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[HWPG]

i cant weigh in on porn, but when OH takes matters into his own hands (like if i'm away or something), our deal is he has to at least tell me he did it. that way, it's out in the open between us, i dont feel like it's a reflection on me/us/me not feeling good to him, and honestly i kinda get interested in hearing what he does to himself so maybe i can help out a little in the future.
maybe you could suggest watching it together (if you wanted to confront him but also make it seem like youre cool with it)

 

[asmcsm]

really off topic and random, but it has been bugging me and I'd love your opinions.

I have always said that I was okay with any guy I was with to watch porn/etc. I never thought that I would care. I was on OH's computer last night looking something up and saw that he had been watching porn earlier in the day. I immediately kind of freaked out. It made me sooo insecure. I know that its not something he does often, and I know that he doesn't like me any less, but it still totally weirded me out. I guess I kind of have to give him a free pass since he hasn't gotten any since AF showed up, and thats a long time for us, ha. Anyone else encountered this? Am I totally out of line to be feeling insecure?

I understand this. I would be insecure too. I don't mind if DH and I watch it together, but I think I would feel insecure if I found out he was watching it by himself without my knowing. I mean I know they're guys and they just do that kind of stuff, but I think it's hard not to get insecure.

 

[RobertRedford]

really off topic and random, but it has been bugging me and I'd love your opinions.

I have always said that I was okay with any guy I was with to watch porn/etc. I never thought that I would care. I was on OH's computer last night looking something up and saw that he had been watching porn earlier in the day. I immediately kind of freaked out. It made me sooo insecure. I know that its not something he does often, and I know that he doesn't like me any less, but it still totally weirded me out. I guess I kind of have to give him a free pass since he hasn't gotten any since AF showed up, and thats a long time for us, ha. Anyone else encountered this? Am I totally out of line to be feeling insecure?

I understand this. I would be insecure too. I don't mind if DH and I watch it together, but I think I would feel insecure if I found out he was watching it by himself without my knowing. I mean I know they're guys and they just do that kind of stuff, but I think it's hard not to get insecure.

Thats what makes me insecure. If it was something that we did together, than who cares, but he did it without me knowing and secretely, which makes me so insecure. Like he is trying to hide something.

 

[pdxmom]

Amanda i feel ya...im not sure i feel insecure but i dono wat it is i feel if he watches it without me so i started asking him whether he watched or not and then now i know exactly wen he wudve watched porn.... so i come bak and ask him and he agrees...i really dont mind him watching ti tho bcos i dont think tht reflects on our relationship...guys have a whole diff thing goin on hun...try not to feel so bad abt it bcos obvious it has nothing to do with u...i know its easier said tht done but i think if u take the initiative of watching porn together sometimes before u guys dtd.. i think their anxiousness goes down a little... i think they watch it more if they thinks its a no-no but if they think its ok then i think it doesnt entice them as much...like the forbidden apple

 

[HWPG]

i would have a problem if he watched it and then couldnt/wouldnt perform when i needed him. but if he watches it and then jumps you when he gets home, i say go with it.
if it bothers you, you should say something.

 

[BubsMom17]

The porn thing does not bother me at all! I could not care less! LOL!

Remember, like my DH says, it has nothing to do with you or the girl on TV. They see "sex" and that's what they like to see. They are visual and it's not a reflection on your relationship at all.

We watch it together all the time, and honestly, I have watched it by myself, too! Sometimes it's just fun.

Now, strip clubs I am NOT OK with, and obviously if it was becoming some sort of porn habit/addiction, that would be a different scenario.

 

[NDTaber9211]

OH! And Kevin got some of the bacterial cultures back, all were negative. His infectious disease doctor seems pretty certain that he thinks he has tuberculosis. His blood tested positive for it, but his x-rays showed healthy lungs initially. The doctor said sometimes it can thrive in other places, and in Kevin's case he think it is in his back/spine- which would make sense considering my poor love is in constant horrible back pain. Brings him to tears unless he's on his pain medication. They said it will take another 4 weeks to get the TB culture results back from his lymph node. But they don't think it is cancer- so yaaaaaaaaaaaay! They said his lymph node was necrotic I think? Not too sure what that means...

Thank god its not cancer! Hooray!

Can I join? I am on cd 19 of this cycle that started as a result of having a cp. I am 6 dpo.

I have had left nipple pain since 1 dpo and it seems to finally be getting better, nausea since yesterday (5 dpo), and bloating today. I really hope I am pregnant and it sticks this time. I know I had a cp in February 2011 and think I had 2 at the end of 2012 when my dh were ttc before our break.

I am nearly 40 and have 5 boys aged 19, 17 (on Sunday), Twins 7, and 3. My dh and I have been together since January 1992 and got married January 1997.

Welcome!

really off topic and random, but it has been bugging me and I'd love your opinions.

I have always said that I was okay with any guy I was with to watch porn/etc. I never thought that I would care. I was on OH's computer last night looking something up and saw that he had been watching porn earlier in the day. I immediately kind of freaked out. It made me sooo insecure. I know that its not something he does often, and I know that he doesn't like me any less, but it still totally weirded me out. I guess I kind of have to give him a free pass since he hasn't gotten any since AF showed up, and thats a long time for us, ha. Anyone else encountered this? Am I totally out of line to be feeling insecure?

I am really insecure about porn just because I am really insecure about myself. Porn always made me feel like I wasn't good enough. Good thing about DH is he is practically computer illiterate. He has no idea what he's doing when he tries to use the computer . So unless he is doing it at work using his phone, I really don't think he watches it.

My midwife called back, I explained my symptoms, the faint positive before then negatives and everything to her. She said I could possibly be pregnant even with my hpt not being positive after that faint positive and being 16-17dpo and that the sharp pains are normal for early pregnancy, however if they're more to one side it could be an ectopic or a cyst. In which case I should try and get in to get checked out. She said to just wait it out for the next week and see if I get a positive hpt.They were going to make an apt for her to give me an exam next Friday but I will be out of town, but she will be out of town for 2 weeks after so I had to make an apt with her coworker who's actually a Dr. for the 6th. Hopefully I'll have gotten AF or a BFP before I have to see him then.

I really hope everything turns out ok and you get a nice healthy My fingers and toes are crossed for you.

 

[RobertRedford]

Thanks, Ladies! Theres no performance issues, we had sex last night with no problem (if anything, it made him last longer) and I think I just needed to reassure myself that its so different, its so visual for them. I honestly think it makes him a little uncomfortable too, otherwise he would talk to me about it. I'm going to let it go. If he does it, then eh I cant stop him, I can just hope he isn't wasting too many little swimmers, hahahaha

 

[BubsMom17]

Thanks, Ladies! Theres no performance issues, we had sex last night with no problem (if anything, it made him last longer) and I think I just needed to reassure myself that its so different, its so visual for them. I honestly think it makes him a little uncomfortable too, otherwise he would talk to me about it. I'm going to let it go. If he does it, then eh I cant stop him, I can just hope he isn't wasting too many little swimmers, hahahaha

Maybe just think of it as him keeping his stash fresh for when BD time comes.

 

[RobertRedford]

Thanks, Ladies! Theres no performance issues, we had sex last night with no problem (if anything, it made him last longer) and I think I just needed to reassure myself that its so different, its so visual for them. I honestly think it makes him a little uncomfortable too, otherwise he would talk to me about it. I'm going to let it go. If he does it, then eh I cant stop him, I can just hope he isn't wasting too many little swimmers, hahahaha

Maybe just think of it as him keeping his stash fresh for when BD time comes.

LOL!

 

[asmcsm]

Maybe just think of it as him keeping his stash fresh for when BD time comes.

Haha! So true

Btw I didn't mention, this morning I ended up dumping an entire bowl of cheerios down the sink because after one bite because I thought I was gonna puke after taking a bite. Also, tried eating salad at work just now and it really wasn't tasting good at all but I made myself eat it anyway because I'm gonna pass out if somethings not in my stomach. Food aversions...hopefully my midwife is right and I'll get that bfp this week

 

[Disneybaby26]

Can you girls weigh in on this? I don't think its quite positive but maybe close?

 

[Disneybaby26]

As for the porn - I wouldn't worry about it at all as long as hes still giving it up to you lol...chances are he's thinking about you when he's watching it anyway! Porn makes DH uncomfortable, Ive suggested we watch it together before and hes not into it. I, on the other hand dabble in porn-o-land once in a while for fun What I really like is the dirty novels, gets me in the mood at night when im in bed and I assure you DH doesn't complain about that at all!!

 

[RobertRedford]

As for the porn - I wouldn't worry about it at all as long as hes still giving it up to you lol...chances are he's thinking about you when he's watching it anyway! Porn makes DH uncomfortable, Ive suggested we watch it together before and hes not into it. I, on the other hand dabble in porn-o-land once in a while for fun What I really like is the dirty novels, gets me in the mood at night when im in bed and I assure you DH doesn't complain about that at all!!

The OPK looks close, I'd say tomorrow is going to be positive.

I def got preggo last year while reading Fifty Shades of Grey...

 

[RobertRedford]

Maybe just think of it as him keeping his stash fresh for when BD time comes.

Haha! So true

Btw I didn't mention, this morning I ended up dumping an entire bowl of cheerios down the sink because after one bite because I thought I was gonna puke after taking a bite. Also, tried eating salad at work just now and it really wasn't tasting good at all but I made myself eat it anyway because I'm gonna pass out if somethings not in my stomach. Food aversions...hopefully my midwife is right and I'll get that bfp this week

Ooooh those sound like good signs! Crossing my fingers for you!!

 

[Disneybaby26]

As for the porn - I wouldn't worry about it at all as long as hes still giving it up to you lol...chances are he's thinking about you when he's watching it anyway! Porn makes DH uncomfortable, Ive suggested we watch it together before and hes not into it. I, on the other hand dabble in porn-o-land once in a while for fun What I really like is the dirty novels, gets me in the mood at night when im in bed and I assure you DH doesn't complain about that at all!!

The OPK looks close, I'd say tomorrow is going to be positive.

I def got preggo last year while reading Fifty Shades of Grey...

Thank you, I hope so!!

Haha I read the fifty books and loved them, horrible writing but I like reading the naughty stuff! Reading one similar now called Bared To Me. The writing is a little better but the same idea overall...guilty pleasure

 

[BubsMom17]

Kara - It looks really close. It will probably be POS tomorrow or the next day.

Oh, and I always found flipping them upside down helped me determine if they were pos or not. I don't know why... it just helped in some way...

 

[asmcsm]

Lol I when I read the true blood novels it helped get me in the mood lol shoot watching the show does too. Not because they're vampires lol, but there's an abundance of sex in the books and show. Hard not to get turned on by Alexander skarsgard too...

 

[RobertRedford]

LOL, OH looks exactly like Alexander Skarsgard

A friend of mine jsut sent me this text when I said that I was insecure about the porn thing. Totally made me feel better:
That's completely understandable, and this perspective is coming from joseph gordon levitt's new movie where he's pretending to be a guido instead of the nice jewish boy that he is, but think about chick flicks. They're basically relationship porn. During that hour and forty minutes, girls basically fall in love with the main guy, and become emotionally invested in the onscreen relationship. If the movie is done well, you should care why happens to them. But you're never imagining that you are the girl in the movie. And you don't wish that you were dating the perfect guy character instead of your boyfriend. I think porn is the same. There's just something about watching people get off that guys like. And they're not imagining that they're the dude f**king the chick, or that the chick was their gf.

 

[Disneybaby26]

Well put, I agree!!