first cycle actively trying (June 2015)

[mininun1]

ttcdfw, don't lose hope! TTC is literally the most stressful thing ever, probably because it's something we can't control, but it will happen for you. Most of the advice that I have seen on other threads/forums are all along the lines of "once you stop actively trying, that's when you get pregnant," so I'm sure there is some truth to that - still, when you want it so badly, it's hard to be NOT stressed. Hugs to you, and I hope you can take some comfort in the fact that all of us ladies are in this together

DH and I have been together for six years, married three this coming October, and I really wish we could get a BFP before our anniversary - it would be such a nice surprise going into the new year! I feel like I'm "out" this month, for no real reason other than having regular pre-AF symptoms.

 

[mininun1]

I'm feeling okay. Not in much pain anymore but my gums are still swollen so I can't eat anything other than liquids. Only good thing is I've lost 5 lbs haha. I go for a consultation With the oral surgeon tomorrow.

see now you won't have to worry about being too far along lol. I was worried about that too doing a tough mudder. I would be about 12 weeks and they are really rough on your body. Maybe it's the world's way of making the decision for us.

November is always when I wanted to get pregnant when I would think about it years ago. I always wanted an August baby. I am a February baby and hated having my birthday parties when it was snowing. I always wished it was during summer. Haha.

I bet you are ready for that consultation and to have it all over with, gina! Make sure to update us after your appointment. November would be a great month to get a bfp - you would be a few weeks along by the time Christmas/holiday season rolled around, and it would make that time extra special.

This sounds really silly, but last year for our anniversary, DH and I visited Salem, Mass., and just for kicks, scheduled a reading with a psychic (or rather, I scheduled it and DH humored me lol). She predicted that we would buy our first house by April and be pregnant by October...not big stretches for a newly married couple, but since her first prediction came true, in the back of my mind, I keep thinking that we will be pregnant by October. Since we have been off birth control since March, and actively trying for a couple months, October seems really far away...but I guess it isn't, in the grand scheme!

 

[gina236]

I'm feeling okay. Not in much pain anymore but my gums are still swollen so I can't eat anything other than liquids. Only good thing is I've lost 5 lbs haha. I go for a consultation With the oral surgeon tomorrow.

see now you won't have to worry about being too far along lol. I was worried about that too doing a tough mudder. I would be about 12 weeks and they are really rough on your body. Maybe it's the world's way of making the decision for us.

November is always when I wanted to get pregnant when I would think about it years ago. I always wanted an August baby. I am a February baby and hated having my birthday parties when it was snowing. I always wished it was during summer. Haha.

I bet you are ready for that consultation and to have it all over with, gina! Make sure to update us after your appointment. November would be a great month to get a bfp - you would be a few weeks along by the time Christmas/holiday season rolled around, and it would make that time extra special.

This sounds really silly, but last year for our anniversary, DH and I visited Salem, Mass., and just for kicks, scheduled a reading with a psychic (or rather, I scheduled it and DH humored me lol). She predicted that we would buy our first house by April and be pregnant by October...not big stretches for a newly married couple, but since her first prediction came true, in the back of my mind, I keep thinking that we will be pregnant by October. Since we have been off birth control since March, and actively trying for a couple months, October seems really far away...but I guess it isn't, in the grand scheme!

I am so ready to have these teeth out! Lol. Does anyone else plan out how they will tell people? I always hope that we will get pregnant around a holiday so I can give my parents a present without them being suspicious and having it tell them. I just can't wait to see the surprise on their faces! No one knows we are trying

Mini where do you live? I'm in CT! Lol. Small world for someone to say they went to Salem. Lol. I think that would be cool if she was right. I tend to believe those things. Even if the person is a quack, it just gets stuck in my head.

 

[mininun1]

I live in Texas! Originally from Missouri, we moved here a few years ago. Aside from the blistering hot summers, we love it. I love the east coast too though!

Yes, I plan out how to "announce" it all the time lol. I want to do something really fun and cute to let my family know, but I'll probably wait until we are in the second trimester to let most friends/social media know...just to be on the safe side. No one knows we are trying either! It will be that much more fun to announce it, but on the flip side, we do get a lot of "so when are you guys having kids?" questions...do you get a lot of that as well?

 

[gina236]

I get that all the time! I just want to shout "we are trying!" Lol. I always blame it on my DH and say "as soon as he is ready" because everyone knows I'm dying to have children. We have been married a little over a year (together for 6) so I know everyone is just waiting. My mom has finally admitted that she likes the idea of being a grandma now.

I plan on waiting to tell the world too. I figure we will tell family around 8 weeks and everyone else around 12. I am very close with my mom (she was even my matron of honor) so it is going to be torture to not tell her as soon as I know!

 

[mininun1]

Same way with my mom, I probably won't be able to wait even a few week after finding out before telling her. Yeah, we have reached the point where all of our friends who were married around the same time as we were are have either one or two children...granted, we wanted to wait a couple years anyway, but if I would have known it would take a little while, we probably would have started trying earlier.

So since we are discussing announcements and such - have you and your DH picked out names at all?

 

[gina236]

ya I know how you feel!

For a girl we will name her Emma Lynn. When I was little I used to play pretend and say my name was Emma. I HATE how popular it has become but I love the name so much. Lynn is my mom's middle name

A boy I can not figure out for the life of me. I keep telling my DH that he has to pick the boy name but he hasn't come up with anything. I have alot of names I like but nothing that seems right. Right now I'm on Cason. DH isn't thrilled about it but it's the first name I didn't end up hating after a week of thinking about it. Haha.

Have you picked any out? I've been trying to plan names for years lol.

 

[mininun1]

Emma Lynn is a great name! It has such a nice flow to it. Boy names are harder, but Cason is a good one - and it's not so common where every kid on the playground would have it.

My husband's family has this tradition where every boy name begins with "G." They don't even know when or how it started, but DH has uncles named Glen, Gary, George, etc...lol. Sooo that makes it a little bit harder when picking a boy name because there aren't a lot of names I like that start with G. So far we both like Gage, even though it seems to have gotten more popular in the last couple years.

We both like Layla or Leyna for a girl. We actually kind of picked names several years ago, now we just need the baby to go along with it lol.

I also have this weird feeling that our first baby will be a boy. I will be perfectly happy with either, and DH says the same thing, but I think he secretly wants a boy. What about you? Any gut feelings one way or another?

 

[gina236]

Wow G is a hard one for boys. At least you know where to start looking in the name book lol. And I love those girl names. So pretty!

I want the first one to be a boy. Big brother to take care of little sis but for some reason I feel it will be a girl. I feel like I can't come up with a boy name because I am not going to have a boy. girl names are so easy for me! Either that or I will have all boys and be screwed for names haha!

 

[mininun1]

Or you might have twin girls, Gina! That actually sounds like a lot of fun. A lot of work too I'm sure.

I know I'm pms-ing now because I'm craving spicy fried chicken...lol. I always seem to crave junk food a few days before AF arrives. Why do pregnancy symptoms and AF symptoms have to be exactly the same?? Frustrating!

 

[gina236]

I like the thought of twins. But so much work! Lol. I've been cramps on and off the past few days. And had sore boobs. Which is usually AF symptoms. but I don't usually get cramps until the day after she arrives. Makes me wonder if it's not AF or something. I really wish there were clear differences between symptoms!

 

[mininun1]

It would make it so much easier if there were a difference! I always cramp on and off the week leading up to AF. It sucks lol. Your symptoms sound promising though! When will you test?

 

[gina236]

I am testing tomorrow morning. Need to know what to tell the surgeon at my appointment. If I'm pregnant he can't do the surgery for a few months so hopefully tomorrow will tell me for sure one way or another.

 

[mininun1]

Oh how exciting!!! And at least you will know one way or another. Keep me posted!

 

[gina236]

well test says FF says AF should arrive today and she hasn't yet but I do feel like she will soon.. FX for you though! When will you test?

 

[mininun1]

AF is due for me on Sunday, so if it hasn't arrived by that night, I'll test. I'm with you though, I'm thinking I'm out for this month. I started craving fried chicken last night and I only ever crave that a few days before I start..lol

 

[gina236]

Haha that's such a funny symptom. I checked my cervix and it is a little open. AF will be here any day. I'm curious to see if I will go back to my 28 day cycle or continue with this 25-26 day cycle I have had the last 2 months. Fingers still crossed for you!

 

[mininun1]

Thanks! If AF is coming, I am ready to get it over with so I can get on to the next cycle. A late April/May baby would be cool, since my birthday is at the end of April.

 

[Esperanza2015]

Hello ladies:

I've been away for a couple of days. Gina I hope that your tooth situation gets resolved quickly and then with health and enthusiasm you get back on the horse of TTC! Best of luck to you!
I read your conversations of names...so cute....I really think I lost the first excitement of finding names for the baby...I remember that just the night before my MC we spent 2 hours talking about that...
We will wait at least until the first trimester is over to tell people.
But it will be extremely hard!

 

[gina236]

It's so hard to wait but it's really necessary. No one thinks it will happen to them but MC happens all the time. I have a friend that just announced it at the same time as announcing the gender! I don't think I could EVER wait that long! I have trouble not telling people we are trying lol. Right now only me my DH and my best friend know.