FRER - 12 DPO - BFN - Gutted :(

[airotciv]

I know you're not out til the witch comes, but every time I've done an FRER, it's been negative and it's been accurate so I'm out again this month.

I've just sat here and cried.

Life is so f***ing unfair.

We would be such fantastic parents and I am beginning to feel like this is never going to happen.

We couldn't have timed better this month and for the first time since ttc I had ovulation pain and I have just received the biggest fattest BFN ever .

No hope whatsoever.

I have a CBFM to use next month but we used OPKs this month and I had ov pain so I can't see what's so different about using the CBFM?

xxx

 

[Tanzibar83]

Hey honey,

It's a shame you feel like that, the key is to not let it rule your life. I've been trying for a year now and I've never had a BFP, there's women out there who have been trying longer and do get bfp's though so you just have to hang in there!


The CBFM is good as is detects your peak fertile days, where as OPK's just tell you when you're about to ovulate but with the CBFM you have to use it a few cycles before so it can learn your body pattern.

Stay positive!

 

[westie11]

dont give up yet, I read somewhere implantation can take up to 12dpo, which would mean it could be a late implanter.
It's easy for me to say though, i tested early at 9dpo and got a negative and i felt gutted. ive got my fingers crossed for you xx

 

[airotciv]

Thanks ladies. I just feel upset at the moment. I'm sure I'll be OK. I now just want AF to arrive so I can start using my CBFM.

Gonna keep myself busy and focus on other things now!

Thank you again xxx

 

[becale]

I'm sorry! Hugs!!!

 

[Miss Broody]

Hey hun, just because its negative then doesnt mean your out. I am starting to realise FRER is not the wonder test it is made out to be and often for many people does not show up to much later. I tested at 13dpo with one and got nagative but i still think i'm in and other people have had negatives with them up to 17 or so dpo.

Fingers crossed for you xx

 

[airotciv]

Hey hun, just because its negative then doesnt mean your out. I am starting to realise FRER is not the wonder test it is made out to be and often for many people does not show up to much later. I tested at 13dpo with one and got nagative but i still think i'm in and other people have had negatives with them up to 17 or so dpo.

Fingers crossed for you xx

Thanks hun miraculously since the BFN, I no longer feel sick!! I am still shattered though but I think that's due to a busy weekend.

I'm looking forward to going back to work in September - I can't focus on ttc as much then!!

How many DPO are you now? xxx

 

[IrishGirl]

Hey hun.I just want to send you some hope.OK we were TTC#2 for 5.5 years.After many many failed treatments we just got our Natural BFP.I got a pos on 4 YES 4 different tests before it showed on FR.I HATE FR.There meant to be soooooo sensitive{just not for me}but dont work for me.Sending tonnes of baby dust hun xxx

 

[airotciv]

Hey hun.I just want to send you some hope.OK we were TTC#2 for 5.5 years.After many many failed treatments we just got our Natural BFP.I got a pos on 4 YES 4 different tests before it showed on FR.I HATE FR.There meant to be soooooo sensitive{just not for me}but dont work for me.Sending tonnes of baby dust hun xxx

Thanks hun...I don't think I'll buy FRER anymore. They're really expensive and although it says they're really great, they're hardly gonna say 'We're rubbish', are they?! Lol.

I'd love it sooooooooooo much if it was a false negative but so far they've never been wrong for me .

I'm really glad you got your natural BFP! xxx

 

[asassymommy]

airotciv,

i'm sorry sweety I know how frustrating and sad and just broken it feels to repeatedly get bfn's and see other mum's who are totally unfit having children left and right, and then people like us get left out and it feels awful. I felt less of a woman, broken, sad, and MAD!

I tried to ttc for a long time, over a course of 2 years and in that time got one bfp and miscarried. I'll never forget that feeling of getting a bfp though. miscarrying was awful. One of the emptiest moments of my life. I literally fell pregnant and within 2 weeks was spotting and sadly losing the pregnancy.

A year after that though, I got a christmas miracle. I finally got my bfp and carried to term a healthy baby boy after years of ttc. and the moment I stared into his little eyes I knew that the timing couldn't have been more perfect for our family.

I PROMISE you that it will happen! I believe and we're here for you.

 

[Zoey1]

I didn't show a LIGHT BFP until 15dpo! Keep your head up

 

[asassymommy]

Hey hun.I just want to send you some hope.OK we were TTC#2 for 5.5 years.After many many failed treatments we just got our Natural BFP.I got a pos on 4 YES 4 different tests before it showed on FR.I HATE FR.There meant to be soooooo sensitive{just not for me}but dont work for me.Sending tonnes of baby dust hun xxx

Thanks hun...I don't think I'll buy FRER anymore. They're really expensive and although it says they're really great, they're hardly gonna say 'We're rubbish', are they?! Lol.

I'd love it sooooooooooo much if it was a false negative but so far they've never been wrong for me .

I'm really glad you got your natural BFP! xxx

my bfp wasnt natural incase I didnt mention

 

[avidwriter15]

I am 13 dpo today and think I saw a super faint barely visible line on an FRER - I got a faint line on an Equate blue dye on 10DPO but am not putting much stock in it since its a blue dye.... I still feel pg and am starting to believe that FRER is not the end all of end all - I had to take the FRER apart to see what I thought I saw in the window... I bought a variety for further testing.. don't count yourself out til you KNOW your out!!

 

[Jencat]

I'm feeling your pain hun! I'm 13 dpo and bfn on frer and 10 ml ic. Feeling gutted but also quite resigned to it. I'm so used to seeing bfn now it's a monthly ritual. Lots of AF type cramps since 5dpo and sore bbs. I'm due on on 15dpo.

 

[avidwriter15]

I finally got a somewhat visible line on a FRER at 14 DPO (this morning) - still neg on HCG IC - so don't lose hope yet!