General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[DobbyForever]

Lurking but not retaining much

Shae sorry for the bfn. Still early but also good to prepare emotionally for either outcome

winter hopefully just a bit of spotting. Hugs

Gigs lol poop and lol I refuse to look back. I was so unhappy with my ex and I feel like I was unnecessarily b*y in a lot of my posts

Fluek I hope you feel better soon

afm I’ll be getting my medication today. I’m having pains but not cramping or bleeding and I’m just done. They don’t have them at the local clinics, I have to go to the hospital to get them. Same one I had my nt scan at for A

 

[shaescott]

Selfish post, will reply later (hopefully)

Definitely considering taking a FRER because my pregmates are only sensitive to 25 miu/ml, and FRER is under 10. Idk. Would have to have a good hold first.

 

[DobbyForever]

In true kick me while I’m down, I was walking into the building and out of nowhere the water on the overhang fell on me.

 

[WinterBub]

Sorry, Dobby. It's those extra little details that are like salt in the wound, isn't it? will you have help with A while you take the medication? Did they let you know how long it is likely to take for it to kick in?

How many frers do you have, Shae? If you have a limited supply, I'd hold off until more like 12dpo/2 days before you'd expect AF. I know other people get crazy early BFPs, but I never have until pretty much AF is due. Applies to both successful and unsuccessful BFPs.

Still nothing further happening here. I've had cramping all these weeks, and now I'm noticing that more. Think that's just psychological because now I'm worried about it.

 

[shaescott]

Dogs ugh your day just sucks, I’m sorry

Winter I hope the spotting is nothing

Took a FRER, negative. I only have one FRER left but I need to go to the store anyway so I can easily just buy more. Tempted to do a beta but I know that FRER is so sensitive that if it’s negative, a beta almost certainly will be too. Just gotta keep waiting, which is the most annoying part because I am impatient human.


ETA: my mom says she didn’t know her sister and friend were pregnant until they were around 6 weeks, so turns out she’s not an instant detector lol.

 

[gigglebox]

poor kiddo sounds like maybe he's on the mend though, so that's good! hope he's back to himself before new years.
I would ideally like to lose 30lbs but would be happy at 20lbs down I think. but more than anything I just want to *feel* good. If I'm chunky but feel awesome that's fine by me.
Your pregnancy sounds a lot like my first. I barely felt pregnant at all. It was super easy physically; emotionally was another story (he was diagnosed with a fatal issue that turned to be totally fine). but yeah I just felt so NOT pregnant that when I spotted I was crying to hubby that it was over! Well he's going to be 10 soon sooooooooooooooooooooooo....nope!

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs will you get a confirmation ultrasound before they give you meds? Is that how they decided things before? Maybe I missed the details, sorry for asking if you’d rather not discuss

and wtf with the water?! What a random thing. I hate when stuff like that happens at such terrible times…but I guess it’d ruin a good time so maybe it’s fortunate to lump the bad luck together? Sorry I’m trying too hard for a silver lining.

shae maybe wait at least to test tomorrow, and use SMU if you test in the am. I have have a totally good explanation for why it’s better but i’ll have to type it when i’m on my lap top. But just trust me, SMU for the win! Also I’ll say again because I didn’t see a response…will you discuss NTNP with your SO?

 

[shaescott]

Gigs definitely looking forward to that SMU explanation, I thought that was just for LH.

I talked to him about NTNP a couple months ago, he basically told me not to be stupid lol, he said it’s just not a good idea where we are financially, and underneath all my emotions he knows I know that. He’s not totally wrong. Based on his reaction to whenever I say my mom said something leaning toward me being pregnant (“no she’s wrong”) I don’t think he’s ready to have that convo again just yet. I know that if I am pregnant he will 100% rise to the occasion, it’s just not something he’s ready to leave up to chance because he knows how fertile my family is.

ETA oh and gigs, Dobs did have an ultrasound, that’s how they confirmed the loss.

 

[monroea]

Dobs will you get a confirmation ultrasound before they give you meds? Is that how they decided things before? Maybe I missed the details, sorry for asking if you’d rather not discuss

and wtf with the water?! What a random thing. I hate when stuff like that happens at such terrible times…but I guess it’d ruin a good time so maybe it’s fortunate to lump the bad luck together? Sorry I’m trying too hard for a silver lining.

shae maybe wait at least to test tomorrow, and use SMU if you test in the am. I have have a totally good explanation for why it’s better but i’ll have to type it when i’m on my lap top. But just trust me, SMU for the win! Also I’ll say again because I didn’t see a response…will you discuss NTNP with your SO?

I'm interested to hear why SMU works better for frer because that has definitely been the case with me this pregnancy.

 

[shaescott]

I'm interested to hear why SMU works better for frer because that has definitely been the case with me this pregnancy.

Hey, when did you get your BFP??? Did I totally just miss that?


Something weird about this cycle but not necessarily in a good way… I’m always up to 98 degrees by now in my luteal phase. My highest temp so far was today at 97.88. Very weird. Does make me worry a bit about my progesterone, but it’s also a deviation from my usual pattern which does excite me. My temps are also very stable compared to usual, I normally have much greater variation day to day. Same thermometer, same environment.

 

[DobbyForever]

This is bulls*. A has f*ing covid.

 

[WinterBub]

Ohhhhh no, Dobby. I'm so sorry. I'd be worried and upset for sure. Especially with everything else you have going on. But the stats on little kids are at least really reassuring does he have any symptoms? Or were you just testing to check before seeing people? Hope he stays well, and this horrible week passes quickly for you, with both of you back to full health.

Sorry for the worst week ever

 

[shaescott]

Dobs shit I’m sorry poor guy, I hope he has a super mild case. Sending love and hugs

 

[WinterBub]

Thank you for the reassurance and personal stories, Flueky and Gigglebox. Oh man, I would not cope with that kind of news- how did they get it so wrong, Gigglebox?! I'm so glad that they were wrong- just holy heck, how stressful that must've been.

Sounds like we have similar weight loss goals. Though I'm going the wrong way right now I gained like 60lb in pregnancy #1. Don't want to put on too much if this ends up being a m/c. Also don't want to gain anywhere near 60lb if this all goes well. I'd like to stick to 30 max. I mostly need to be strict about no late night snacks.

Shae- I'd take anything different as a hopeful sign. Still early days, but fingers crossed it is a good sign.

How are things going, Monroe?

 

[shaescott]

Winter good luck with the weight loss/lack of gain, fingers crossed the bleeding is nothing and baby is all snug as a bug in a rug in there.

I have a ton of pregmates so I tested again with one this evening lol, I felt like something was catching my eye but not enough to not call it line eye. I didn’t take a pic, though. Will take a FRER in the morning and then go out to the store and buy some more so I can take another with SMU. May dip instead of POAS so I can also dip a pregmate at the same time.

 

[WinterBub]

If you are pregnant, it will show up soon enough! Not super helpful as I wasnt expecting a BFP or testing daily- but I got stark white negative on a Thursday, then clear obvious line on the Monday (day I was expecting AF).

 

[shaescott]

This is the test I thought I was seeing a shadow on, but pretty sure I just have line eye

oh well, will test again in the AM.

 

[gigglebox]

Well I’m not on my lap top but I am in nightly toddler jail so I have a minute…

SMU: so you have gone to bed, have held pee for hours, and expect it to be concentrated in the am. Well your bladder is full with drinks from last night, but more importantly, the hcg from yesterday with lower levels. So basically your bladder is weaker hormones totally diluted. Once you pee and empty that bladder, the new urine that fills it has the higher concentration of hcg plus no additional fluids, and therefore has more concentrated hormones in it.

at least that’s my theory and it has always been true for me!

dobs, wtaf?! If it were me I’d probably laugh in hysteria because that’s what I do when things are just so ridiculously bad and I get hit with one more thing. Is A symptomatic? Maybe a repeat test is in order to verify if not…? Although my guess is he and you aren’t too keen on all of the testing. Anyway if he does have it I hope it’s mild and you don’t get it

winter i gained 60 with ds1. I was enormous!! But i was also crazy swollen at the end. I was almost unrecognizable. They kept checking me for pre-e.

i had a journal on here with ds1’s situation but looks like it was deleted. In a nutshell he had a bad nuchal screening and they thought he may have a chromosomal disorder. When all testing came back clear they told me he likely had a heart defect and would probably need surgery soon after birth. I continued seeing MFM and in third tri he was cleared of everything. My MFM dr said if he didn’t know the history of the baby, he would ask why i was there. We call him our miracle baby. We believe He is high functioning autistic but that’s about it, and has nothing to do with birth/pregnancy issues. He’s a happy healthy kid and very loved of course

 

[shaescott]

Okay I swear to God I see something on my FRER but it’s so dang light it’s hard to tell

Lightly tweaked to bring it out but nothing severe, I added the auto filter on the photos app.

ETA: will be going to the store and testing on FRER with SMU

 

[shaescott]

Heavily tweaked