General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

Sorry to hear that. Stay safe!

Sorry about the hit, but I’m glad long run it works out.

As for us, the sky is glowing and it’s raining ash. Just find myself looking down the street wondering when the four horsemen are showing up

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs, how are you doing? How is the smoke affecting you and A? It's been smoky up here for the last 2 weeks...

Can't remember if I mentioned that our house sale in the prairies went through? DH and I decided to bite the bullet and pay the difference out of pocket.. we just had enough to do it but are now cash poor.. had we kept the mortgage we would have slowly bled it out over the next 10 months anyway...the rest of the month will suck until the next paycheck comes in. No extra spending and ds2 needs a new car seat.

 

[DobbyForever]

PL sorry about being cash poor. Hopefully you still have enough to pay the bills until paycheck time and that not having that house payment help you get back into a more secure position soon.

And sorry about the smoke We got very fortunate that the fire departments got the fires under control and then a bunch of wind swept through. Yesterday was actually all the way down to 5! The air was so fresh. First time in a month the kids at A's daycare were able to actually go outside for recess. We're little at some yellow time tomorrow, but overall we're in good quality and hopefully continues that way.

 

[DobbyForever]

Oh and in others crazy news. Idk if the color tiered system is a nationally thing or a cali thing, but you know we have colors based on how bad your spread is. Purple being the worst. No option to re-open schools. We're purple. Most of Cali is purple lol. So anyway, I guess last week 3 counties were promoted down to red. Which means their local gov gets to decide whether to open or not, so naturally Santa Clara County being one of them wants to re-open. They have to stay off for 14 days, but their supers already told the teachers be prepared to resume in person. No idea what that'll look like but be ready. So the unions are all freaking out because a lot of teachers are straight up refusing to teach because they're high risk or have family that is high risk. So we'll see how this all plays out.

 

[DobbyForever]

PL I'm hoping things have cleared up for you all!

AFM life is back to pre-wildfire normal. I have been seeing my one friend once a month for happy hour now that many of the restaurants have outdoor seating. It makes me a wee bit nervous because she has family who don't take corona seriously or live in areas where masks are not required. But I need some socialization. I was a little annoyed at our last happy hour because she went back to being pushy about drinking. It was just a second drink, but I didn't appreciate it because I already explained to her that 2 drinks makes it difficult for me to stop drinking. She's been good about stopping when I say no the first time, but this time she was extra pushy and then the waitress and a nearby table decided to join them and rather than telling them to stfu I'm a recovering alcoholic I just had the second drink. Luckily the waitress came back and she did apologize for pressuring me because she could tell I was unamused and promised she wouldn't let my friend pressure me again. A hasn't really made much progress since his speech class ended. He tripled his words and definitely seeing huge increases in socialization. He is actually playing WITH kids at daycare and even has a little bestie now. Still looking at about a year's delay based on milestones, and now we're stalled trying to figure out how he's going to get his 1-1 speech therapy going again. He has one ABA specialist for 9 hours a week, but we can't staff more because it's too much for the kids at the school exposure wise. So I hinted that if she wants more hours, A can have up to 25 should her caseload open up. It really bothers me how they schedule things. Maybe because I come from a school setting where you see the same behaviorist/ aide assigned to the same kid for as long as that kid/ behaviorist works with the district. Whatever, 9 hours is better than no hours. And lastly, I finally got all the money my ex owed me. Paid off all my credits cards and paid my mom back all the money she's loaned me over the last two years. Also have a month's worth of daycare to buffer any further hiccups in getting child support. I still have about 19k borrowed against my house, but the monthly payment on that is super low and it hasn't affected my credit score so I'm not in a rush to pay it off. I may just honestly not pay it until I save up enough to sell this place. Found my groove with distance teaching and just overall feel like I'm living my best life.

 

[pacificlove]

Dobs, this is fantastic that ex-a$$ has finally paid up! It must feel like such a weight off your shoulders to pay off the debts.

A is making progress and friends is fantastic! I think the one on one interaction with a friend will probably help him make big strides too. Ds1 can't wait to go to school, this year isn't mandatory for him yet, so I am holding him back because of all this covid stuff. Pains me, but he makes friends with adults around him too... Hopefully it won't kick us in the rear end.

Yes, the smoke has gone, thankful for that! How is the fire situation down there?

 

[DobbyForever]

Yay! That’s good. We’re ok. There is a fire in Napa, but it sounds promising that things will cooperate with the fire fighters. Did lead to some spare the air days but nothing major in my area.

Don’t kick yourself. If I had a choice, Aiden would be home. I just don’t have a choice. You are doing amazing things for your kids. They’re so young. Things will get sorted. The lessons and education they get with you is wonderful.

 

[JLM73]

Hey ladies!!!Remember me? The forum old lady??lol
Sorry my emoji game is off as its been what?over a year??
MUCH has changed...I'm remarried...lil boy will be 10next week!?
And then today...after nearly EIGHT YEARS TTC...
WISH ME LUCK!!

 

[JLM73]

One more sorry...I'm rusty and nervous...and excited!!
I'm

 

[shaescott]

J OMG YOURE PREGGERS!!!!!

 

[JLM73]

I KNOW RIGGGGHT??!!??
I'm soooo nervous now. I'm seriously advanced maternal age at 46with a natural bfp and NO tracking...not to mention partying hard since marriage in July...ugh.
At least i have been eating half decent and taking my vits.
Pray for me!

 

[DobbyForever]

Wow J what a line! Congrats on the marriage and bfp! So many questions! Have you had your first appointment?! Good to “see” you and what great news!

 

[JLM73]

Thx Dobs!
I'm calling in the am since i will likely need progesterone for a while as a cya.
I legit got the frer bfp and scrambled to post to you ladies even before hubs lol.
I kinda wanna wait till i take the 2nd frer Friday morning. I actually bought the 2pack by accident but glad i did now.
I figure that will give the hcg 96 hrs increase time and that line should deff be as dark or darker than the control.
I mean hell they say hcg should dbl in 48 hrs so mine should quadruple by then by then... I hope so anyway. If not i know I'm in trouble...but trying to stay positive.

 

[DobbyForever]

I’ll be praying for a sticky bean. That’s so funny that you told us first! I love it! Also huge kudos to you for waiting until Friday! The bad influence in me wants more lines to look at hehe.

 

[Flueky88]

Omg huge congrats on marriage and bfp!!! FX for a super sticky baby!

 

[JLM73]

Hehe trust me,I'll grab a few Wally cheapies later today to get me thru til Friday. I just don't want to waste the 2nd frer only to see the same strength line because I'm impatient...I'll just stress more. Already stressing I'm freaking 46with a natural bfp after almost 8 years trying monthly and that i have NO clue how far along id be...annnnd me n hubs have not been living the healthy life.
He is 4years younger but still.
I'm guessing by line strength I'm between 4-5wks??
Damn i wish they sold cb weeks here!
Its also not like i can just look at last bd cuz when he's not away for work we are together constantly and like bunnies
Lol tmi but sometimes 3times a day and definitely on the daily...so who knows when it happened but i have tested weekly since we met and never had a squinter even til yesterday's bfps.
I pray all goes well.

 

[JLM73]

Thank you Flueky!
Its all so shocking...
My counter top is COVERED in tests from months of routine testing i fully expected to add yesterday's tests to the scrap heap and walked away for the 5min wait. Wow was i surprised.
I saw the wally 88cent testline but it was light. I decided later to get a frer. So glad i did or I'd just have blown that cheapie off as a bad test.

 

[JLM73]

Managed to get 3more tests today...had to return some stuff lol. Helps unclutter...
Anyway looking at a zillion frer pics online last night with weeks and or betas my test matches one's anywhere from 12dpo thru 17dp??? NOT helpful lol.
And today's tests haven't changed much but it's only been about 40hrs since the frer and i totally forgot the clear blues i bought are like 50miu
Luckily it was a2 pack so i have 1for this weekend. Anyhoo...i hoped to see darker lines but I'm impatient and def early given last bd...which would put me around 13-14dpo just now assuming the got the egg right away...less far along if out took a few days. So ignoring the blank 50miu CB pics below are the wa Wally 88center and the wally version of frer
Both have faint lines. I think they are easier to see out of case. Pics were all taken in time limit other than a few in cases. ( I did that on purpose for a video)

 

[JLM73]

Here's the last cpl wall 88 cent pix
I HATE these ads btw

 

[JLM73]

Seems everyone posts elsewhere now
So where is the new post hotspot?