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[mama.mouse]

Some days are harder than others hun xx thats why we have each other!

Remember, until AF comes you are still in the game!

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

This is ridiculous. Get off my thread if you are going to be rude, hostile and negative. She wasn't saying anything about it being better, easier or harder. She simply stated that we all go through things. I'm on here to learn and get some support. If you are going to rain on everyone's parade, please head over to that specific forum.

I am stressed out enough trying to conceive. I don't need any more.

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

Some days are harder than others hun xx thats why we have each other!

Remember, until AF comes you are still in the game!

Thank you!!! And your doggies are SO cute!!!

 

[gennifaire]

Last month was my first time trying for serious...we have always ttced but not hardcore. If it happened, it happened.

Well, that being said, I convinced my body I was preg. and when AF came I was sad. really sad. DH just hugged me.

Today, ive been sad because my body is being weird, so im trying to just stay positive. He saw me reading an e-book and on the forum, and he slide against me and hugged me and kissed my temple whispering "well be pregnant soon, dont worry."

Its so hard. so stressful. I dont think our partners know how much stress for us it can be!!

Just be honest, open minded - and just always always ALWAYS know you have women here who are in similar boats, same boats, or have been there before.

I started a ttc journal so when i am frustrated or angry or upset I can just type and rant it out and not fear saying something upsetting in the main forums or to hubby....

also, for the meanness...just because she is ttc#4 makes it no different. those who have experience going through it can help those of us who are new to ttc. she didnt say anything other then realx, take a breather. while i get it, please ladies....realx.

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

Last month was my first time trying for serious...we have always ttced but not hardcore. If it happened, it happened.

Well, that being said, I convinced my body I was preg. and when AF came I was sad. really sad. DH just hugged me.

Today, ive been sad because my body is being weird, so im trying to just stay positive. He saw me reading an e-book and on the forum, and he slide against me and hugged me and kissed my temple whispering "well be pregnant soon, dont worry."

Its so hard. so stressful. I dont think our partners know how much stress for us it can be!!

Just be honest, open minded - and just always always ALWAYS know you have women here who are in similar boats, same boats, or have been there before.

I started a ttc journal so when i am frustrated or angry or upset I can just type and rant it out and not fear saying something upsetting in the main forums or to hubby....

also, for the meanness...just because she is ttc#4 makes it no different. those who have experience going through it can help those of us who are new to ttc. she didnt say anything other then realx, take a breather. while i get it, please ladies....realx.

Heavier spotting today which has me convinced that AF is here 💔 I really thought differently but ... Is it like this each time? I don't how women continue to go through this. I had symptoms I've never had before. This sucks 😢

 

[gennifaire]

Yes. I try not to test til atleast 12dpo. It sucks but i figure when i get the bfp itll be worth it.

 

[2ducks]

OnErth&InHvn, why the hostile response???? Telling me to "BACK OFF"??? I am not saying that you can or can't relate to those of us who are ttc#1. If you read the rules on the top of the forum from the administration you will see that this thread is exclusively for women who are ttc#1, I was simply pointing out (in a friendly and non combative manner) that you accidentally responded in the wrong place. Everyone is welcome to read the ttc#1 forum but posting is reserved for those of us who are ttc#1. I specifically joined this particular community for this board so I could spend time with women who are trying for their first. Perhaps a more appropriate thing to do would be to send the OP a PM to show solidarity and support without violating the forum rules.

SoccermomtoB we all share threads in this community. One person starts a thread, many join in and often the subject matter of the thread changes all together! I have been exactly where you are many times. Some days are harder than others but I always find support here on BnB. I do hope you stick around and get to know everyone!

 

[BelleNuit]

I'm sorry your thread got derailed.

I'm on my 7th cycle ttc. Not as long as many people here, but certainly long enough that I've experienced highs and lows throughout the process. Some months I'm so hopeful it hurts, other months I have no hope at all

This month I'm trying to stay neutral and enjoy all of the wonderful things in my life. I've been trying long enough that I now realize that I have no control over this process. So there is no point in obsessing over it any longer.

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

I'm sorry your thread got derailed.

I'm on my 7th cycle ttc. Not as long as many people here, but certainly long enough that I've experienced highs and lows throughout the process. Some months I'm so hopeful it hurts, other months I have no hope at all

This month I'm trying to stay neutral and enjoy all of the wonderful things in my life. I've been trying long enough that I now realize that I have no control over this process. So there is no point in obsessing over it any longer.

I'm about to start my 2nd cycle. I know there really isn't room for me to be upset or disappointed given so many other have much more trouble. Its just a feeling I've never experienced before