For the over 35 first time mommies to be

[julesjules100]

Oof, pretty full on that its sufficient to need oral morphine! Did they stitch your would or glue it?

I have sold a kidney, my mother and remortgaged the house so will be doing the Portland.

X

 

[Pers]

So nice to see so many other first time mamas and mamas to be! I hope it's OK for me to join in?

I am 36 and this is my first pregnancy, am 6+5 by LMP but 5+2 by scan I had yesterday-am I supposed to go by the scan or the LMP now? I don't know! My SO is 39 and this is his first as well. I have PCOS and was told to plan on IVF if i wanted to have children. After 10 years of NTNP, we tried clomid ( I was already on metformin) and 2 months later we got our BFP! Really excited but also scared, I think I will feel a lot better once we hear the heartbeat.

 

[anorak]

Hi! Can I join? I am 36 and PG. I was PG when I was 19 (MC) and also in Feb (MC). Around 6 months ago I got out of a terrible relationship and I am now with the most wonderful man I have ever met. We decided to try a few weeks ago! On the night we decided I am damn sure one of his swimmers swan like crazy as I am 5 weeks now! Scared. Yes. We are just about to buy a house (well I am, he is going to rent his out) so there is all that and now the baby! I am scared about finances (we both work full time, me as a lecturer). It is weird, I feel like a 16 year old, but on my birth certificate it says 36!!!!

 

[charlie15]

Oof, pretty full on that its sufficient to need oral morphine! Did they stitch your would or glue it?

I have sold a kidney, my mother and remortgaged the house so will be doing the Portland.

X

Sorry for late reply, been busy with LO!!

Stitches which dissolve themselves.They do the incision very low right in you in your pubic area, so you get a shave 1st and ultimately means no visible scar but can be a bummer with healing and hair re growth, so need to be careful of ingrown hairs. Oh and you can't drive for 6 weeks. I saw a friend yesterday who had an elective c sec and compared to a emerg/urgent one her recovery was much more straightforward. Mainly because she never went into labour which really can knock it out of you, so you should be fine at The Portland even without your kidney!! just PM me if you have any other questions and I'll see if i can be of help, i am a nurse with some midwife, obstetric and doula friends, so have my resources!!

 

[Lady H]

Hi, I'm 40 and finally feel brave enough to post here at 17 weeks pregnant. Had the initial amnio results for the Trisonomy probs all clear so starting to relax into it a bit now!

 

[julesjules100]

Thanks Charlie, I'm sure I'll take you up on that! X

 

[julesjules100]

Hi Lady H, nice to see you over here too x

 

[vermeil]

haha you`re sneaky lady h! We`ve chatted in the 35+ ttc section. I didn`t even know you were expecting. Then again I`ve been pretty discreet too until I'm a few more weeks ahead. Won`t even put up a ticker quite yet.

Congratulations!!

 

[Lady H]

Lol I guess when you have ttc for so long you are super cautious! Nice to see you here too xx

 

[Borboleta]

Hi ladies,

Hope you are all doing well and enjoying your pregnancies. How are you girls feeling? I am sure some of you are getting close to meet LO now. My son is going to be one year old in less than a month!!!!! I should think about having another one since I will be 40 this year but I am getting comfy with the idea of just one .

 

[julesjules100]

Hi B

All ok here. 28 weeks and 4 days. Really good to have made it into third trimester! Now just willing time to go past as quickly as possible. C section date booked for 29 April (slightly later than I thought and very close to my actual DD, which is making me slightly nervous). Other than that I've started maternity leave early so I can try to relax and get everything sorted. Weird to go from a stressful City job to having tonnes of time on my hands!

I totally understand about time and having another one. I'm 37 this Saturday and I'll be getting closer to 40 by the time we try to go again. That said, an old school friend of mine had one baby by C section and was pregnant again 5 months later. Pretty full-on though to have two under two.

x

 

[Borboleta]

That sounds great Jules. Third trimester already!!! Have you gained much weight? Are you being able to sleep? And going pee all the time !!! Would you mind asking me why are you going to have a c section? I had one but it was a emcs and I loved it !!! I felt really great after a about 5 days. Take all the pain relievers the doctors give you.

About having another one I go back and forth on the idea. But I think I will end up doing it . If God wants me to be a mommy one more time everything will go smoothly . I had to take Clomid the first time around and I do not want to take it again though . I had problems ovulating. So we will see what happens.

If you want to drop by at the other forum even though your baby is not born yet you are welcome to. You will here a lot about sleep deprivation but it is good info . I forgot if you are having a little boy or a little girl? Have you picked the name yet? Are you nesting a lot?

 

[julesjules100]

Oh god, don't even ask about the weight. 23lbs and counting. My bump is still actually quite small so it has all had to go on somewhere and I suspect my a*ss has the answer to that.

No, I've had MAJOR problems with sleep for most of the pregnancy. I've constantly been waking up around 3am and then would lie awake until the alarm went off for work at 7.30. So I was really suffering as obviously couldn't nap in the day in the office. Torture. I've started early mat leave last week so at least now when it happens (ie most nights) then I can nod off again around 8am and sleep for a few more hours. Everyone kept joking that I'd be getting more sleep when the baby arrived!

It's so good to hear when C sections have gone well in terms of the recovery. I REALLY hope that I'm like that too. I did a C section recovery course for a few hours last week and the midwife said that no matter what, to try to get up for a walk 6 hours post op. Mine is at 5pm so I guess it will be a late night amble! I wasn't comforted by the fact that she said "we mostly start patients on paracetamol right after. It's a very effective pain killer. We can give you something stronger if you're in a lot of pain". Er, yes! Paracetamol doesn't even work for me when I have bad AF pains! I'll be asking for the oral morphine before walking anywhere on the first day. I'm having an elective C as I have a history of intersphincteric abscess (as the name suggests it's an abscess that goes in between the two muscles of the sphincter and when up into my coccyx, which I then had to have removed and had to have internal dressings packed into it for 1.5 months after that and was off work for 2 months). It was singularly the worst pain I have ever felt right before I was rushed into theatre. Hard to believe unless you've had it. Anyway, given that I have a lot of scar tissue back there/a split and that I had problems with continence for a while afterwards, we are going down the route that will not potentially expose that area to any more trauma. To be fair though, I'm quite pro C section as a choice anyway so even if this wasn't an issue I'd probably still go down that route. No desire to feel natural birth at all!

I did one round of clomid and couldn't stand the stuff as it made me feel really nutty/emotional. Would you consider injecting a little bit of gonal F to trigger ov? I used that for 3 IUIs and it was great. No side effects for me although takes a bit of adjusting injecting yourself.

Everything sorted for the baby now pretty much (save his name!) so I can relax about that - not sure that's nesting yet though more over-organised! We're thinking of one of the following: Alexander, Daniel, Sebastian, Oliver, Marcus or Theo. Suspect we may decide after he's born!

Forgive me but which other forum? Would certainly like to come over for a peek!

x

 

[Borboleta]

I agree with you on the Clomid. It is a crazy drug!!! I think when I am ready I will go see my new obgyn since my old one retired and see if I am ovulating or not. I am afraid of multiples !

And yes I think a csection is a lovely thing. Specially after what you have gone thru I totally understand why you would pick to have surgery done .

All the names that you picked are lovely. I am sure when you see his little face the name will come. I love little boys !!! I wouldn't mind have another one. They are so momma's boy!!!

And you have not gained that much weight. And remember this is the time for you to have fun with food.

The thread that I mentioned is the over 35 first time mommies. If you go to the first page of this thread and see my first post you will be able to find us there. It is a great little group of ladies there. And we had another lady that has a 3 month old so it would be great to have a newborn there. But you can join us anytime. Even before the baby is born and ask us any questions.

 

[harvestqueen]

Hi. I am 36 and around 8 weeks. Will be 37 when baby comes. Have my first dr appointment with sonogram this morning!
This looks like a good thread for me

 

[Borboleta]

Hi. I am 36 and around 8 weeks. Will be 37 when baby comes. Have my first dr appointment with sonogram this morning!
This looks like a good thread for me

Congratulations harvest. How are you feeling? I remember being so paranoid that something bad was going to happen that I just didn't enjoy the first trimester at all!! But had fun during th second.

 

[harvestqueen]

Hi. I am 36 and around 8 weeks. Will be 37 when baby comes. Have my first dr appointment with sonogram this morning!
This looks like a good thread for me

Congratulations harvest. How are you feeling? I remember being so paranoid that something bad was going to happen that I just didn't enjoy the first trimester at all!! But had fun during th second.

Thanks, I am feeling pretty good. Some nausea and tiredness, but all in all ok.
My appointment this morning went well, the baby has a healthy heartbeat which we saw and heard! I am 8 weeks 2 days and it measures 1.8 cm. She said it looks healthy and the only thing is there was some blood behind the gestational sac and that it was not a big deal, that it would either bleed a little during first trimester or not, I guess just go away. But that I shouldn't have intercourse for the first trimester and that I should not doing any high impact exercise, etc. I am the tiniest bit concerned, but she didn't seem to be, so fingers crossed. She told me at this point my chances of m/s were 5%.
Going back in two weeks to get the MaterniT21 and in three weeks to get the NT Scan. Then in four weeks for my next appointment when we'll discuss the results of these things and everything else probably.

Where are you right now in your pregnancy?

Thanks for you note! I am really relieved right now that there was a heartbeat!!!

 

[harvestqueen]

Hi. I am 36 and around 8 weeks. Will be 37 when baby comes. Have my first dr appointment with sonogram this morning!
This looks like a good thread for me

Congratulations harvest. How are you feeling? I remember being so paranoid that something bad was going to happen that I just didn't enjoy the first trimester at all!! But had fun during th second.

I am realizing now you are a mom, and not currently pregnant, you also responded to my post about the fibroid. Thanks for your support!!

 

[Borboleta]

Hi. I am 36 and around 8 weeks. Will be 37 when baby comes. Have my first dr appointment with sonogram this morning!
This looks like a good thread for me

Congratulations harvest. How are you feeling? I remember being so paranoid that something bad was going to happen that I just didn't enjoy the first trimester at all!! But had fun during th second.

I am realizing now you are a mom, and not currently pregnant, you also responded to my post about the fibroid. Thanks for your support!!

You are welcome. Yes, my little man will be one in less than 2 weeks!!! They grow too fast . I do enjoy this fase he is in though. And are you still pretty nervous about the pregnancy? I was terrified during the first trimester too. It will be okay.

 

[harvestqueen]

You are welcome. Yes, my little man will be one in less than 2 weeks!!! They grow too fast . I do enjoy this fase he is in though. And are you still pretty nervous about the pregnancy? I was terrified during the first trimester too. It will be okay.

I feel better after our first dr visit (on friday). We saw and heard the heart beat and everything seems good. I am 8 weeks 5 days today. There is a little hematoma in between the sac and the uterine lining, but dr wasn't worried, said it would probably either show up as spotting or not. She did limit my exercise and said no sex til it's gone. Funny, but I wanted to wait to have sex anyway until the first dr visit. Makes me cautious, but she didn't seemed concerned. Said my m/c changes are only 5% at this point, so that was very reassuring! So, feeling less worried at this point! But very much looking forward to the 2nd Trimester!