General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[Brightxeyes]

I’m not sure, I’m incredibly broody, but to be honest I’ve been feeling a little low recently, and I don’t want to be in a bad place mentally if I am. I want to thoroughly enjoy the pregnancy and not have my bad mood drag down the excitement if that makes sense. Hoping my moods lift soon anyway! I have always wanted two children though, and I’ve also felt quite upset when my partner was saying ‘not yet’ for a second as I was worried he’d never want a second child. So whatever the outcome I’ll be happy.

I don’t usually feel or notice any pains and think it’s ovulation, but I know roughly when I’m fertile purely through heightened sex drive and discharge down there changes. The uncomfortableness the other day was enough for me to notice, but it could be unrelated!

 

[Cppeace]

Well your immune system is naturally lower starting about 24 hours after conception. It is actually detectable in a chemical produced to lower the immunity. Your immune system is lowered to prevent the embryo/fetus/baby from being rejected.

Feel better Fluek

 

[Flueky88]

Shae glad your fish is alright. I hope your classes go well too. I never took any religion classes, I think they are only required at private schools or at least the ones with religious affiliation.

Pacific, yeah I was having some line eye but realized that's all it

m&s I'm glad it sounds like you had a good week wine is always nice

Gigs I had some dark brown spotting this morning. So I think AF will probably show soon. If no show by Wednesday morning, I'll probably test but I think I'm out.

Bright if you O 18th the 21st would be too early for implant. I do tend to be hyperaware of things if I think pregnancy is possibility but you never know. Best of luck.

Thank you everyone for well wishes, I'm doing better but not great.

 

[gigglebox]

Fluek is spotting for you normal? I'm going to cross my fingers for you anyway!

Bright, ov pain aside, mucus changes and feeling"randy" can definitely be accurate predictors of ovulation! Hope this will be your lucky "oops". SO will come atound. How old is your first? It took us about 3 and a half years to come around to the idea of another but we did! And now we want a third

Shae I an happy to hear the fish is well AND he's getting a larger tank!i think i may move my female betta into my 20g with neons , but that means i'll have to break down the 10g in my bedtoom and i rather enjoy the sound of it...

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Just hopping on to say that I O'd a few days ago. We only BD once so I know I don't have a chance of being pg this month. So hopefully I will have a better chance next month!

Flueky-so sorry that you have the flu! The flu as well as a stomach bug has hit our school pretty hard the past few weeks. I am ready for flu season to be over!!

Shae- I am so happy that your fish is doing well One of our kittens is not feeling well and she hasn't for the past several days. I sure hope she gets to feeling better soon!

This is just my 4th year of teaching and there are times that I am ready to throw in the towel! I work at a really good school and all of the staff are friendly and I feel at home there. I just get so tired of the lesson planning, copying, grading papers, parent/teacher conferences, a very chatty class (every year they seem to get worse and worse), students who struggle and I'm not able to help as much as I would like because I don't have an aide in my room, parent complaints (instead of coming to me they go straight to my principal!), and weekends seem to fly by and it feels like I never get to do anything just for me! I don't know how I will handle it if I ever do get pg

Sorry for the rant just not looking forward to going to work tomorrow. Last week we only had 3 days of school (but it felt like a loooonnnngggg week) and I never had all of my kiddos there those three days. Wed. I only had 8 show up! I know one for sure had the flu but not sure about the rest. Wed. morning it was only 1 degree here so some parents might have kept them home because of the cold.

 

[Cppeace]

Lady once is all it takes. You always have a chance.

 

[Jezika]

Going on terrible memory here, sorry...

Lady - ah I’m sorry work is tough atm. Do you see that changing in the future? What were you doing before, if I may ask?

Shae - yay for fishy remaining alive! Did you name it, btw,

Bright - I also hope you get the outcome me you’re looking for. I can’t say I was ever in tune with ovulation signs prior to TTC, but I do know my generic tracker app was wildly wrong about my ovulation window. Thank goodness I never relied on natural prevention.

Flueks - hope too feel better soon. Sickness sucks, let alone flu. Ditto on wondering whether spotting is normal for you... still keeping fx for bfp.

Fern - I don’t think you ended up posting the most recent test? Totally rooting for you here, though even a CP is really promising for knowing you can conceive on your own. You certainly wouldn’t be the first to get preg naturally after ivf. Btw how did they mess up your embie? Obv don’t answer if you’re not comfortable talking about it.

PL - how’s DH enjoying “The Six”?

AFM we are sick again because a kid’s dad failed to tell us they were sick when we went over for a playdate and of course Tilly sucked the same damn toy. Her sleep has also been totally messed up, like taking hours to fall asleep at night and refusing naps. So frustrating! I definitely took her good/reliable sleep for granted. I wonder whether it’s molars + starting to walk + sickness? Either way, I don’t deal with it well. You know, coz I thought parenting was supposed to be super easy...

 

[Flueky88]

Gigs yes spotting isn't a good sign for me. It's color was different. In any case I seem to have got AF overnight.

Lady yes the flu has been really bad this year. As long as V doesn't get it I'll be happy. Sorry you are having a rough time at work. I understand how you feel. Also I'm hoping you get your miracle bfp

Jez, thanks. Sorry for illness in your home too. So hard when they are ill.

AF has arrived. Also, I seem to have got stomach virus too. Fever spiked up to 103 overnight and horrible diarrhea. Sorry for TMI. Called into work but having sitter watch V so I can rest and rehydrate. Take care everyone

 

[wookie130]

Flueks- Ugh. Feel better soon. So far, there has been 29 pediatric flu-related deaths in the states this flu season. It's nothing to mess with, and it's making it's way through our in-home daycare right now. So far, Oscar and Hannah have avoided it, thankfully!

Bright- Welcome! Best of luck on the ttc-front.

Fern- I'm still holding out hope for you! I bled from the get-go with both Oscar and Charlotte, yet that hcg kept rising! My hcg's base # was pretty low with Charlotte, too, so I was convinced it was over. The rest is history! 😁

J- We still miss you!

Shae- Yay for the miracle fish! Tough little gipper!

Cpp- Fingers crossed!

Jez- Your T sounds a lot like my boy...he was perpetually sick as a little toddler. Hang in there. I'm happy to report that my son is now 3, and rarely gets sick. He's a tough little cookie, and all of those illnesses have built-up his immunity.

I go back to work a week from today. I am positively dreading it in every way. I love my students, sure, but I love my baby so much more, and I hate leaving her, even for an hour or two.

 

[gigglebox]

Where's Dobs?

Fluek, sorry to read about af so will y'all be actively ttc now? Hope your illness runs through quickly!

Lady, I believe it was our very own PL who got pregnant with her boy after a one time "baby dance" session in her vehicle during her hubby's lunch break, so it definitely does not mean you're out! Once during your fertile window is all it takes!

I'm procrastinating on painting so i giess i should do that. My art is going to be displayed in a massage therapist's office...hope it sells, gigs needs a new car!

 

[Jezika]

Flueks - that’s weird how it’s turned into a stomach thing. Actually hubby had fever and chills and muscle aches a few weeks ago, then diarrhea the next day, and then he was fine, weirdly. It lasted two days and Tilly and I didn’t catch it, despite all of us sharing a bed. I hope whatever it is, V doesn’t get it!

Wook - it’s funny because other than the awful fluke UTI in May, Tilly didn’t get sick at all until October. Since then she’s had three colds. I always thought of her as quite resilient but I may have to reassess that now. There are a few kids I know who I’ve literally never seen without a running nose. If it builds up her immunity for later life, great. Esp if it can stave off some daycare bugs come September! Also, I feel for you re: having to go back to work. Wish you guys had longer mat leave. Though to me it feels like it’s never enough.

Gigs - yay for displaying your art! I can imagine a massage therapist’s is a good choice because people can really take the time to admire the paintings while in relaxation mode (shame they can’t put them on the ceiling) and I’m guessing people who pay for RMTs aren’t poor.

 

[Cppeace]

Hope it sells for you Gigs!
I always recommend Echinacea for everyone around the sick or getting sick. It boosts your immune system big time and help stay well and fight off any infection (Like tooth ache or things you'd need antibiotics for)
Just my two bits.

 

[Flueky88]

Wooks, yeah that really frightens me. I've been ever vigilant around her, but trying to have others watch her for me. I hope Hannah and Oscar escape it. I'm sorry about you return next week.

Gigs, yes, I've noticed Dobby hasn't been around here either. As far as AF will have to read on later. As far as ttc DH wants to wait til May. I understand why and I know it's for the best so I'll try to be patient if I have to.

Oh and yes Pacific was taking a pie to hubs and BD that one time to get her Logan.

That's great about your art being at a massage therapy place way to go.

Jez, yeah its the only thing that makes sense since I was feeling better yesterday. Starting to feel better again today.

Yeah maybe Tilly won't get sick much once she reaches school age. V has been sick with bronchiolitis twice. I don't think that's too bad.

Cppeace when are you testing?

Will update on me shortly.

 

[Cppeace]

I plan to start testing in 4 more days if no AF, since not sure on which is my actual ovulation date.

 

[Flueky88]

Cppeace okay, I don't blame you with being unsure of O date.

AFM well I started thinking May be it wasn't AF. It was dark early in morning when it started. I changed pad around 630 and it was dark brown. I figured from sitting around. Well I didn't bleed anymore for 6 hours. So thought something was off. Nevermind, as soon as I posted I used the bathroom and AF let me know it's her. So back to wtt for like until May or maybe June.

I'll go back full time prior to that so I can get short term disability, PTO, etc while on maternity leave next time. I also want to get a hospital indemnity plan that covers pregnancy.

I'm thinking I'll work super long days when I do go full time so that I work 3 days a week, or maybe a 4th day that is light. I don't really get to spend time with V on my work days now so what's another 2 hours. I'll just give up my me time on work days. Hoping DH will be on days at the point I go full time though. Anywho, I'm going to rest before I pick V up. Thanks for all the well wishes and support

 

[ladyoflocksle]

Jez- I am hoping that my attitude changes about my job. It is something that I have always wanted to do but it just seems like every year I get students who are lower and lower and parents who aren't happy with anything you do! Prior to this I worked at Wal-Mart for 4 yrs, quit working there in 2011 to finish getting my teaching degree. Prior to that I worked 7 years at a school as a teacher's aide. I kind of miss that in a way (other then some teachers looking down on you, thinking you aren't as smart as them since they had a degree) because I didn't have near the responsibilities then that I have now!!

Cpp- I know that some ladies do get pg with just one BD but I think since DH and I are so much older that it would probably be as likely as finding a needle in a haystack!!!

Wookie- I don't blame you on not wanting to leave your little one to go back to work. I know it has to be soo hard to not be there when they are so little

AFM- I came home from work early because my stomach has been upset. So far I have been ok but feel nauseous and gassy...like I might get the runs I also woke up with a fever blister so pretty sure I ran a fever through the night! I was wanting the sickness to pass me. I hope those of you that are sick or your kiddos are sick that you all get to feeling better soon!!

 

[shaescott]

Lady, isn’t a fever blister just a cold sore? I’d never heard the term so I googled it and google was talking about cold sores. Cold sores are caused by HSV-1 (the virus remains dormant in your face and can be reactivated and cause a cold sore) and can be brought out from a cold or stress as well as a fever, so fever isn’t the only cause of it. There’s a bunch of possibilities. Are there any other signs of a fever? Did you wake sweaty or with the sheets damp from sweat? I know you said your stomach is bothering you... idk I just hope it wasn’t a fever and you aren’t really sick, just having an off day.

Today I went to the store just to buy pomegranates. I bought 4. That is all.

 

[Fern81]

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[shaescott]

Fern I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Regarding the slender man thing, was he referring to the two girls who tried to sacrifice their friend to slender man? Cuz only a mentally ill child (or plain evil, though I hate to think of kids as evil) would do that kind of thing, they were old enough at the time to know the difference between a story and reality. So I think he’s a bullshit psychologist. And more importantly, he’s obviously a terrible human being. All rapists are monsters.

 

[Fern81]

Fern I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Regarding the slender man thing, was he referring to the two girls who tried to sacrifice their friend to slender man? Cuz only a mentally ill child (or plain evil, though I hate to think of kids as evil) would do that kind of thing, they were old enough at the time to know the difference between a story and reality. So I think he’s a bullshit psychologist. And more importantly, he’s obviously a terrible human being. All rapists are monsters.

Yep he was referring to that case. And yes he is a horrible, horrible monster. I've deleted all else; I posted it in the heat of the moment & too scared someone irl sees it