General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[mommyhopeful2]

I am one of 13, and my hubby was part of a large family that fostered many more.

 

[DobbyForever]

Welcome, MH2! Sending you baby dust! Are you doing any charting or just hoping you catch an egg the old fashioned way?

AFM, it's okay ladies. I just reminded myself that I can react her bs however I want. Then, I looked at my salary again lol. Unless I leave the teaching field entirely, I won't see this kind of money. And I would miss my kiddos too much. I'll just get tenure and transfer schools.

 

[gigglebox]

I have heard of it but not watched it. I used to get really anxious after the big O but one day I was just fine. Weird. Shrugs. Y'all know what kinky a-typical stuff SO and I are into.

As far as ttc, I told SO to take some time to take care of himself so I shouldn't even see him during my fertile period. I need to figure out some new bc soon

Sorry, missed this!

Did you switch partners? Any other changes you can think of? Mine got gradually better but is still there occasionally. Just happened tonight. It's duration is a lot shorter, too.

Hmm, maybe cervical cap? Diaphram? They have a relatively high failure rate

 

[DobbyForever]

Lmfao! Honestly with all this work drama I don't want a kid right now. Idk. I'll just leave it up to the fates.

No, guys don't typically make me O so it was more self guilt. Idk. Zero of it with SO, but I trust him so completely. Only guy that can consistently get me there. Ugh now I miss him

 

[JLM73]

I get ya Gigsey on the fetish thing. But I think if you decide to let yer Freak Flag fly lol then you open yourself to criticism- some are best kept in the Lifestyle Communities.
Like there is a HUGE section of men that are suppper into Rape type porn...I have seen a few and expected a girl barely pushing away a hand with a NO stop, don't...
O M G...I am convinced some of these vids ARE straight out rapes
Especially the foreign filmed ones...I only saw a couple clip one day of ppl complaining about this type being legal as it encourages the real raper wannabes- this poor girl had 2 guys literally ripping her clothes off SHOVING hands into places all at once while she fought one hand the other guy slapped the CRAP out her a few times- her face was so red, she was crying-She was seriously FIGHTING...it was VERY disturbing- and it take ALOT to bother a Paramedic lol.
I hope she was OK after it all

Campn No worries hun- the bean, ahem I mean Sweet Pea lol will being jumping your metabolism up alot. Also keep in mind later - if you BF full time, it burns an extra 500 cals a day
And i totallllly make a huge salad every night before bed lol. I use grilled chicken, mandarin oranges, pecans, either Feta or Gorgonzola, and usually Poppy Seed dressing, but sometimes I switch it up with raisins/ craisins, and those fried onions that usually go over a green bean casserole. I always use those as my "base" just change dressing btwn Poppyseed, Raspberry Vinaigrette, Honey Mustard, or Chipotle Ranch
It's def filling and I shouldn't eat RIGHT before bed, but since it's healthy I don't feel bad

hopeful2 AWESOME! I love good romance stories.
I've been married twice, and will def do it again with the RIGHT man.
Ppl balk quick engagements or marriages but it's up to the couple.
My first We met working on the ambulance. After a few shifts he hinted he liked me
We started dating, so we worked the same truck, and he would come to my place every day, so he moved in within a month lol. By 2 months we knew we were in love and wanted to marry- got engaged- ring and all
totally lied to my parents about how long we knew each other lol.
Married by our year anniversary We were together 11 yrs- Still friends just wanted diff things in our mid 30s
Hubby 2- I knew since I was 14!(20 yrs!!) We even dated 3 yrs in college.
Well we met again, picked up where we left off...
total PSYCHO- not at all the same guy I knew before! Only last 5 yrs.
So you would think someone you know 20 yrs would work better than 2 months but NOPE lol

 

[JLM73]

Hmm, maybe cervical cap? Diaphram? They have a relatively high failure rate

Gigs OMG you kill me!
You are "almost" as bad as me saying how to fake you are still on pills AND staining pads with koolaid for SO's who check trash

 

[DobbyForever]

Haha oh J... When SO and I role play.... we're talking full on fake tears. We both have trauma and really aggressive non bd bd helps us process it. It provides a sense of security, control, and trust. We have definitely had the "Oh no concerned neighbor, she is not being hurt" conversation when our role play is overheard. I'll exaggerate a cough/choke, cry, struggle. He'll talk about degrading me. All bed talk. Nothing we say in bed counts. But to an outsider looking in it looks BAD

Btw backing up to multiple donors. Is that the actual plan? Or just mulling it over?

 

[DobbyForever]

SO got carried away once and slapped me too hard. I was PISSED lol but then we got over it and it's a running joke "remember that one time you slapped me r_r". I was being a disobedient maid because I was afraid his imaginary wife would catch us and I couldn't lose my job. He's gently tapped my face but one too many beers lol I couldn't hear for like five seconds haha omg it was so bad yet so hilarious

 

[JLM73]

LOL Dobster
It's allll fun and games until somebody gets Bitch Slapped
Just make sure you don't have any neighbors that are freaky voyeur filmers lol.
I like my privacy- so next house will DEF be no deed restrictions and SPACE! Preferably some land.
My drama queen mom said the neighbor could hear me "yelling at her"
Flag on the field
WTH ?? She's half the yelling- It's a cultural thing, like Italians use their hands, and Latinos are hottempered, Portuguese are hot tempered WHILE using our hands
Seriously it's like:
me- Where is the baking dish?
mom- I have no idea! Where did YOU put it
me- Um, I always PUT it where it goes!
mom- Did you LOOK in the cabinet
me of COURSE I looked!! Whyyy would I be askiing if it was where it is SUPPOSE to be mother??
momsigh) OMG move let me ( looks in the same cabinet)
me: Ummm yeaaa...just told you it is not there!!
mom: well I have no idea, you used it last
me: Noooooo YOU used it last to make the FLAN!!
mom: well... yea....but I definitely would have put it back....
me Clearly you DIDN'T or we wouldn't be having this conversation!! NEVERMIND I will just use 2 small pans then...(grumbling)
(A week later) WTH?? MOM!! WTH is this???
mom:what?
me:THISSSSS! My baking pan that YOU didn't touch!
mom: oh yeaa...I was using it to soak my underwear in bleach...
me: OH my GODDD....
(throws $50 baking dish into recycle bin...leaves the room, because I don't look good in orange...)

 

[JLM73]

if i can get both donors lined up yup gonna use both

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs, do you guys have a safe word? I'd be livid if hubs smacked me that hard! But i understand...booze...what can ya do.

J, wtf?! Your mom is straight from crazy town.

Hope, dang, that IS a big family! How many years apart are you all?

 

[mommyhopeful2]

the oldest is currently 29 and the youngest is 6

 

[mommyhopeful2]

lol i keep trying to get the DH to branch out... im his first major partner since he left the Army in 2012 and he was in for 5 years prior Needless to say between that many years with only the occasional fling and all the meds he was put on when he got out his sex drive is virtually nothing ... trying to get him to branch out and explore it cuz he says he doesnt know what he likes anymore.... but he wont do it... frustrating beyond anything... have a feeling if this takes a while things are gonna get boring ... and i really dont want that..........

 

[gigglebox]

Does he drink? Maybe get him intoxicated and explore his desires. Or, are there any of your own sexual fantasies he can help you act out?

 

[mommyhopeful2]

he doesnt drink anymore... ive told him some of mine but hes not entirely comfortable jumping in. working him up to it. right now my best bet is making him edge long enough that he gets ticked off and takes things into his own hands

 

[gigglebox]

Making him edge? What do you mean by that?

Now I'm wondering what kind of aggressive situations you're into

 

[mrs.green2015]

Mh2- my DH was shy about fantasies. He was always down for trying new things when I suggested but I always wanted to know what HE wants. So I started buying lingerie and sexy outfits. I think me trying new things helped him get out of his comfort zone. Anyway I buy 2-3 outfits at a time and then will randomly surprise him. It's fun and pretty cheap.

 

[TexasRider]

My husband and I are very vanilla... Before I met him I was into a little bit of "wilder" stuff... Nothing like some other ladies on here though... Lol Choking, tying up, spanking, rough but not brutal etc.... But he is definitely not into that stuff. So I toned it down. Sex is definitely not as often now that we have a 3 year old but hopefully we get our lucky break soon! Lol

 

[campn]

Dobby- OMG HAHAHAHA your poor neighbors! At least they didn't call the cops. And I thought me and DH were pretty bad ass, the most we've done was spanking and he's always too scared to spank me hard.

J- VOMIT! Seriously who even does that!?? Too funny about you not looking good in orange. I don't think anyone does, I've watched orange is the new black!

 

[mrs.green2015]

Hey ladies who use or used wondfo opks. What's the skinny on them? Like best time of day, hole length and liquid intake. Multiple times a day?

Thanks!