General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[TexasRider]

I'm out. Period started this morning... My LP isn't good at all. Only 11 days. I'm already taking B-complex. I'm going to keep doing my bbt and I see my OB in February for my annual anyway so I will ask him about it then if this next cycles LP doesn't lengthen

 

[pacificlove]

J I am sorry... I say do whatever makes you happy. Life is too short. Your mom sounds like a piece of work on a good day so try not to take her too personal. As for your son... My older brother is known to have blow ups with the parents too. I think it's a boy thing.

Cb, we got a good snow dump over night and it still continues. I am delaying the trailer pick up to next week.

Texas, sorry af got you... Hopefully you will be able to catch the egg next month

 

[DobbyForever]

Wow I can't believe I posted that. Long short, after a bfn frer to make me feel better we got WASTED and ate 5lbs of crab, mussels, shrimp, crawfish... I sat on a guy's chair cuz the bartender couldn't hear me so I was leaning in (live band 10'ft away) and he flipped out on me. I kept begging him to stop because when I drink one trigger and I lose my s* with crying. I ended up locking myself in the bathroom with my ultrasounds and progression tests from the twins.

Future, hugs. We are maternal and we fall in love with our babies the moment we know they exist. Whether you are 3.5w, 12 weeks, or have held your kid in your arms a loss is a loss. We are here for you.

Mrs., so happy you hit some good cm with a little temp dip! Hope you got that bd

Tex, so sorry af showed . 11 days is workable. It's the 9-10 range that is really problematic. Mine is only 12days and I spot on 12dpo. Hugs

J, love you too.

 

[TexasRider]

Thanks. I'm just really getting frustrated with this whole process... In July-Sept everything was fine. Normal 28-29 day cycles and lots of ewcm etc. Then craziness for a few months and while this one was better it wasn't an ideal cycle. Hopefully it will continue to regulate so I can get pregnant. It happened so fast with my daughter and I guess I didn't anticipate having all these issues... I'm getting some beer tonight and I'm going to enjoy it...

 

[campn]

J- I'm so so sorry! I would be so heartbroken. I think it's time for your mom to live somewhere else, I'm ALL for helping our parents when they need it but not this way that it destroys you and your family.

You should ground your son big time too, make him realize that this kind of thing won't be tolerated and he will not talk to you this way. If he wants to be on her side ask them to both move out and in together and see what he'll say when he has to take care of grandma!

Sorry

Dobby- Was he just getting jealous!? If he was drunk that's probably why he overreacted sadly alcohol turns us into the worst versions of ourselves hun! And don't you give up cause you got a bfn on 8 DPO! I had squat on 8 DPO this time and with my son earliest BFP I got was 13 DPO.

your post made me tear up, I'm thinking of you and your angels.

 

[gigglebox]

Dobs, sorry that happened are you still feeling the same today? Why did SO yell at you? I'm confused as to the problem with you sitting in a chair and leaning in to have someone hear you....? But i'm sorry where you ended up last night. I've definitely done it too...sat on the floor with my positive frer from the chemical. Just how we mourn. What can ya do.

J, what did your son say? What did your mom say to get him riled up?

Tex, a lot of us are doing that whole song and dance, i.e. taking time to get pregnant this time around when it happened easier before. This is cycle 5 for me when it took one time with my son, plus an oops with the chemical.

Cb, when are you going to share some bump shots? Are you showing yet?

It dumped snow here too, pl. We're about 8" deep right now, at least 4 more today...my parents up north have way more, probably double this. Fortunately no power outages yet.

 

[JLM73]

Thx Ladies...
Gigs basically she took our only car to get him from work.
I did the unforgivable thing of taking a nap and woke up just before I needed to leave to get him, as always.
While I was in the restroom she left to pick him up??
So I called her phone to say Where are you?? I need to get Che't.
She then started yeling that I was sleeping and she HAD to get him, which is BS.
Then hung up on me. IK called back and she refused to answer.
I called my son and he picked up- yelled for me to STOP calling them, then hung up as well.
I was totally confused as he has never been disrespectful.
They came in the door a cpl mins later and I went off on my son saying DON'T hang up the phone when I am talking to you.
From there he literally got in my face cursing me out- saying I didn't care enough to pick him up and would not listen to anything I was saying?!
THEN he started saying Hit me bitch You want to hit grandmom then hit me Bitch!
I have no F- ing idea what she told him to get this started, it was a cluster F.
Now I am stuck in the house with them teamed up against me over what even??
I have no idea.
Needless to say I didn't meet the donor and he hasn't replied today.
I just want to pack up and leave both their asses here.
He is only teaming with her because she hands him money every 5 seconds.

 

[mrs.green2015]

Texas- so sorry sweetie! Enjoy your beer you deserve it!
J- it sounds like he's just believing her lies. I'm sorry. Do whatever you need to! If that means taking a month off or if it means meeting the donor. I'm so sorry. Hopefully it blows over soon.

Gig- I'm so jealous of the snow! (Well kind of lol) I love the snow but won't drive in it.

Dobs- you made me cry! I'm so sorry you're going threw that. I can't imagine going threw a loss multiple times. My heart breaks for you today. I hope you and so get better!

Cb- a peach!! You're so far along already! Oh my gosh. Are you starting to show?

 

[mrs.green2015]

Oh and for me!
I had a pretty big temp dip I'm hoping it shoots up high tomorrow! Got some lovin in last night just in case.

 

[DobbyForever]

I broke bar rules by sitting on someone's seat and in the shady bars he goes to that's a great way to get into a fight or stabbed. But he wouldn't drop it and I just needed him To stop talking.

J, my mom sent my bro to live with my grandparents for a year. It destroyed their relationship. Even to this day my brother is still hurt and lashes out at her.

Greenie, keeping my fingers crossed you O today!!!

Tex, enjoy the beer. I totally empathize and it will happen.

I'm ok. Honestly, I am just shoving it down deep though. I went to bed with my pregnancy journal and 17dpo test and ultrasound. I might swing by the hospital next weekend to get my medical records/those pictures

 

[claireybell]

ooh MrsG i bet your ovulation day is today hehe!! Fx'd

Oh J im sorry things at home are s***ty at the moment DS & mom are no doubt rebounding off each other at the moment & your moms hard work at the best of times hun.. Hopefully things will be better in the morning after a nights kip families are hard!

Oh Gosh Dobs, alcohols always a good one to fuel something, hoping you'll get some special news in a few more days

SNOW!! Omg we gad a mini flurry in the middle & north of UK but not the South booo! 2013 was the last time we had about 5-6ft of snow! Rileys not really seen it yet & hes 4 in July..

Well, i can feel the top part of my Uterus now about 2inches above pubic bone & feel the rock hardness of it after sexy time hahaa its bizarre! I have bloated belly now & the bottom starting to push out a teeny bit, i have a 12wk pic which is slmost a 13wk pic Lol doesnt look like much but bear in mind that my tummy is usually oober flat right down from my bra!

 

[claireybell]

Please excuse the bra Lol

https://i1204.photobucket.com/albums/bb416/claireybell81/Mobile%20Uploads/image_zpsqx5rbe3o.jpeg

 

[campn]

Claire- That's a beautiful bump hun! And the bra is super cute!!

 

[campn]

Dobby- Did you talk to your therapist since it happened? I don't think you should shove it down at all, it makes it worse and it just simmers over time. Just feel every feeling and deal with your feelings as they come, good and bad. I still have horrible things that happened to me such a long time ago haunt me and I wish I dealt with it better than I did.

About your SO, instead of fighting with you over the chance he may get into a fight, maybe he shouldn't even take you to a bar like that! My DH will also go into exteme measures to avoid a fight so I understand.

 

[claireybell]

It shows more when i have long fitted tops on, couple of people in my office have asked about it lol, il be announcing next week after scan results Thanks Campn, yours will be appearing soon aswell hehee

 

[DobbyForever]

The bar we went to was fine, he just knee jerk reacted and I was like calm the eff down and stop taking. He was trying to apologize but I couldn't process. My therapist told me to take meds or get a hobby.

CB what a beautiful bump pic!!!

 

[campn]

It shows more when i have long fitted tops on, couple of people in my office have asked about it lol, il be announcing next week after scan results Thanks Campn, yours will be appearing soon aswell hehee

It'd make me so mad if someone asked about my bump! Like so what? What if I gained a little weight!? I've learned you never ask a woman if she's pregnant unless you see a baby coming out of her vagina

 

[campn]

Dobby- do you like that therapist!? Sounds like horrible advice!

 

[claireybell]

Hahaa thats so true! I never put weight on & everyone at work knows this, i dont mind but im sure the whole 'oh we did wonder' will come out when i announce Lol!!

Not sure thats great advice from therapist Dobs, very wishy washy.. Hope you guys can chat it out together x

 

[Simplechick]

HI all

I've been reading just pages and pages of this thread, and feel like this is just a really kind group of women!
Congrats to all the moms and my support goes to those still working towards their miracles

I hope you all don't mind me jumping in here with some questions, since you all sound so knowledgeable about your cycles and conceiving and everything, I'm really hoping you might have some clues for me?

I should start by telling you I'm already preg, about 7 weeks or so. What I'm trying to figure out, is WHEN I got pregnant! I'm really hoping you guys understand better than I the way things work and the whole early testing stuff, because I can't quite figure it all out, especially since I just recently learned about the whole Luteal phase thing, that's new to me!
But, I think I've figured out now how long my Luteal phase is, so I'm hoping that helps you super sleuths help me, lol!

So, here are my dates, and everything I've figured out so far, I'm really hoping I make sense, and you guys can help.

My cycles are averaging 25-26 days (with about 4 a year being 27, no pattern other than they seem to be every third month?)

My last period was dec 2, 2015 (5 days, normal)
My Luteal phase seems to be 11-12 days, with one being 13 once
Had sex Dec 14th (light Ewcm, but not tons)
No sex until LATE December 17th (around midnight or so, little Ewcm)
Got a squinter postive on the 23, light but obvious on the 24th and super dark on the 25 (yeah, Christmas, haha!) frer tests.
The squinter on the 23rd throws me off because of how early it would have to have been if it was from the sex on the 17/18th...that's only like 6-7 days past sex! Is that possible, I've heard it is, but seems crazy!

When did I likely ovulate, and when did I likely conceive?? I go online and do all the online calendars, but they all seem to give different dates of ovulation! And since I don't know when my period would have came in December, how do I know what my Luteal phase would have been, or when my next period was actually due (that's the one that gets me, because if Luteal stays the same, and ends the day before your next cycle, how does that tell you when you ovulate if your cycle is not regular???)

I'm so confused on all of this! I don't get it, but really want to know because I didn't think this would happen.
Please forgive my super long post, I know I'm jumping in out of no where, I could really use you ladies support and advice/help, it's driving me nuts!!

Thanks