General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")
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Thank you all. I’ll spare the details, but things have progressed as they should. Once I get the all clear for A to go back to school, I’ll drive her down to Monterey to say until we meet again.
I’m good. My boss and BFF offered to drop anything I need off, but according to insta hyper independence is a result of childhood trauma so I just did a Whole Foods curbside. Made sure to wear two masks and not get anywhere close to her. Kaiser said I can do a meal delivery service but it’s like $7/meal. And I’d rather just get $7 of frozen burritos and call it a day
Shae I’m glad the cy.... forgot how to spell it is benign and a non issue. I’m sorry about the bfn. When will you get the beta results?
I’m good. My boss and BFF offered to drop anything I need off, but according to insta hyper independence is a result of childhood trauma so I just did a Whole Foods curbside. Made sure to wear two masks and not get anywhere close to her. Kaiser said I can do a meal delivery service but it’s like $7/meal. And I’d rather just get $7 of frozen burritos and call it a day
Shae I’m glad the cy.... forgot how to spell it is benign and a non issue. I’m sorry about the bfn. When will you get the beta results?
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Monroe you doubled in 48 hrs, that’s good, right? It’s been ages since I had a hcg draw, and it was with a m/c and my numbers decreased :/ but as far as I know that looks good for as early as you are 
shae when will you get bloods back? I though kaiser’s in house lab was supposed to be somewhat quick, right?
dobs biggest hugs and I hope everything goes as smooth as it can. I’d be doing that too, unless I am miserable I don’t call in reinforcements. I’ve just never been comfortable with asking for help.
as for me…I’m crazy and I bought tests. Apparently I am desperate and like to waste money. I just rationalized that you never know when you or someone you know may need one
shae when will you get bloods back? I though kaiser’s in house lab was supposed to be somewhat quick, right?
dobs biggest hugs and I hope everything goes as smooth as it can. I’d be doing that too, unless I am miserable I don’t call in reinforcements. I’ve just never been comfortable with asking for help.
as for me…I’m crazy and I bought tests. Apparently I am desperate and like to waste money. I just rationalized that you never know when you or someone you know may need one
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Gigs never bad to have some tests on hand
Monroe looks like it’s doubling as it should be! Congrats! Fx’d it keeps doubling like it is now!
I don’t have Kaiser, doesn’t exist around here, I used Quest Diagnostics lab. When I ordered the lab it said results in 1-2 days. Hopefully that just means 1 lol.
Gigs never bad to have some tests on hand
Monroe looks like it’s doubling as it should be! Congrats! Fx’d it keeps doubling like it is now!
I don’t have Kaiser, doesn’t exist around here, I used Quest Diagnostics lab. When I ordered the lab it said results in 1-2 days. Hopefully that just means 1 lol.
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Awww Shae I am sorry to read this update. I know that must be a tough spot for SO. Maybe you should have a serious talk about the direction of your relationship. I found a post awhile back when I was trying to catch up and you were venting about things not progressing in your relationship. He says he wants to have a baby and do it in the right order but what about him proposing? Is he any closer to that now than he was? I know things have been crazy…I haven’t been around so if there’s a story here I don’t know it. And I apologize if I’m asking hard questions…
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Monroe I echo gigs that’s great that it doubled! Will they keep monitoring or no more because you doubled?
Gigs hahaha I mean this is true. And with tech these days if you need to offload them I’m sure someone out there can use a free hpt haha
Shae sending big hugs. I’m sorry. At least you’re being super transparent with him and he still accepts and loves and supports you even if he’s on the wtt train.
I’m echoing Gigs a lot LOL but I was about to say this is cycle number what you’ve been upset about no pregnancy? So he does know. I fully support the wtt because I want you to have what I didn’t, but boy needs to propose. What’s the hold up at this point? My brother is about to propose to his LTgf one he’s out of law school. He already started the catholic classes to get approval to marry at her church. So boo needs to get it in gear. It’s cute he wants the perfect ring and perfect scenario and I do hope he gives you that, but sooner rather than later.
AFM I’m holding up. A is isolated until 1/6 so I get a whole two days off. I also don’t know how that will work logistically with my plans. I feel at peace but I think it’s more at repressed emotions
Gigs hahaha I mean this is true. And with tech these days if you need to offload them I’m sure someone out there can use a free hpt haha
Shae sending big hugs. I’m sorry. At least you’re being super transparent with him and he still accepts and loves and supports you even if he’s on the wtt train.
I’m echoing Gigs a lot LOL but I was about to say this is cycle number what you’ve been upset about no pregnancy? So he does know. I fully support the wtt because I want you to have what I didn’t, but boy needs to propose. What’s the hold up at this point? My brother is about to propose to his LTgf one he’s out of law school. He already started the catholic classes to get approval to marry at her church. So boo needs to get it in gear. It’s cute he wants the perfect ring and perfect scenario and I do hope he gives you that, but sooner rather than later.
AFM I’m holding up. A is isolated until 1/6 so I get a whole two days off. I also don’t know how that will work logistically with my plans. I feel at peace but I think it’s more at repressed emotions
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Dobs totes understandable, because essentially you are grieving. I’m sure you’ll have times of being fine with it and maybe waves of sorrow (or maybe not), but I am glad things are moving and you can put it behind you. What was the father’s response to all of this? I still never did find out how this all went down…I just saw it was The Boy — was the the one that looks good on paper but not long term relationship material? I can’t remember, it’s been awhile…
Y’all my boobs are hurting like crazy. They feel like they’re bruised when touched. That must have been one heck of an ovulation, so painful all like a huge hormone spike or something. I actually nearly cried in the store on Tuesday thinking about how badly I wanted to be pregnant again. It was absurd. I don’t have nearly as strong feelings about it now but I am surely having residual effects from the hormone surge, good golly.
Y’all my boobs are hurting like crazy. They feel like they’re bruised when touched. That must have been one heck of an ovulation, so painful all like a huge hormone spike or something. I actually nearly cried in the store on Tuesday thinking about how badly I wanted to be pregnant again. It was absurd. I don’t have nearly as strong feelings about it now but I am surely having residual effects from the hormone surge, good golly.
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Gigs this year we did take a big step by moving in together, so that’s progress I think. We’re talking about getting a joint bank account. So that’s something. He was very nice about me being emotional about it, even though he didn’t want me to be pregnant. He understands how I feel so he’s supportive when I get upset about it.
Dobs this is only cycle number 2 that I’ve cried to him about not being pregnant, and last time was more single tear/feeling very down. This time is worse because I actually had a legit chance. I know I’m not 100% out because my mom’s beta was negative at 11dpo but I just feel like I’m not at this point. Idk. We’ll see what tomorrow’s test brings.
Sorry to hear you have to quarantine but hopefully it’s a nice break?
Dobs this is only cycle number 2 that I’ve cried to him about not being pregnant, and last time was more single tear/feeling very down. This time is worse because I actually had a legit chance. I know I’m not 100% out because my mom’s beta was negative at 11dpo but I just feel like I’m not at this point. Idk. We’ll see what tomorrow’s test brings.
Sorry to hear you have to quarantine but hopefully it’s a nice break?
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Tried to talk to him again about getting married and he flipped his shit and kept yelling at me after I was crying so that went well
ETA: he says I have to trust him that it’s coming, so not like he’s saying he doesn’t want it. But he acted ridiculous and it was unacceptable. I tried to prevent it getting worse halfway through the argument by going to take a bath and he was like “fine run from your problems” so I stayed and it just resulted in even more arguing and getting shit on. So yeah. Lovely.
ETA: he says I have to trust him that it’s coming, so not like he’s saying he doesn’t want it. But he acted ridiculous and it was unacceptable. I tried to prevent it getting worse halfway through the argument by going to take a bath and he was like “fine run from your problems” so I stayed and it just resulted in even more arguing and getting shit on. So yeah. Lovely.
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oh shae I didn't realize y'all were living together! Tell me about your place! Has there been any more talk of marriage? Hopefully he also just wants to really surprise you and get you when you aren't expecting it. I know my husband later told me any time someone told him he needed to pull the trigger on proposal, he put it off because he didn't want it to seem like it was someone else's idea. also he's super defiant by nature so when someone tells him to do something, he wants to do the opposite lol
and YES, it could very well still be early. What does less than 3 mean anyway? Could it be 2? because that is still significant! What is this less than 3 nonsense?!
and YES, it could very well still be early. What does less than 3 mean anyway? Could it be 2? because that is still significant! What is this less than 3 nonsense?!
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Monroe good plan. Hope things continue to go smoothly
Shae big hugs. I’m sorry. I was going to go back and eta don’t talk to him about it but I got crampy then took a nap. If I’ve learned anything from my decades of failure, it’s don’t bring up the when are you gonna propose convo. I just know you two have talked pretty deeply about your goals, and I know before moving in there was a conversation about him not being able to afford the ring he felt you deserved. Wasn’t sure if that was still the issue. Big big hugs. Hopefully he’ll cool down soon. It also feels like it’s been so much longer than two cycles. No sense of time over here. Not a fan of the run from your problem comment though. If you’re at an unhealthy level of communication, that’s a very mature thing to do. Exit the conversation, do something to regulate yourself, then come back. Hugs hugs hugs
gigs oh man it’s a long story. TLDR flew too close to the sun. He’s the good on paper but commitment issues. Last we talked he said he doesn’t need updates and I said cool you can opt out emotionally but just to be clear financially is non negotiable and he said yeah that’s right. So being the petty a** I am, since he said no updates then I’m not giving him one. If and when he ever texts to ask about her, I’ll tell him.
Shae big hugs. I’m sorry. I was going to go back and eta don’t talk to him about it but I got crampy then took a nap. If I’ve learned anything from my decades of failure, it’s don’t bring up the when are you gonna propose convo. I just know you two have talked pretty deeply about your goals, and I know before moving in there was a conversation about him not being able to afford the ring he felt you deserved. Wasn’t sure if that was still the issue. Big big hugs. Hopefully he’ll cool down soon. It also feels like it’s been so much longer than two cycles. No sense of time over here. Not a fan of the run from your problem comment though. If you’re at an unhealthy level of communication, that’s a very mature thing to do. Exit the conversation, do something to regulate yourself, then come back. Hugs hugs hugs
gigs oh man it’s a long story. TLDR flew too close to the sun. He’s the good on paper but commitment issues. Last we talked he said he doesn’t need updates and I said cool you can opt out emotionally but just to be clear financially is non negotiable and he said yeah that’s right. So being the petty a** I am, since he said no updates then I’m not giving him one. If and when he ever texts to ask about her, I’ll tell him.
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And I love A but this is far from from relaxing. I can’t see family. I can’t take him to the park or zoo or anywhere. He’s miserable but still high energy. I was really looking forward to my 2.5 weeks where he was at school and I could finally clean the house and relax and rejuvenate. We don’t have any breaks from now until spring break. I want to cry. I’m so exhausted. I also just want to be able to bury my baby by the ocean and I can’t take A when I do that. I just really hope things turn around soon. I don’t think I can take one more hit
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New year dobs, does that mean your PTO renews? Maybe planning some time off is in order.
HA I would 100% do the same thing, he asked for no updates so none shall he receive. How much do you want to bet once he finds out, he come crawling back for more down the road? I'm placing my bet now.
I hope you get some much needed rest soon. Maybe just lots of chill downtime, movies, naps on the couch, etc.
HA I would 100% do the same thing, he asked for no updates so none shall he receive. How much do you want to bet once he finds out, he come crawling back for more down the road? I'm placing my bet now.
I hope you get some much needed rest soon. Maybe just lots of chill downtime, movies, naps on the couch, etc.
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