General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[JLM73]

Tex given your deduct is nearly met, imo this is the time to do the tests BUT also IMO docs ( lawyers, hairdressers etc) all have preferences and biases, so I would take it with a grain of salt.
YOU 2 are the ones paying and are the patients, so I would do the SA at the closer facility.
There are clinical guidelines to follow for all testing, so just because he may have heard of a case where they didn't properly watch a specimen, it doesn't mean they fail to everytime.

Even when we had IVF for the surrotwins, the doc we chose had methods of doing the procedure that another doc didn't like, but neither waas out of the accepted scope, aand both have good success rates so pffft lol.

 

[bdb84]

Thanks, JLM. Those pics really help!

Texas- That seems very extreme. Have you considered a new OB who will be more willing to work with you, or do you have a special bond with your current one?

As for telling DH, nothing special. He knows I am already optimistic, but I know he won't believe it until he sees a digital with the word, "pregnant", on it.

As for telling family, I want to wait until I see a heart beat. My parents and DH's parents will be ecstatic, but I know there will plenty of less than enthusiastic remarks from distant relatives and certain friends. In the entirety of our relationship they have thrown around comments about how we "have plenty" and implied it would be excessive to have one of our own together. I get that we are blessed with our brood, but I want to see what our own child would look/be like. I want to have one child that I do not have to send off every other weekend and share holidays with!

Granted, my ex-husband and I have an incredible co-parenting relationship and I have nothing ill to say in regards to him or his family, for that matter. He's a great father to our three children and his parents and siblings all still treat me as part of the family.

But still.

 

[TexasRider]

This OB is the “new” one lol. My old one stopped delivering babies and my hubs wasn’t too impressed with her anyway. I would hate to go “Doctor shopping” in our small town and not find one that would just give me clomid with no strings attached cause what if I don’t find one? Lol then I would be back to square one. I am the only one who has insurance coverage my
Husband does not right now. No way could I afford to add him to my insurance. But I feel like the problem is more me since my cycles have so much variation to them days wise etc. So, I am not really sure what to do.

 

[gigglebox]

I completely get the desire to have a kid that kind of stitches the two families rogether. No shane in that at all! Let people judge; they always will.

Tex I agree on getting a second opinion. In fact you might could call the SA place in town and see if they have any suggestions on an ob/gyn that has good success with patients. Or look online; sometines people rate doctors or have success stories for loval doctors.

Or is it an hmo and you have to be referred? In that case i'd see who else is in your network and get a second opinion.

 

[TexasRider]

No we do not have an hmo. I can go where I want to. I like my OB but idk- his hands off approach kinda sucks. I know we need to see a fertility specialist I’m just bitter that they are all 2 hours away from us. Ugh

 

[claireybell]

Definate bfp there Bdb fantastic, congratulations eeee exciting!! So much to look forward to again

J call me weird lol but i can see something on your test!! Is it def blank neg??

Gigs Yay for finally ov’ing woop!!

Guess who got some OPKS- me yay! already peed & negative obvs but i took a pic lol

 

[claireybell]

Line porn Ahoy :wave: introducing my negative opk

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=1029533&stc=1&d=1521735341

 

[gigglebox]

Woohoo cb! I look forward to days of your opk's!

Tex maybe you should pm J about how she got clomid without a script...also could you talk to your dr and just tell him very sternly what you want? I have been very demanding with past docs, it's how i got specific tests done (most recently my hep A test which was neg, and previously the lyme test I had demanded and dr reluctantly gave into which was positive). Sometimes you have to have just a strong voice to get what you want/need.

There are no specialists closer? Or just none your dr likes?

 

[JLM73]

CB the only haze I saw was a hair left of where the + line would be and that is more on the yellow stained dry test.
WOOT for opks lol

Tex I just checked out your chart. When do you usually O cuz looks like you are in the green range?

bdb any wondfo's yet?? lol

side note exhub being lazy as F...he's sitting around watching youtube vids on car repairs he KNOWS he is not gonna do, for that SECOND car he just bought the other day in less than an hour, which he can't afford and didn't need yet, since he still has the FIRST car, and ummm yea, being officially Unemployed by the schoolboard while he battles in court, I'm pretttty sure he should be DRIVING Uber/Lyft right now to make some damn $ for bills, since he is BROKE, yet still trying to do what I do - watch youtube vids...BUT I am also making 20 crochet hats n scarves for a PAID order....so yea...NOT the same {Rant Switch OFF}

 

[TexasRider]

No specialists closer. We are in a rural area and the closet metropolis is Dallas and thats where all the Fertility specialists are. Sigh

Edit to add- J i haven’t tracked my cycles since about this time last year so I really have no idea if I am about to O or not. I have had some ewcm for the past few days and will try to get in a bd tonight. I feel like I should O soon

 

[mrs.green2015]

Tex- your doctors policy sounds pretty standard honestly. Except the waiting 3 months after HSG. I had to do all the same stuff and more. BUT you have the right to go anywhere so I would either call the sperm place near you like others recommended or find a new doc. You can call and explain your situation to different clinics.

Bdb- bfp congrats!!!!

J- your ex sounds like he had to desire to change what so ever. I'd try to not let it bother you (I know easier said than done) since you're not really invested anymore anyway.

Gigs- yay for 1dpo!!!

 

[bdb84]

Cb- when are you expected to O?

JLM- how frustrating! Is he looking for employment at the moment?

I took this earlier this AM with more diluted pee. I’m thinking of grabbing a FRER after I pick the big kids up from school. I really just want my expected AF date to come and go (Monday). Then I will put a call in to my OB to set up my first prenatal.

 

[shaescott]

Tex sorry your doc situation sucks. I’m on my mom’s insurance through her work and it’s a PPO, but we have to go in network or be referred out of network for it to be covered. Not sure if that’s normal with a PPO but that’s how it is for me. She’s switching jobs though, starting at the beginning of May at the new job, and we’re gonna have that month with no insurance, so she’s planning on paying the $3000 for the family to have temporary insurance called “cobra” for the month. Not sure how the new employer’s insurance will be once it comes into effect in June. Guess we’ll find out. I also need to find a new OB for when I get my mirena replaced (it’ll have to be December or January because it expires at the end of January) because that ob is from the previous network and I’m no longer considered a patient because I haven’t been there in over 3 years. Idk, apparently it’s their policy. My mom’s new practice she’s joining us gonna have an OB there, and there still building the offices so I’ll have to see if it’ll be open in time or not. Might have to go into the city for it.

Just had the presentation, it went well.

 

[gigglebox]

Cobra is SOOo ooo expensive! Tell her to go online and look up temporary insurance. It's farrrrr cheaper! Cheaper than normal insurance. In my state you can renew every 6 months. Only reason I don't stay on it is because they do not cover any prenatal care and id you get pregnant they will not rebew your policy (you also can't have preexisting conditions).

Bdb i have never seen a good line on internet cheapies -- I would bet money a digital would show "pregnant".

 

[shaescott]

Gigs my family is the poster family of pre-existing conditions. We all have multiple. Mom has depression, chronic migraines, nearing osteoporosis, ankle issues, overweight, takes meds for the first two... my dad is bipolar, a past alcoholic, high blood pressure, insomnia, has a mild heart defect, takes like 10 medications. I have depression and migraines, a mild heart defect as well, orthostatic hypotension, take meds for first two. My little sister has depression and of course atypical CF, takes meds for the first one.

I think it would show on a digital as well.

 

[gigglebox]

Well...
Never mind then
😬

 

[JLM73]

Wow over 3600 pages on the thread!!

MrsG you are right...he's never changing lol...as he sits legs sprawled on coffee table slouched in chair looking at more coins to collect

bdbYou are SOoooo preggers!
I never got even a squinter on an IC this early except when preggo for sure!!
CONGRATS again!!
and as for frer I say if you can do it lol

Shae when you have a moment, and aren't schoolwork bogged or hungover ( KIDDING!) could you lend your tweak mistress skillz to these?
CB has me oogling them again now and with new glasses I can't tell as my eyes haven't adjusted to them and I think the progressive lenses are a wee off, and without them my eyes are rubbish cuz they are kinda used to the glasses lol.
Wet and Dry below, thx in advance

 

[bdb84]

So far my sister is the only one who knows (other than DH, of course). She's currently 15 weeks along and offered to give me her remaining digital when she gets home from work. Even though she is nearly 4 months along, she only just found out 3 weeks ago! I'm just excited to be going through this with her. So I'll take that one whenever I get it.

JLM- I definitely feel like I'm seeing something on both of those tests!

 

[Flueky88]

Bdb, I told you, it'd be bfp congrats. Ugh men are so poopy about hpt lines. Nothing like showing them a digital bfp though.

Gigs awesome news about sttn!!! I hope it continues.also, happy 1dpo

Shae glad presentation went well. Some wine sounds nice

Tex I still pray you can give T a sibling. I have a lot of empathy for ltttc. Sorry insurance situation sucks. When I set up appt for FS they told me to call my ins. To see if they cover fertility testing. They did, but not treatment. Also, when I called the women asked me if I wanted help or sterilization after I asked if they covered fertility services. Craaazy


J, I'm not seeing it, but still early days. Alo the photos are dark so might be giving me issues seeing it.

Wow, so dude buys another vehicle which he can't pay for, smh.

 

[bdb84]

I need to lay off any more testing today. I've been hydrating nonstop and took a test an hour ago that damn near looks negative. I'm telling myself it's because it's still very early on and my pee was too diluted. Now I've got all sorts of anxiety about a chemical pregnancy.

Trying to figure out what to make for dinner tonight. What are you ladies making?