So, Josh and I have been discussing about how we really want to do something for the kids (vacation wise). There has been so much going on (and still will) that I haven't ever talked about with hardly anyone, and we feel we just need a "break" or "vacation", per se. We have thought about doing a cruise(s) because while we do not have a lot of money, cruise lines will let you make payments which is really nice We have thought about him and I doing one sometime in 2014 (booking it sometime this fall and making payments) however, my oldest will be 8 this November. With that being said, she really wants to go on the Disney Cruise Ship. The Disney Cruise is MUCH more expensive than other leading lines because of the "Disney" name, but I guess If I could swing it, I really wouldn't mind. My children, myself nor my husband has ever been to anything Disney so this would be a much anticipated trip (probably more for me and my husband...LOL) and Us (DH and I) and the two older kiddos are HUGE Disney Buffs and would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to get pictures with the characters and see Disney Broadway-Style plays aboard the ship! *eee!* However...here is my "issue" in which I really need advice. More so for the "motherly" part of me than anything else:
* I have thought about possibly just doing a Disney Cruise with DH, myself, and the two older children first because of the cost (six people total would cost SO much (about $8,000 total if we went cheapie... and we'd legally have to have (2) staterooms because there is only 5 people per stateroom, regardless of age. Staterooms are not promised to be "connected" and at my childrens ages I don't want them in a seperate room anyways, even if they were "connected") and than, once the younger two (my current 4 year old, and baby I am pregnant with) DH and I could take later, when they are older. But, by the time we would "go" he would be six and baby would be two... see where my guilt comes in? LOL
* We WOULD do whatever it took to "make promise" that we would eventually take the younger two on a Disney Cruise.
*Or, DH and I have said him and I could go on a cruise together in 2014, than after that "save up" enough to have a nice vacation on the Disney Cruise and go when the baby I am pregnant with is about 4-5. The only issue is that by that time, our oldest will be 13 - and probably WAY out of the "Disney" thing. Also, if we were ALL going to go and go comfortably, it would cost about $11,000 and honestly, it probably would take us a lot more time to save up that kind of money - and by than it would be more because the majority of the children would be "adult fare" by then.
So, my question is:
If you were me, would you take the older two on a Disney Cruise now - because you can make payments enough for a decent time to go and the children going would be able to appreciate what is really going on, with the promise that when the younger two are older (around 6 and 10) you would take them then?
OR
Would you go with DH for a couples cruise vacation (obviously, not on Disney) and then just save up the money for everyone to go regardless how long it took?
and lastly:
If we took just the older two, with all the reasons I stated above, would I be a bad mom, should I feel guilty if in fact we just take the older two the first time?
I know this isn't gender related, but I would like some mommy advise
we really like Natalie and Lily but they are so common and i want our kids to have more rare names...but girl names are tough and we are very fond of em, so idk....oh im dreaming 
. I'm 15+4 so shouldn't be bleeding now.
Do something special for your husband and yourself! And work on a future family trip down the road. 
