five year old missing!!

[Emma&Freya]

Aprils parents will now no not to let their children play out unsupervised. Its a lesson learnt to us ALL in sad circumstances.

Lets not argue over a missing child. Were grown ups

Your first sentence is absolutely disgusting IMO. It almost smacks of 'serves them right, they've learnt a lesson'

I think this and porkypigs opinion that they should be 'bollocked' are wrong on so many levels. You state that we're 'grown ups'. Yes we are, and we're also human beings and EVERYONE makes errors of judgement. As 'grown ups' and humans we should show some compassion to April's parents. They've lost their daughter. They do NOT need to be judged by any of us on it!!! Don't you think they're 'bollocking' themselves and each other over and over about this happening, don't you think they are beating themselves up enough over it without us doing it too??

God forbid that they or any of their family comes across this thread and some of the lousy attitudes in it.

why is my comment disgusting?

xprincessx summed what I said up.

You said they now know not to let the children out unsupervised. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if you (God forbid) had something like that happen to one of YOUR children and someone said 'now she knows not to let them out' Can you not see how hurtful that is to someone already in more pain than anyone could even dream of??

Comments on here are bad. And us lot are going to learn not to let our children out unsupervised. As Wobbles said, the place were she lived won awards so it goes to show nowere is safe for our children to play out.

I have put myself in there shoes, and Im sad for them. They thought April was safe playing outside!

 

[Tasha]

This has just come to mind for me. Lots of people are saying that it is totally wrong to judge the actions of April's parents etc. However, when Madeleine McCann went missing people did exactly that. They judged people who thought that what they were doing was safe. I wonder what the difference is?

I would reply to this but dont think this thread is really the place for a debate about this. I will probably message you instead

 

[Emma&Freya]

Can I just say Im not judging Aprils parents

 

[indy and lara]

This has just come to mind for me. Lots of people are saying that it is totally wrong to judge the actions of April's parents etc. However, when Madeleine McCann went missing people did exactly that. They judged people who thought that what they were doing was safe. I wonder what the difference is?

I would reply to this but dont think this thread is really the place for a debate about this. I will probably message you instead

No worries Mrs. Not looking for a debate though it was just a genuine thought that came into my mind. What happened to both girls was just awful and beyond words but one set of parents have been treated with compassion when the others haven't. All the things people have said in this thread about not judging or commenting that you wouldn't have done that etc do not apply when there is a thread about the McCanns. I do wonder what the difference is.

 

[maryp0ppins]

This has just come to mind for me. Lots of people are saying that it is totally wrong to judge the actions of April's parents etc. However, when Madeleine McCann went missing people did exactly that. They judged people who thought that what they were doing was safe. I wonder what the difference is?

I wanted to post this but was worried about the backlash id get on this thread
imo there is no difference,both sets of parents felt the situation was safe and both have lost a child now as they were wrong.

 

[Harveysmum369]

Sorry but I do see a big difference between Aprils parents and the McCanns....


Aprils parents left her playing in a safe place,with her 16 year old sister supervising her and with other children.

The McCanns left their children,ALONE in and UNLOCKED apartment in a strange country with no one around them they knew,even though there were babysitters available..

 

[indy and lara]

Both sets of parents made judgements they felt were right although they were later proven to be wrong. That is the parallel between both cases. There is a lot of judgement and questioning of what the McCanns did both on this forum and in the media in general. All the judging that people are so opposed to here happens on every single McCann thread but they too have lost their child.

 

[admiral765]

I think the McCaans and this case is completely different and in all honesty blaming the McCaans never crossed my mind. I think maybe 'blame' is the wrong word in both instances.
Many people can relate to letting their kids play outside their home with friends, I don't think as many could admit they have left their children in a hotel room whilst they went for dinner.
Regardless, I would still point my finger at the person that took the child in both cases and I would always have sympathy for both sets of parents xx

 

[xemmax]

Sorry but I do see a big difference between Aprils parents and the McCanns....


Aprils parents left her playing in a safe place,with her 16 year old sister supervising her and with other children.

The McCanns left their children,ALONE in and UNLOCKED apartment in a strange country with no one around them they knew,even though there were babysitters available..

And Madeleine was three years old, and left with her two year old siblings... it's a very different situation I feel. Madeleine was left in a private place out of sight, April was playing in public with friends.

 

[Tasha]

I still dont think this thread is the right place for this debate. Maybe the news and debate section would be better.

 

[Tasha]

Tonight when I light my candle at 7pm for my babies for the International baby loss awareness wave of light for my babies, my sister and all my friends babies I will light an extra one for April x

 

[xemmax]

Having thought about it further I think the difference is that arguably what the Mccanns did is tantamount to neglect, whereas allowing a child to play out isn't. Just my opinion though.

 

[Emma&Freya]

I really hope Aprils family find out where her body is before Christmas, it must be hell what there going threw now

 

[Donna35]

This has just come to mind for me. Lots of people are saying that it is totally wrong to judge the actions of April's parents etc. However, when Madeleine McCann went missing people did exactly that. They judged people who thought that what they were doing was safe. I wonder what the difference is?

Madeleine was 3 and left much much later at night in an unlocked apartment in a strange country with her 2yr old twin brother and sister while her parents enjoyed themselves drinking and eating. Night after night and with them crying for over an hour while nobody came. April was out playing in the early evening with older kids around in an area they thought she was safe while her parents prepared the evening meal. Big difference really hun xxx

 

[Donna35]

Tonight when I light my candle at 7pm for my babies for the International baby loss awareness wave of light for my babies, my sister and all my friends babies I will light an extra one for April x

That's a lovely idea hun I think I'll do the same

 

[Wobbles]

This has just come to mind for me. Lots of people are saying that it is totally wrong to judge the actions of April's parents etc. However, when Madeleine McCann went missing people did exactly that. They judged people who thought that what they were doing was safe. I wonder what the difference is?

There is a massive difference between both situations.

The McCanns were on holiday in a different country wining and dining late at night leaving 3 young children unsupervised in a hotel apartment for hours. April Jones was outside having a few extra minutes play on her bike as a treat in a village felt safe for many years BUT my heart goes out to her parents also.

 

[Xanthe]

I just can't believe that people are daring to even compare April's parents to the McCanns. What an insult to April's family.

I live in a small rural village where the children play out. Oh yes that's right, my 6 year old daughter plays out with all the other children. She has a ball. They type of childhood you envy.

I'm originally from London. Would I let her play in the streets there. Would I heck.

All my urban dwelling friends on FB etc have been very scathing of the fact that, god forbid, this child was allowed to play with friends outside of the house!!! These are they types who live in endless suburbia, don't know the neighbours etc etc. Totally different experience. I tell them they have no right, or no direct experience, to make judgements on this matter. Doesn't make me the most popular of folk. But hey ho.....lol

 

[indy and lara]

It is nothing to do with 'daring to compare'. It is a valid question because, whether it is palatable or not, there are some similarities between both cases beyond their awfulness. People have different views, perspectives and experiences. We do not live in a large town and my husband grew up on farms. We know all about 'free range childhoods'.

Both sets of parents believed that they were making the right decision. Both thought it was safe (whether we agree with them or not). Neither thought what they were doing was risky or of course they would not have done it. Just as many people do not agree with what the McCanns did, others do not agree with young children playing outside.

This does not lessen the horror for everyone involved. What has happened is just horrific.

 

[CarlyP]

I really cannot believe how this thread has turned.

I'm sorry but that excuse for a man had a motive, he wanted her and he took her, regardless of what time or who she was out with.

This is no ones fault but HIS!

I cannot begin to imagine what her family feels, to raise a child for 5 years, all the memories, love, tears, now all gone. And they don't have an answer after 2 weeks of where their little girl is. They need support, not judgment, they will be doing enough of that themselves, even though they shouldn't as in their lives it was SAFE!

This thread is for news updates and for people to share their love and support for April, not for debates and arguments, there is another section on B&B for that.

 

[beth_terri]

Tonight when I light my candle at 7pm for my babies for the International baby loss awareness wave of light for my babies, my sister and all my friends babies I will light an extra one for April x

Can't believe I forgot to light my candle