five year old missing!!

[suzib76]

I also can't believe we managed to get to get 220 or so pages on this thread, giving each other thoughts and support, and it has been turned into this now

I was one who did at the start of the thread say something about that choice of April being out, however I also posted on page 60 something about how thoroughly ashamed of myself I was feeling for even thinking it

One thing that stands out, and it happens time and time again, is people with very young toddlers and babies, saying they would never do x, y and z. The thing is it is incredibly hard to know exactly what you would so until you have children of that older age. The are many things years ago I would have said would have been a definite no when my daughter reached 11, but you know now she is 11, some of these things are ok

I'm not responding to anyone directly here but the way some comments have been written so rigidly and matter of factory about what Aprils parents have done wrong is actually disgusting. Also I am not going to waste my time with the rediculous McCann comments as the situations are completely incomparable

Does it feel good to sit in judgement of people who have had their worlds shattered? I am appalled and embarrassed that I even dared to comment initially about it.

The only person responsible here is whoever took April.

 

[indy and lara]

I'm sorry you find it ridiculous but it was a question, that is all. There seems to be a very different response to different people's tragedies and I still don't really understand why. I actually didn't sit in judgement and have said over and over again what has happened is awful. I know a little about what it is like to have your life shattered by loss and most certainly would never wish anyone to experience it. It was mentioned about people having little ones out at that time and I responded and explained my feelings, as did others.

 

[xemmax]

I'm sorry you find it ridiculous but it was a question, that is all. There seems to be a very different response to different people's tragedies and I still don't really understand why. I actually didn't sit in judgement and have said over and over again what has happened is awful. I know a little about what it is like to have your life shattered by loss and most certainly would never wish anyone to experience it. It was mentioned about people having little ones out at that time and I responded and explained my feelings, as did others.

I know from your posts that you are very respectful and insightful. Although I disagree with your comparison for the reasons I gave, I understand the parallels that you drew. Everyone has the right to question and I don't think you were disrespectful in how you gave your opinion.

 

[mumoffive]

Lets not forget that she was taken by someone she knew. This could have been when she went on trips with him, when she was out playing in the safety of her garden...virtually anywhere. I think what is most frightening is that she trusted this man...my god her family did - where does that leave us all? We dont know what goes on in others minds. I have a 5 and a half year old girl and although i live in quite a safe area i dont believe i would be happy letting her up and down the road to play...but the time will come that i will need to let her go and play but it will be 'armed' with what i have told her about playing safe and at the end of the day at some point i know i will need to rely on that information having stuck in her mind and let her go..be it walking to school or her own or much later out with friends as a teenager. Everything will carry risk and we can only do what we can. We cant account for every weirdo in society...we cant let our children live life in fear....wrapping a child in cotton wool has dangers of its own..they dont become streetwise...they dont learn how to handle situations or become confident and independant - what i believe is my ultimate responsibility to instill in my child.
The parents are NOT at fault. It is the person that took her and society for not making sure that crimes hold the highest of punnishments.

 

[Tasha]

Carly and Suzi, I agree. This shouldn't of become this debate, it saddens me that it has.

Beth big hugs x

 

[baby D]

Saddened at how this thread has turned x

 

[admiral765]

I agree baby D, quietest its been I think too. Wish admin could delete a few pages xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Again, it's always hard to determine tone on an internet forum. I think many people have said the same thing but have tried to do so tactfully.

As someone who works with victims of crimes and their families, this is normal. People will always try to determine what ifs and figure out if there were ways these sorts of things could be prevented. It stems from our own fears and concerns for the well being of children around us. It's not a bad thing, but we have to remember to be sympathetic.

Sadly, I don't think April will be found alive. It's been far too long. I can only hope her family is able to bring April home so they can lay her to rest peacefully.

 

[baby D]

I agree Ozzie don't think there will be a happy ending. Poor poor April and her poor family.

 

[Tasha]

Statement from the police;

Superintendent Ian John has provided a further update in relation to the on-going search for April Jones:

“There are now 150 dedicated police and specialist searchers covering a 60 square kilometre area in the methodical and detailed search. Their enthusiasm and dedication remains extremely high, and we will carry on until we have exhausted all possibilities. We are ensuring that the welfare of all members of the search teams is a priority so they are at their best and totally focussed.

“The search teams are currently doing a five day tour of duty. The teams are made up of specialist search officers from all over the UK including all the Welsh forces and British Transport Police. They are tackling tough terrain in what are often challenging conditions.

“In particular the role of the Fire Service’s Urban Area Search and Rescue team is particularly worthy of note – as they are carrying out searches of areas where their specialist equipment and skills are essential, for example in confined spaces, caves, potholes and disused mines where there could be poisonous gases. It would not be possible for others to carry out these searches.

“We have had commercial assistance with aerial photography and reconnaissance through advanced technology that has provided us with live time information that we have been able to use to direct our search activity.

“Over the weekend we once more used the skills of the Mountain Rescue Team to assist in searching wooded areas. They remain on standby at all times.

“Family Liaison Officers are keeping April’s family fully informed of the work being undertaken by all the different teams. The support of the volunteers in keeping the morale of staff high is invaluable – and we again thank them all for their contributions. The teams involved in the investigation are still hard at work and they continue to provide specialist support to April’s family.

“One thing that we are clear on is that we are not going anywhere until we can be certain that we have done all we can to find April Jones.”

 

[EmmyReece]

I feel absolutely disgusted and sickened at some of the comments I've come back to on here.

I really think unless people have been in Machynlleth or lived in the town then they shouldn't keep on with the "oh well she shouldn't have been out at that time" comments. I live not far away from this town, used to go there when we were on holiday in the area before we moved to wales, heck, we're even getting married in the town next year!!! The best way to describe the town is as a small, close knit community where people leave their doors unlocked when they go out. And because of some sick individual the town's innocence and faith has gone, people aren't going to forget this in a hurry.

It's like some people are thinking that because April was allowed to play out for a few minutes that the parents deserved this to happen. Nobody deserves this to happen to them. The torture and heartbreak they must be going through must be awful.

And then to compare April's parents to the McCanns??? Seriously??? There are so many differences it is unreal (people have already posted these so I'm not going to go back over it).

Absolutely shocked at some people

 

[indy and lara]

I walked away from this.

However, I am saying that at NO POINT did I ever say her parents deserved this to happen. Never. Neither did the other posters who questioned some aspects of this story either. That is a very untrue representation of what happened. People's opinions vary and we all have very different outlooks. However, I have never seen ANY poster on this forum say that a parent deserved to lose a child. As someone who has lost a child EmmyReece I most certainly would never have said that. You may not like my opinion but you also have interpreted it completely wrongly.

 

[EmmyReece]

indy and lara, in my post was there any point that I specifically referred to you? no, I don't think there was. I actually said "It's like some people are thinking that because April was allowed to play out for a few minutes that the parents deserved this to happen" which is how it came across in SOME PEOPLE'S comments (not just one specific person)

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I think we're going backwards instead of forwards. Everyone has their own opinions about the situation. How some choose to word them is not exactly tactful, as I have said before.

 

[moomoo]

Can't believe how this thread has turned!

 

[lhancock90]

Can we get back to messages of love and support please?
I can't believe they still haven't found that poor little girl.
xx

 

[EmmyReece]

Can we get back to messages of love and support please?
I can't believe they still haven't found that poor little girl.
xx

I know

2 and a half weeks she's been gone

 

[mumj18]

It sounds like they're still putting a lot of man power into it though which is great.

 

[lhancock90]

I hope they don't give up.
x

 

[JakesMummy]

I haven't read all of the tread, because as soon as I saw the last page, I saw some sort of debate which I am not getting involved in.

Just thinking of poor little April, and no matter the circumstances, I really wish they find her sooner rather than later for her parent s sake So heartbreaking. I haven't heard much on the news now which is what the news is all about I guess..from one story to another, they move on but I hope the police are still doing as intense a search as they were at the beginning.