For the over 35 first time mommies to be

[julesjules100]

Congratulations. I didn't have trouble eating But had a terrible time sleeping thru most of the pregnancy. It never got better ! And I am a fitness instructor / personal trainer and worked out until 4 days before he came. I actually tried to evict him with 2 hours of Zumba but still didn't work ! He loved mommy's tummy . Had to ended up having a induction that turned into an emergency c-section. Important thing is that he is here. And I love my little man.
Oh, and by the way, the second trimester was the best!!! Third was the hardest!

How long did you have to wait to start with ab work after the C section and how long did it take to bring your stomach back into shape?

J x

 

[Borboleta]

Congratulations. I didn't have trouble eating But had a terrible time sleeping thru most of the pregnancy. It never got better ! And I am a fitness instructor / personal trainer and worked out until 4 days before he came. I actually tried to evict him with 2 hours of Zumba but still didn't work ! He loved mommy's tummy . Had to ended up having a induction that turned into an emergency c-section. Important thing is that he is here. And I love my little man.
Oh, and by the way, the second trimester was the best!!! Third was the hardest!

How long did you have to wait to start with ab work after the C section and how long did it take to bring your stomach back into shape?

J x

My stomach looked kind of normal after about 4 weeks after birth. Still has a weird shape but looks okay . I was able to do ab work after 8 weeks.

 

[Runlikeagirl]

Hi Ladies!!!!! I'm excited to share my pregnancy with my fellow "elderly primagrivadas" LOL.... That is what all my lab work says!!! Anyhow I'm 36, i will be 37 when my baby is due!!!! Im currently 9w+2!!! How is everyone feeling? I have lower back pain, constant nausea but no vomitting~ and I am exhausted!! But I couldn't be more happier! When did you all start showing??

 

[julesjules100]

Hi Ladies!!!!! I'm excited to share my pregnancy with my fellow "elderly primagrivadas" LOL.... That is what all my lab work says!!! Anyhow I'm 36, i will be 37 when my baby is due!!!! Im currently 9w+2!!! How is everyone feeling? I have lower back pain, constant nausea but no vomitting~ and I am exhausted!! But I couldn't be more happier! When did you all start showing??

Hi there, I'm 36 too and will be 37 when the baby is due. I'm 11 weeks today

About a week ago I started to get a pretty big bump in the evening, which now in the mornings is virtually non-existent but as I take on food and water through the day starts properly poking out late afternoon. By evening it's a bigger bump again.

No MS for me but up to 10wks had really bad back pain and cramping. Now only mild cramping occasionally. Insomnia is the biggest killer for me as if I have to pee at say 3am then I'm awake till at least 6.45am nod off at 7 and then have to get up for work at 7.30am. Nightmare. That said over the last few days I've been sleeping through but wake at 7.15am. Hope that's done of the pressure coming off my bladder.

Nuchal scan on 16 Oct so keen to get that probability.

J x

 

[Runlikeagirl]

Hi Jules! I'm officially 10 wks!!!! My ms is better and I have a new found energy!!!!! How did your scan go? I go on 10/26 for all the blood testing...... Good luck

 

[julesjules100]

Hi Jules! I'm officially 10 wks!!!! My ms is better and I have a new found energy!!!!! How did your scan go? I go on 10/26 for all the blood testing...... Good luck

Hi there

Just back from my nuchal scan. Amazing to see the lime look more human! Scan was about 30 mins. The fluid at the neck was 1.1 (3.5 and below is "normal") and they looked at the bridge of the nose, size of forehead and prominence of the chin. Bloods back tomorrow to give a full result. They have also taken a punt on gender and it looks like I'm Team Blue so far (hope she's wrong but then I did make a pact with him upstairs that if the IVF worked I would be happy with either (!)). While they were there they checked on the stomach, bladder, heart (still 169bpm), brain etc.

Amazing to see him; when we started he was asleep and in the perfect position to look at. He then woke up, probably from all the poking, and had a big yawn and stuck his tongue out. Lots of stretching of legs and moving arms around. Really incredible.

Attached are a couple of photos (and in one he is waving).

J x

 

[FireBaby]

Wow! That is amazing. Thanks for sharing

 

[skweek35]

Fab news Jules!! Yes those piccies are just gorgeous! I remember my 12 and 20 week scan - my LO was also asleep for most of the scan. She didn't like being woken up though.
Make the most of the 2nd tri energy boost!!

 

[Runlikeagirl]

Hi Jules! I'm officially 10 wks!!!! My ms is better and I have a new found energy!!!!! How did your scan go? I go on 10/26 for all the blood testing...... Good luck

Hi there

Just back from my nuchal scan. Amazing to see the lime look more human! Scan was about 30 mins. The fluid at the neck was 1.1 (3.5 and below is "normal") and they looked at the bridge of the nose, size of forehead and prominence of the chin. Bloods back tomorrow to give a full result. They have also taken a punt on gender and it looks like I'm Team Blue so far (hope she's wrong but then I did make a pact with him upstairs that if the IVF worked I would be happy with either (!)). While they were there they checked on the stomach, bladder, heart (still 169bpm), brain etc.

Amazing to see him; when we started he was asleep and in the perfect position to look at. He then woke up, probably from all the poking, and had a big yawn and stuck his tongue out. Lots of stretching of legs and moving arms around. Really incredible.

Attached are a couple of photos (and in one he is waving).

J x

WOW!!!!! Thanks for sharing! The pics are AMAZING!!! So happy that your measurements came back good I can hardly wait till my 2nd appoint next friday! I will be sure to keep u all updated~

 

[2have4kids]

Hi ladies, so happy to have found this tread, I'm feeling old at 37 and 7weeks pregnant. I used to run a lot and last year had surgery for knee arthritis when I told DH it's now or never -time for a baby! After 15 months of TTY we were about to receive the IVF package and bam!A natural pregnancy. The glowing BFP knocked my socks off. So happy to be here with you ladies. I feel I have 7 more weeks to go before out of the danger zone. Looking forward to the scan nov 17th.
This baby will be announced in our Christmas cards, hoping to keep the bump under wraps till then h & h pregnancies to you ladies

 

[julesjules100]

Hi ladies, so happy to have found this tread, I'm feeling old at 37 and 7weeks pregnant. I used to run a lot and last year had surgery for knee arthritis when I told DH it's now or never -time for a baby! After 15 months of TTY we were about to receive the IVF package and bam! It he glowing BFZp knocked my socks off. So happy to be here with you ladies. I feel I have 7 more weeks to go before out of the danger zone. Looking forward to the scan nov 17th.
This baby will be announced in our Christmas cards, hoping to keep the bump under wraps till then h & h pregnancies to you ladies

Congrats on your news! I'm 12 weeks plus 2 and ours was an IVF baba also. The next few weeks will hopefully zip past. I can't wait to be at the end of first tri! X

 

[julesjules100]

Ladies

Quick question for you all who have had nuchal scans. I posted earlier my nuchal test photos. The baby's neck measurement was great and the Down's probability including bloods was 1:3600 (average for someone with my profile and aged 36 was 1:300), which is great. However, they also did the test for trisomy 13and 18 (parameter for my age is also 1:300) and this came in at 1:380, which isn't so great.

Does anyone have any experience like this and if so, what did you opt to do? My consultant is great but has effectively said that if I want amnio now to get a definitive result I can but given tri 13 and 18 typically results in severe physical abnormality that it would probably be fine to check with a 16 week and 20 week anomaly scan and if anything comes back on that THEN to risk the amnio. It's a tough decision as if we wait to 20 weeks and something was definitively wrong then I'd be terminating very late and would have to go through the heart break of delivery...

J x

 

[Borboleta]

Hi Jules,

I know the feeling!!! I had the blood test done but my stress came with the probability of 1:94 chances of having a down baby. I couldn't stop thinking about it!!! So as my husband so we decided to go with the amnio. I do not regret doing it. My doctor was very experienced and the whole procedure just lasted about 5 to 10 min. Didn't hurt that bad, but if you would to decided to do it you need to rest for about 2 days. And you will feel a little bit of cramping as well.
If I decide to have another one , I will have it done again instead of the blood test ( hate the blood test!).
But it is a choice that you and your husband have to make. Chances are that your baby is just fine. But they put so much fear in our minds because of our age!!! I have a friend that did the blood test when she got pregnant the first time st 28 years old and it came back normal and she had a down baby. After that she had 3 amnio done for her following pregnancies including the last one at 41 years old. Babies are just fine.
And another friend that her blood test came back 1:3 chances of having a down baby and she did the amnio and he was fine.
Just to show you how bad this blood test is!!!
Go with what makes you feel at ease.

 

[FireBaby]

Borboleta - thanks for sharing your insight on amnio vs blood test.

I haven't got my bfp yet but I am super interested in all the tests etc. that have to be done esp if you are over 35 like myself and having your first.

So my question is when you say the blood test are you referring to the thing called maternity21 or something like that?

 

[julesjules100]

Hi Jules,

I know the feeling!!! I had the blood test done but my stress came with the probability of 1:94 chances of having a down baby. I couldn't stop thinking about it!!! So as my husband so we decided to go with the amnio. I do not regret doing it. My doctor was very experienced and the whole procedure just lasted about 5 to 10 min. Didn't hurt that bad, but if you would to decided to do it you need to rest for about 2 days. And you will feel a little bit of cramping as well.
If I decide to have another one , I will have it done again instead of the blood test ( hate the blood test!).
But it is a choice that you and your husband have to make. Chances are that your baby is just fine. But they put so much fear in our minds because of our age!!! I have a friend that did the blood test when she got pregnant the first time st 28 years old and it came back normal and she had a down baby. After that she had 3 amnio done for her following pregnancies including the last one at 41 years old. Babies are just fine.
And another friend that her blood test came back 1:3 chances of having a down baby and she did the amnio and he was fine.
Just to show you how bad this blood test is!!!
Go with what makes you feel at ease.

Yeah it does make you incredibly stressed. I have just found a place in London that is going free fetal DNA tests and sending them for testing to the US (heavily subsidised as its only £400 to have it done vs I believe $3500 in the US). That apparently is another more reliable indicator than nuchal plus bloods. I have just booked in for that this thurs. if that is also not great I think I may have to go for amnio. The thing that's holding me back on that is that our baby was an ivf one so to get pregnant at all is a miracle. To do something that could potentially result in me losing a healthy baby would just be devastating as who knows how long it would take (if at all...) to get another one in there...

Anyway... Thanks for your comments, very helpful x

 

[julesjules100]

Borboleta - thanks for sharing your insight on amnio vs blood test.

I haven't got my bfp yet but I am super interested in all the tests etc. that have to be done esp if you are over 35 like myself and having your first.

So my question is when you say the blood test are you referring to the thing called maternity21 or something like that?

Firebaby, in a nuchal test you have the scan and bloods done at the same time. You'll have to google the 3 parameters the bloods are measuring to if some if them are too high they are indicators of a potential risk. The blood is used in tandem with the nuchal scan and the fluid at the back of the neck.

The blood test that I just mentioned above (free fetal DNA) looks at the baby's DNA in the mothers blood supply. As I understand it is not at present diagnostic (ie will tell you conclusively whether the baby has genetic abnormality) but gives a better indicator than the nuchal plus bloods. I can report back after Thursday.

X

 

[Borboleta]

Borboleta - thanks for sharing your insight on amnio vs blood test.

I haven't got my bfp yet but I am super interested in all the tests etc. that have to be done esp if you are over 35 like myself and having your first.

So my question is when you say the blood test are you referring to the thing called maternity21 or something like that?

Hi fire baby,

The blood test is called the quad screening. I am not sure if you are from the us, but that is how they called it here.

I see that you are on the TTC forum. I just want to tell you to keep strong on making you motherhood dream come true . It is the best feeling ever when you have those little eyes looking at you. Makes you feel very special. I had to take Clomid for 6 cycles before I got my BFP. We tried for more than 1 year before I found out I was not ovulating in a regular basis. But Clomid did the job. Oh, and I am not sure if you tried preseed ( sperm friendly lubricant) but when I did that with Clomid I got pregnant the first month. So I am a big fan of preseed as well .
Hope to see you here and then on the first time over 35 mommies soon.

 

[FireBaby]

Jules and Borboleta great info thank you

Borboleta - thank you so much for your encouragement! Yes! I can't wait to be on the other side I've been spending a lot of time with my friends babies and I feel SO ready for this! I feel really happy knowing that there are such wonderful moms here to chat to about this stuff every step of the way

Googling quad tests now! I want to know everything, because I know once I'm in it I'll feel like I know nothing

Oh and one other quick question Borboleta did you take Clomid to help you ovulate?

 

[FireBaby]

So from what I'm understanding the quad test is actually different to the Maternity21 test - as this is done instead of having amnio?

 

[Borboleta]

Jules and Borboleta great info thank you

Borboleta - thank you so much for your encouragement! Yes! I can't wait to be on the other side I've been spending a lot of time with my friends babies and I feel SO ready for this! I feel really happy knowing that there are such wonderful moms here to chat to about this stuff every step of the way

Googling quad tests now! I want to know everything, because I know once I'm in it I'll feel like I know nothing

Oh and one other quick question Borboleta did you take Clomid to help you ovulate?

Great thinking. How long have you been trying? And yes Clomid did help me ovulate. It is a crazy medicine though. But well worth it.