First off girls, I wanted to say, I really appreciate all your feedback... it helps a lot to read your opinions/suggestions, and also think about my comments even as I'm typing them. It's almost like talking through it w/ someone and getting closer and closer to deciding.
booger, we wouldn't have to re-freeze, because my RE would do an overnight stat on the test, rather than waiting the 2-3 weeks for results. The plan would be to thaw my 4 embies the day before transfer. The results would come next morning, and we'd transfer the good ones. This would be a day6 transfer, so my embies will be "expanded blastocyst" by this time, or possibly already hatching, both of which are good. (They say the longer the embryo survives in a lab, the higher chance it has of being successful in the uterus anyway). So anyway, we dont have to worry about the strain of thawing, re-freezing, and then thawing again, because of the overnight stat. The only way we'd have to re-freeze, would be if more of those 4 are good than we expect. In that case, we'll probably still transfer 2 good ones (because PGS still doesn't guarantee, and also because we'd be ok w/ twins), and then we'd re-freeze any other good ones. So my RE has a pretty safe plan in place, IF that's the route we go.
beagle, I agree, I'm leaning more towards the PGS... The way I'm looking at is, what if NONE of those 4 are good, and I go through 2 more FETs, both times having SO much hope that it's gonna be it for us, when in reality, we never had a chance either time. I understand that probably isn't the case at all... Odds show that at least 1 should be good, and potentially even 2. But DH's friend's wife was only 33 yrs old, and only 1/5 of her embies was good. They realized that only because her 1st IVF attempt was successful, but she m/c, and they added that to a couple other m/c's she had prior to even starting IVF. So in her 2nd round of IVF (with a new ER and all), they did do PGS, and thats when they found that only 1 out of 5 was good. They implanted the only good one she had, and now she has a 6-mth old baby.
My RE doesn't feel I have that issue, but how would she really know?? And if I don't do PGS and end up with 2 more failed FETs, I'll never know for sure if they were normal. And I'm just the type of person that needs to find out as much info as I can. Besides, if i do the PGS/FET, have 1-2 good ones, put both in, and they still fail, at last I'm not putting myself through yet
another FET, and i can put THAT money toward doing another full-blown IVF cycle, starting w/all new eggs, and doing PGS at that time.
Sorry to yap so much today!! It just helps to really type this out... it sorta keeps giving me perspective every time I type out my thoughts, and also read all your thoughts. Please, please, even if you disagree with what I'm saying, I'm happy to hear your feedback!!! Because its still not like I've made up my mind completely.
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Terri, I have to say, if you end up getting a good number of frosties, yes, if it were me, I think I would def decide to do PGS, but this is ONLY because of my experience so far! That's all I can base that on. Only you and your RE know what's best for you. Maybe you could go ahead and do a stat PGS on them now (if your clinic even does that), and be ready by your transfer. Then you'd know the right ones are going in. Depends on money and emotions, and all that, so like everyone says, its a very personal decision.
jkb, thanks for your input as well! And i wish I could answer your question about the eggs vs embryos.... good question! Not sure if freezing eggs is harmful at all or not....??? But one thing to keep in mind, is that the embie freezing isn't really that bad with the new process of vitrification... they are VERY successful with it nowadays. If you are concerned though, I would talk to your Dr about his opinion on whether you should only fertilize some and freeze the others, or if you should fertilize all and freeze the embies. That's the first time I've seen that question pop up, and I'm not sure that it's too common, so let me know what your doc says.
Oh, and my estrogen during my FET was 370, and my RE told me on Friday, that it is a beautiful E level for implantation. So my body was indeed in a much better place this time, which is probably why implantation occurred. We were just unlucky to have grabbed bad embies. Shame, shame, huh?
All very exciting!
I can't wait to start looking at baby stuff (I never thought I would say that!). 
I love hearing everyones progress! 
on the 14 still progressing. That is so awesome!! When is your transfer date?
