The one person in labor/at appts thing is excessive at this point. I mean, you're talking about the father of the baby/partner of the mother. She most likely sleeps next to him, so if he has covid, she likely does too! And I agree, that the scans and being part of the appointments is a big part of the Dad getting to bond and experience everything. I feel like if I do get pg, I'll be shocked at the difference between having a baby pre and post-covid... The tip of leaving the opk out is great- thank you! I have used one three days in a row and it is super negative. I'm CD 12 today, so hope it happens in the next week. Not looking to get pregnant, but would like to be normal again. Re: the sign on bonus... Pretty sure in this case it is to do with the vaccine mandates. One hospital was in the local news for very loudly laying off unvaccinated staff, and they're now offeing $15k for new (vaccinated) nurses. I wonder what strings are attached. Ie. Do you agree to stay for a certain amount of time if you take the bonus. Sorry for bringing politics into the discussion... I know it gets awkward, and now even more than ever The situation in Flint is awful it goes back to at least Obama's time, and seemingly still isn't anywhere close to fixed. I get that people can't just up and leave, and the whole thing is complicated. I do agree with the wider idea of leaving a state that is doing you wrong (supposing you have the means to do so). That's actually one of the strengths that America has. You have 50 divergent options. I've lived in different countries, and absolutely love America. My parents grew up in the USSR, and I think modern Americans are horribly spoilt and unappreciative in a lot of ways. There are problems to be sure, but poverty and suffering in contemporary America are the kind of life that my grandparents would've seen as affluent. Anyway... Will put my soapbox away. I'm politically homeless. I thought Obama was great (at least in 2008), but hate Joe Biden. So . I also think we get offered two extremes on many topics, and I often don't agree with either. The whole thing is a mess. I agree with your stance, Dobby, about hurting nobody and letting people vote however they want. My main desire is for the govt to leave me alone. I'm glad that the VA guy is hot- there's a lovely message in the idea of y'all getting it on despite the political gulf Good luck testing, Shae! I know where you're coming from on hating waiting. Especially if you have the man you'd want to have babies with! I often think waiting for things would be much easier if you knew the end date. Ie. If you knew you'd have a baby in X months, you'd be able to accept and plan around that. But the waiting sucks without a set time because it seems endless. i also always wanted to be a Mom. I used to write down potential baby names in my high school day planner. Glad to hear I wasn't totally insane. Also insanely thankful I didn't end up with/have babies with my high school BF you clearly were a smarter young person than I was, and chose much better, Shae! Dobby- when can you test?