ProudMum
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I gotta rant a bit here.
My OH is alot older than me so was brought up in the old fashioned way.
My son is known for getting up out his seat and running about a bit when eating his dinner.
He has a low chair with a swingy tray thing.
Anyway, OH claims he should be made to sit at the table and not to move until his plate is clear... he also thinks my son should be brought up to ask to be excused from the dinner table..
Call me a bad mum but I dont agree with this one bit. Yes he should be sat at his table when his dinner is out but I dont think he should be ORDERED to sit there and basically remain silent.
OH says "Thats how I was raised".. I would be horrified if my son turned aroundand asked "Oh mummy, may I be excused now"- especially in his own home.
Yes at someone elses house or at school, but not in the enviroment where he is most comfortable.
Isee my son as my friend too, hes my best friend. He's a little on the spoilt side but what child isnt????
I agree with manners and all that but I dont agree with the whole "Oh mummy, may I please have a yogurt" attitude...
My son is JUST 2 years old, he's still having fun, discovering new toys, playing with older children etc etc: he's just now discovering kids tv instead of baby tv, how can he be expected to be sat at a table and taught that he must ASK to leave his seat... in a place he calls home, in HIS home..
"Mummy I've finished, can I play now" or "Mam I don't want anymore now thank you" thatr will do me just fine... "thank you mummy"
but not "May I now be excused from the table" and I definitely dont agree with making him stay there until he's cleared his plate.
Oh doesnt live with us.... thankfully.
Im not saying that kids bought up in the old fashioned way is a bad thing, if thats how they want their kids to be then thats their choice and if its what both parents agree with then great, fantastic... but its not something i'd personally do with my son. Theres manners and theres going over the top manners.
My poor little boy has only just learnt to say "ta mummy" after he's given something...
(off topic, should there be random letters stuck in between words... its because my laptop keys are sticking)
My OH is alot older than me so was brought up in the old fashioned way.
My son is known for getting up out his seat and running about a bit when eating his dinner.
He has a low chair with a swingy tray thing.
Anyway, OH claims he should be made to sit at the table and not to move until his plate is clear... he also thinks my son should be brought up to ask to be excused from the dinner table..
Call me a bad mum but I dont agree with this one bit. Yes he should be sat at his table when his dinner is out but I dont think he should be ORDERED to sit there and basically remain silent.
OH says "Thats how I was raised".. I would be horrified if my son turned aroundand asked "Oh mummy, may I be excused now"- especially in his own home.
Yes at someone elses house or at school, but not in the enviroment where he is most comfortable.
Isee my son as my friend too, hes my best friend. He's a little on the spoilt side but what child isnt????
I agree with manners and all that but I dont agree with the whole "Oh mummy, may I please have a yogurt" attitude...
My son is JUST 2 years old, he's still having fun, discovering new toys, playing with older children etc etc: he's just now discovering kids tv instead of baby tv, how can he be expected to be sat at a table and taught that he must ASK to leave his seat... in a place he calls home, in HIS home..
"Mummy I've finished, can I play now" or "Mam I don't want anymore now thank you" thatr will do me just fine... "thank you mummy"
but not "May I now be excused from the table" and I definitely dont agree with making him stay there until he's cleared his plate.
Oh doesnt live with us.... thankfully.
Im not saying that kids bought up in the old fashioned way is a bad thing, if thats how they want their kids to be then thats their choice and if its what both parents agree with then great, fantastic... but its not something i'd personally do with my son. Theres manners and theres going over the top manners.
My poor little boy has only just learnt to say "ta mummy" after he's given something...
(off topic, should there be random letters stuck in between words... its because my laptop keys are sticking)