General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[wookie130]

Keeps, I'm loving being a mom of 3...it just feels right to me, like we've met our magic number, and our family is now complete. Charlotte's starting to coo and smile, and she's adorable...the kids just love her. She definitely completes our family, and we couldn't be more thrilled.

As for your situation, I'm so sorry...I don't exactly know what to say either. On one hand, you know your limits as a single mom, and you want the best for your existing kids...but this new baby really challenges those limits, and makes you question everything. Only you can make this call, keeps. This is really tough. I hope you have support...a tribe of your own who can take over when the going-gets-tough, and give you even just an hour here and there of much-needed me-time. Someone you can call when you need a bathroom break without a kid trying to talk to you, someone to sit and chat over coffee with you when you just need some adult stimulation. I know you're freaked out. There will be what-ifs, either way, no matter how yoy choose to handle this. I guess my own personal take, is that you already have 3 children...what's one more, honestly? I wouldn't think that 4 would be that drastic of a stretch for you. But again, this is your decision, and you know your limitations, and what you can and cannot handle. Either way, we're here for you, and you're a super mom to your children...every child is a blessing, as you know. Good luck!

 

[shaescott]

Fern that’s totally a !!

Keeps I’m so sorry you’re going through these worries. I’ve heard that 4 isn’t much harder than 3, though I guess it’s different for everyone.

Gigs, that forum is “ethical medical reasons only” unfortunately.

 

[gigglebox]

Omg wook nooooo!!! 😂 Not take it without your knowledge! I meant you request it be removed lol

That's what i'll be doing!

Hubs is back to guessing the next pregnancy will be twins he has suggested we wait on picking a car until we make sure we are only having one baby yeah right!

I must say though, at this point i'm thinking about at least test driving a ... *shudder* ... minivan.

X_x

Ugh i hate the thought

 

[Flueky88]

Fern I'm so excited for you! I hope this is miracle bfp for you.

Keeps, I'm sorry. I don't know what I say.

Gigs that is so funny about DH thinking it'll be twins and don't gr8 another vehicle until proven otherwise

wookie that would be spine tingling to hear. Oh and that really stinks about all the bleeding

Mind drawing a blank for the rest.

I'm on call, the roads were slick on way home from snow. Not horrible but more nervewracking driving with little one.

 

[DobbyForever]

A is feverish again been reading but tired

Fern excited

I disagree online bullying is ridiculous. I just did a two day lesson on how to respond to online bullying, and it was so heart wrenching that every kid in my class had a story of how some a*hat told them to go kill them selves or made fun of their race/religions or just trolled them. And they’re ten. The world sucks. But it always sucks. You have to just not worry about the what if’s and know you are strong enough to deal with anything that comes your way

 

[pacificlove]

Keeps, hugs to you. As others have said only you and only you can make that decision. No one is allowed to judge you for any decision. I hope baby daddy hasn't gotten to you? If you need to talk, you can inbox me

Fern: even I can spot that bfp! Fx!!!!!

Dobs: awe.. poor A. Hopefully he'll be able to built lots of immunity now, so maybe he won't get as many colds as a toddler... Here's to positive thinking!

Bullying: I'll try my dangest to protect L from anything I can. But I also know that the world is forever changing, we can only adjust to it and try our best. Hopefully I can raise my kid(s) to trust me enough to come to me with anything on his mind.

As for us: we interviewed a daycare today. They have grown so much that they have 5 locations throughout town. We went to one location assuming that that would be the location L would attend but that may not be the case.... What the lady said all sounded good, but dh and I agree: it's an ok choice for while we look for something better or a better solution. We definitely did not like the set up for the 2 1/2+ year old kids, so L would be pulled out of daycare if they wanted to move him up an age group at any point. Just ugh.

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs were you talking about me? I wasn't saying online bullying is ridiculous, i was saying hopefully it's not as big of an issue by the time our kiddos are that age. But if not,
PL makes such a good point! We DO need to raise them to feel they can cone to us with any problem. Hubs and I were literally just talking about this last night. We grew up afraid to tell our parents the smallest things, like accidentally breaking something, that there was no way we were comfortable telling parents the big stuff. I remember my dad yelling a lot about stupid crap like leaving candy wrappers on the table!

I'm just so upset about my parents dropping the ball on parenting. I was literally up for over two hours in the middle of the night last night thinking about events with my brother and my parents failed response.

Idjdkclvlbbb sorry to vent. Clearly I'm not over shit

 

[gigglebox]

Pl are all the locations set up the same?

I forgot, did you look into home daycares? Maybe even one on the island?

 

[DobbyForever]

Lol gigs there were so many times I could have died or been kidnapped as a kid

Idk why I typed I disagree lol but it was like some unearthly hour. I just wanted to say it’s insane. What’s sad is at this age it’s mostly strangers on YouTube for my class but it gets to them. So like wtf is gonna happen when it’s kids you know?!

But yeah you gotta raise them to have self confidence, confidence in their relationship with you, and how to not react out of negative emotions and get in trouble.

 

[Fern81]

Firstly... Keeps my heart hurts for you hun. And although I have a lot more to say; here my English fails me, my brain is tired. I just want to say I completely understand having one/more major life situations that are upsetting/traumatising/etc that you wish you can change. Many many hugs. You can pm me any time if you want to chat.

Secondly, I tested this morning with a different type of test (fmu) and nada. Then I saw that the test claims to be "accurate as soon as the first day of a missed period". So it has a higher threshold. I went to buy more of the other type test that I got a line on yesterday (25 miu sensitivity) and will test again tomorrow. Who knows, maybe it's just a very clear, pink evap!

Bullying SUCKS. I was bullied in high school; I didn't even suffer as much as many others but it had a lasting effect on me. I have very low self-esteem. I just hope that in some way I can teach my amazing child to protect himself, to ignore unnecessary comments, always be kind to others etc. It is a very hard job to be a parent in this global society....

Dobs, hope you and A are better.

Wookie omw I'm picturing your Frankenstein uterus a là Grey's anatomy haha! Sorry about the bleeding. It sucks! After giving birth I had about 10 weeks of pp bleeding. Hope you catch a break soon.

Hugs to everyone else

It's G's birthday next week. We planned on having a small party but for some reason we managed to invite 50+ people (kids included at least) and most of them RSVPed! I ALWAYS overinvite! I just feel so bad for leaving people out. And at the same time a 2 day revamp of my classroom's ceiling turned into a 5 day mess, with the workers quitting today and leaving the place a shambles, so I have nowhere to teach, AND our upstairs & downstairs wooden floors are being sanded and replaced for the next two weeks (ongoing repairs after October's flood) so G and I will have to move out for a month. This means moving all the furniture out of 3 rooms, including 3 huge queen+ beds, all our clothes, all G's furniture, the study's furniture etc into our teeny living room. Ha ha. And then packing and moving myself, all of my classroom and admin stuff, G and all his stuff, to my parents for a month. Soooo tired!!

Had to vent, thanks that I could

 

[Cppeace]

Fern that is definitely positive.

afm confused and blah ....

 

[Fern81]

Sorry to disappoint but this morning's test was another snow white one. I guess the first test was faulty.

 

[Cppeace]

hmm that is crazy. sorry hon

 

[Fern81]

Oi Cpp so we are both feeling confused and blah. As always, fx for you!

So (last update about my mystery bfp test) I'm cramping and started spotting. Went to get af protection from the bathroom cupboard and noticed that this morning's test was still in there. I took it out to throw it away and lo and behold, a line. But the line is much lighter than the line from 2 days ago (which even my husband called a positive?). So this might have been a cp? Of course it can't be confirmed without blood tests but if it was, then it means at least I'm ovulating. Ok so this cycle I will temp and track to see what is going on.

 

[gigglebox]

Fern that sounds promising! The positive the other day was pretty clear. Did you check the batch number to see if anyone else reported a false positive? A cp would make sense though and means maybe a natural bfp is in your future!

Cpp why the confusion?

I am also confused...no idea my cycle day or dpo but assumed it'd be here yesterday and nada. The site (countdown to pregnancy) i use to track everything is down while they launch an ap so I can't access my calendar to figure things out -.-

 

[gigglebox]

So i *think* i'm 12dpo? Maybe only 11...but not feeling like af will be coming at all. Thought she started but just cm...

Ohhh the joys of only using pull out every month has the potential to drive me crazy with the same old stupid "am I pregnant?"

 

[Cppeace]

I'm confused because I have no idea when I ovulated, if I ovulated. FF marks it as cd 12 (Not likely) never got close to positive opk but only took a few as I wasn't expecting to ovulate until at least cd 16... It happened apparently sometime between cd 12 and 15 even though I still am having ovulation pain.....

 

[gigglebox]

Maybe you haven't ovulated yet

 

[Cppeace]

Well, temp is staying up.. and fertile cm has stopped and Ive been tired like I have.. I dunno

 

[Flueky88]

Fern I hope the party isn't too crazy lol. Happy early 1st birthday to G. I'm sorry about faint line madness. However, I think it's a good sign you could conceive naturally. I know how much it means for you to be able to give G a sibling so I'm praying for you

Cppeace I'm unsure it it was CD 12 or 15. I usually err on later date if unsure.

Gigs I know, I was wanting to read their early pregnancy symptoms lol. Part of me is like maybe and the other part says "as if, like you'd get pregnant so fast". I hate symptom spotting. It's pure evil.

I'm 9 or 10dpo and have been insanely tired. I've been taking naps wen V has. Been super thirsty too. Which was something I had with bfp cycle. Trying not too read too much into it. I'm testing Sunday though. I'll be okay either way.