Feeling hopeless

[BelleNuit]

I think there is space at any point to feel upset. When I first started trying the first couple months were very hard because I was so hopeful and certain it would happen right away.

Now I just feel resigned.

 

[sarah2211]

Same as BelleNuit, my first few cycles, I felt more disappointed. I had higher expectations that it would just happen quickly. As its gone on and had BFN month after month it isn't the same disappointment. It's more frustration and feeling hopeless.

Acknowledge how you feel. My DH, up until last cycle, had been so positive it would just happen. Now he's being realist about it. But also try not to let it get you too down. I hope it happens quickly for you

 

[lesondemavie]

You have every right to be upset. There is always someone who has it worse. That never means that how you feel is wrong. We all have been there and remember that feeling. My first cycle I was so sure I was pg. My third I broke down in tears, my fourth I sobbed on DH's shoulder. My sixth I bought a book, started a journal, and started making plans for tests. I wrote about how it wasn't so much that it has been 6 cycles, but the fear that it will be 6+ more. I think that fear is there along with the disappointment every time. Hopefully you won't have to go through any of that, but we'll all be here for you if you do xxx.

 

[KatO79]

SoccerMom I'm so sorry you're feeling hopeless I'm a former LTTTC'er and it took us 2 years + 3-4 months and a series of assisted conception events later to get our BFP. It can take up to 1 year to conceive and still be considered normal. Plus you have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. My best advice is not to get your hopes up super high each cycle and basically convince yourself you're pregnant, that'll just lead to a lot of heartache. If you're still not pregnant after 1 year of trying, then I would suggest you contact your GP and perhaps look into getting both you and your DH tested.

Wishing you lots of luck

im 31, been TTC #4 since 2008. Its such a hard journey.

Hello, Please keep in mind that this is the ttc#1 forum which is exclusively for women who are ttc #1. For those of us who are struggling to ttc #1 this board is a safe haven. While I sincerely hope that you are able to finally have your fourth baby I intentionally stay primarily on the ttc#1 board so I don't have to read from women who have other children because honestly, some days it is hard. I guess what I am saying is look where you are posting.

Good luck to you and your family.

Unfortunately 2ducks, I don't think this forum is only for those TTC #1 in the way you think as all members are welcome to comment on here. It is more geared to them TTC #1 yes, but everyone is free to comment and offer advice. Which can be super helpful as newbies to TTCing can get some good advice, pointers and suggestions by people that have been there themselves.

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time TTCing and that seeing other women with children can be difficult some days. Believe me, I get it! But if you're looking for a forum that's exclusively for those TTC #1 and you won't see others commenting that are pregnant or have children, than I'm afraid it doesn't exist, at least not on BnB.

I wish you all the luck on your journey

 

[2ducks]

SoccerMom I'm so sorry you're feeling hopeless I'm a former LTTTC'er and it took us 2 years + 3-4 months and a series of assisted conception events later to get our BFP. It can take up to 1 year to conceive and still be considered normal. Plus you have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant each cycle. My best advice is not to get your hopes up super high each cycle and basically convince yourself you're pregnant, that'll just lead to a lot of heartache. If you're still not pregnant after 1 year of trying, then I would suggest you contact your GP and perhaps look into getting both you and your DH tested.

Wishing you lots of luck

im 31, been TTC #4 since 2008. Its such a hard journey.

Hello, Please keep in mind that this is the ttc#1 forum which is exclusively for women who are ttc #1. For those of us who are struggling to ttc #1 this board is a safe haven. While I sincerely hope that you are able to finally have your fourth baby I intentionally stay primarily on the ttc#1 board so I don't have to read from women who have other children because honestly, some days it is hard. I guess what I am saying is look where you are posting.

Good luck to you and your family.

Unfortunately 2ducks, I don't think this forum is only for those TTC #1 in the way you think as all members are welcome to comment on here. It is more geared to them TTC #1 yes, but everyone is free to comment and offer advice. Which can be super helpful as newbies to TTCing can get some good advice, pointers and suggestions by people that have been there themselves.

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time TTCing and that seeing other women with children can be difficult some days. Believe me, I get it! But if you're looking for a forum that's exclusively for those TTC #1 and you won't see others commenting that are pregnant or have children, than I'm afraid it doesn't exist, at least not on BnB.

I wish you all the luck on your journey

From the administrator sticky at the top of the forum "The main forums can be a bit daunting, especially at busy times when we have a new post every second (and threads can end up at the bottom of the page within 15 minutes). This forum is an optional extra to anyone trying to conceive their first. The main TTC forum is open to everyone; where-as this forum is exclusively for first timers."

I don't believe I am mistaken.

 

[Mrs. Atole]

I believe this form is for only ttc #1 and i do welcome input from women with children but when you get a stupid comment like " Its magically better trying for #4 than #1?" is just plain stupid! and insensitive, as it is we are all stressed out about ttc #1 we dont need people rubbing it in our face they have 123456 kids. Get a grip people.

 

[2ducks]

I believe this form is for only ttc #1 and i do welcome input from women with children but when you get a stupid comment like " Its magically better trying for #4 than #1?" is just plain stupid! and insensitive, as it we are all stressed out bout ttc #1 we dont need people rubbing it in our face they have 123456 kids. Get a grip people.

I love how you always speak your mind and have no regrets! First off, if everyone was welcome to post and comment than what is the point of having a TTC#1 thread, that is the regular ttc thread?! I have seen women with other kids or who are expecting post practical advice, like info on charts, opinions on medication, diets/exercise routines etc and I have never batted an eyelash because this info is helpful and does not disrespect the ttc#1 safe space. When I see someone post a comment like "I'm so sorry you are having trouble conceiving your first, I am having trouble with my fourth" on the ttc #1 board that really irked me. I feel like that is being insensitive to the ttc#1 space and really many of us will feel lucky to have one baby let alone more than one! Also I don't appreciate someone lashing out at a perfectly respectful comment and then dirty deleting it instead of trying to work out our differences like adults. If other community members interpret the rules of the forum differently lets talk about it and figure it out. I am perfectly open to having an adult conversation that the whole community can learn from.

 

[SoccerMomtoB]

Ok ladies, I'm back from my honeymoon and guess what?! AF came day 1 of our trip ... What a freakin slap in the face that was ... I've got a new window coming in the next few days so we shall see if God blesses me or not ... Wish me luck!

Oh, and from now on, any negativity will be reported. I understand hormones are raging but I need all my fellow TTCers on one side here ... the side of support!

Thanks