General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[pacificlove]

Shae: maybe your body is trying to say "ease into the gassier foods"... Isn't there a saying something along the lines of "a toot per bean" aka no chilli? Just a thought..?

Or ignore me, been having hard days at work.. makes it hard to not want to sit back after work and relax because L still wants me.

I read everything but I am having a hard time remembering.

Ls diapers are too small, they don't last him through the night anymore. We'll be on the big island and pick up some size 5s (!!) this weekend. Between my regular waking up and Ls night fussies because he's wet... Lack of sleep.. ugh

 

[shaescott]

PL I’ve been passing quite a bit of gas the past several days. Idk. Sushi isn’t very gassy is it? Cuz that did it first.

 

[pacificlove]

Depends what type of sushi... Rice is still considered a filler in many foods. ? I think? Haha, hormones are going nuts again yay boobs drying up!

 

[DobbyForever]

OH man has it been a while? My days blur together. That is odd then

Pl sorry about the diaper situation. Definitely can commiserate on the lack of sleep

 

[Alf1982]

Thanks guys. Not feeling like a cold, today bloody nose a little, bobs itch and still sore, nausea 2 times bit mild, cramps 1 time. But omg did I have gas, and diarrhea I don't know what's up, things still taste funny and I have a weird taste in my mouth that seems consistent. I don't know if I hope or not, but I'm definitely feeling very different this cycle. Ntm I am hot, haven't temped but my body says I'm much warmer than normal that's been going on a week I think even so says I feel warm.

 

[DobbyForever]

Idk sounds like cold symptoms to me but i’m not in your body so I can’t say, you know?

In other news I pissed off another cousin so i’m Hiding from my mom lol cuz she’s all about unconditional love and i’m Like fts so i’mtrying to fix my computer then sneak into her before she can yell at me my fear is she’ll tell me to go home early and sure I was leaving in 2.5 days but yeah not ready to go back to reality lol

 

[shaescott]

I’ve only been home since the 31st but I was passing gas before then. I think if gassy foods were a problem I’d be in pain. I can get pretty bad gas pain, it happened while I was at the hospital. I didn’t leave until I’d gone a day without the dilaudid (which, btw is amazing and obviously addictive and I may or may not miss it). But yeah during the 5 day stay I got dilaudid probably 5-6 times, not at all day 5. Sometimes I had it during the afternoon and at bedtime cuz those were the two times the pain would really act up. It made my head fuzzy and made me super sleepy and wheee and I was like “mommy is this what it feels like to be high” and she was like “yes, dear” like oh geez I was funny on it. SO got to see me on it at one point cuz towards the beginning of his visit the pain acted up and I was leaning on the side of the bed like I was in labor, labor breathing and everything. I only asked for dilaudid when my pain was at least having to labor breathe through it, if not making me moan and groan. I really liked it and wanted it when my pain was minor cuz I liked how it made me feel, but I didn’t get it cuz I knew that would be asking for trouble and I don’t wanna go down that hole.

 

[shaescott]

Like today I ate a big bowl of chili and so obviously I’m gassy now but it’s been painless so far, I’ve just been farting up a storm. One of the times I got dizzy and nauseous I got up and ate cereal and then felt fine, but other times I was eating when I got dizzy and nauseous and my body was like “nope you’re done”. I’d only eaten 1/3 of my chili for lunch when that happened and then I finished it for late dinner (cereal was around dinner time). It’s like around 1-2 pm my body decides it doesn’t actually want to eat more than a little bit of food. Though I’m sleeping in til at least 11 so that late lunch is technically my breakfast. My sleep schedule got all messed up, I’m staying up til 3-5 am and sleeping until 11-12. Whoops. If not for the Internet, I probably would go to bed at a reasonable hour. Too bad I can’t lock myself out of safari, YouTube, Facebook, and twitter after 11 pm. I’d want to keep messages and Snapchat cuz I text SO of course and I talk with friends on Snapchat, and I don’t wanna get locked out during an important conversation.

I was just thinking about tattoos again got some reason (like while typing the above) and I was wondering, how do tattoo artists ensure they don’t make any mistakes? Like obviously they’re careful but like I copy things wrong all the time like misspell long words by accidentally skipping like 2-3 letters, and they’re human too... calling M&S? I know they prefer not to do lettering, but thinking about that, like how do they manage to never miss a letter their whole career?

 

[DobbyForever]

Sigh so long story short my mom stood over A’s bassinet screaming and swearing despite waking him twice and scaring him and me asking her to stop. Then spent three more hours yelling at everyone/insulting me as a daughter and mother and pet parent. So I Spent two hours driving back and forth because she said I had to get out tonight and if I didn’t get my dogs (which I can’t do in one trip) she was taking them to the shelter in the morning. I still have two more trips at least to get all my stuff back lus visitation on Sunday is like ffs i’m Going to make 6+ hour round way trips in three days dragging poor A along with me.

Like is this normal? This is all I know. My mom was abused as a kid, so her opinion is I had it worse be grateful. My dad’s side is bipolar and literally have punched each other or pulled guns out on each other. Then ex does what ex does. I’m starting to feel like i’m Crazy for thinking this isn’t how it’s supposed to be

 

[shaescott]

WTF?! No, Dobs, you’re right. That’s not normal. That’s scary. All because you had a fight with a cousin, she scares the baby and kicks you out and threatens to take your dogs away from you? That’s insane. So not okay. I’m so sorry she did that to you.

 

[gigglebox]

Either we're missing part of the story or your mom is being batshit. That's really extreme...what was the fight with your cousin about? Was your mom mad you were fighting or mad at you/took your cousin's side?

Shae, artists stencil their work, check it, have the client check it, before they start tattooing. That said, mistakes STILL happen on occasion. Just google "misspelled tattoos". I saw it happen on a tattoo competition tv show once (misspelled Corinthians). In that case they probably give the tattoo free and fix it best they can...or it's cover up time!

Alf, when is your period due and when dis you test last and when are you testing next? That's really the only way to know.

 

[DobbyForever]

My mom is a little bat shit. She takes meds every morning to regulate something and when she doesn’t take them she literally just screams at everyone over nothing until someone reminds her to take her pill.

My mom was venting that my cousin posted a status attacking her because she didn’t want to go to Reno. My cousin is pulling her three kids from school for a week because her bf wants to go gambling when she comes to visit. So I told my cousin that she totally uses my mom for money, her car/chauffeur, and as a hotel but then attacks her character? And that she should apologize or do what her status says and stop talking to her/staying at her house and get a hotel. So then she goes on a rampage of lies and calling me names and saying f* you. So I blocked her because i’m Too old for that. Then she blew up my phone threatening me and swearing at me so I told her stop texting me or i’ll Get a restraining order when she’s here. She kept going and going and I literally just kept texting stop texting me.

So then I tell my mom what happened and said we can talk about it tom after she goes to work and I go to bed. Then she just goes off on me and wakes Aiden. And when I won’t give her the time of day/refuse to yell back. And then I pointed out that this kind of abusive communication is probably why I Date abusive men and make excuses for them because she’s been like this my whole life. So she storms out then spends thirty mins screaming at my brothers for not telling her. Then my stepdad gets out of his bath and she screams at him to. So I go and tell her they had nothing to do with it and if she’s angry and needs to yell then it should be at me not them so she went from leave tomorrow to leave right now blah blah then yelled at me some more and then called my auntie and talked shit about me and called me names in Thai (I understand it just can’t speak it) and so even though it was midnight and raining I packed up my stuff and kid and left. Have to go back today to get more stuff. Definitely two trips but i’m Hoping I have enough Tetris skills to just make one trip

ETA sorry for the fail grammar A is crying and I can’y figure Out what he wants lol

 

[DobbyForever]

My mom was abused by her family but has like some version of Stockholm because she treats them like gold and loves them unconditionally. I have no problem telling them to cut the crap. So she was mad that I said something to my cousin because apparently I have some hidden agenda and am vindictive and it was going to piss of my cousin who would then go to her Mom who would then go to my mom. And I’m fairness that Auntie, while she has taken so much money from my mom and never paid back (like down payment on a house type money then lost the house from filing bankruptcy), is the only person who never emotionally, physically, or sexually abused my mom growing up.

 

[DobbyForever]

Some of the tamer text messages I got

 

[shaescott]

Geez. Seems like quite the dysfunctional family. I’m sorry your mom was so mean to you. That’s heartbreaking to me, that a mom could behave that way toward her child.

Gigs yeah I’ve seen pics of those so it made me worry. Thanks for the info

 

[wookie130]

Oh my goodness, Dobs. No one needs that toxicity, especially from family.

Shae...I wish I had some input regarding the fartiness. Sounds like your system is still adjusting and trying to sort itself out.

Alf...I am also confused. Are you temping because you're trying to conceive...and you've had a tubal litigation? Most women have that reversed prior to ttc, as it is very unlikely you're pregnant. I'm 39, just had my third baby 9 weeks ago, and had my tubes tied during my c-section. It sounds like you want a child...please begin researching tubal reversal. It's success largely depends on which procedure was used in the first place.

Fluek and M&S - Sweet happy babies. . Give them a smooch from their quasi-online long-distance Auntie Wooks.

PL- My 3 year-old still wears an occassional diaper at night only, and is in a 5. You have a big little fella, and that's okay!

AFM- Day 1 of my second Whole 30, and I have such a carb hangover, it's awful. Charlotte and I are snuggling it up, and I have to find a way to peel her off of me to make a tuna salad wrap. Ugh.

I am also trying to give Char 2 or 3 bottles during the day, and put myself on a pumping schedule in preparation for going back to work in the 29th. I breastfeed her in the afternoons, evenings, and through the night using my Lact-aid. People, she loves the boob, even though I only produce about 3 oz of breastmilk a day...and she does not love bottles. They make her gaggy, and she often will just refuse it. My poor daycare lady. I'm hoping it gets easier for Charlotte to take artificial nipples.

 

[shaescott]

Wooks the fartiness doesn’t bother me, it’s the occasional dizzy/nauseous spells that I’m confused about. also I hope Charlotte starts taking the bottle better.

 

[Jezika]

Wooks - aww I hope Char starts taking to the bottles a bit better. Tilly never took them, period, so I was just thankful I didn’t have to go back to full time anything.

Alf - I agree with the others that it’s unlikely (but not impossible) you’re preg. Sounds like the symptoms might be some mild stomach thing? A few people I know have had similar lately. I also think considering a reversal might be a good idea if you’re finding you do want kids.

Dobs - I’m so sorry about your fam. I know your mum shows you and A a huge amount of love most of the time so I can imagine it’s hard when she’s like that, and in addition to your other fam stuff. I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone whose family isn’t a challenge to some extent or other. Anyway, I hope she apologizes and you’re able to set some ground rules. It’s probably best you removed yourself from the situation.

PL - you work with L around, right? How do you manage that!? And it’s so nice seeing them with their animal friends isn’t it.

Shae - I’m glad you pooped and are on the mend. Hopefully it’s just your body adjusting. I also wondered the same re: tattoos, though more about what happens when someone’s doing a really thin line tattoo of something that must be perfect, like a circle, and they slip a tiny bit. They must have the steady hands of a surgeon. The good ones, at least.

Fluek and M+S - your babes are so sweet. Im still so impressed with anyone wanting to ttc again soon (though I know you wouldn’t be TTCing so soon , M+S). I’m starting to enjoy Tilly’s age more and more and am thankful that she’s out of the baby stage, but I do admit I get a little envious of pregnant women, but I think that’s more about the excitement of pregnancy and certainly not about the newborn stage haha. I think I just need to give birth to a 6-month-old.

Re: bedsharing because it was raised a few times. Just an FYI that if it’s done under certain circumstances (e.g., no smoking, no drinking or medications, no excess bedding, no gaps to fall into, light clothing, established breastfeeding etc.), research shows it’s just as safe as the recommended non-bedsharing arrangements, it’s just that most research lumps in planned bedsharing with unplanned (and unsafe) bedsharing, sleeping on couches and other unplanned sleep arrangements, all under the banner of cosleeping, plus doesn’t usually break down the effects of those additional factors like smoking etc., so the most simple and conservative message is “don’t bedshare”. I’m absolutely not saying this to encourage people to bedshare, just to try to make anyone who does end up doing it on occasion feel less distressed by it, esp since the vast majority of mothers do end up bedsharing at some point and it’s not helpful to make them feel even more distressed about doing it. I find the North American stance on it is a lot more alarmist than in, say, parts of Europe or Australia. I mean, I get it, but at least in these other places they acknowledge that parents end up doing it for various reasons and that it can be even more dangerous if they’re told not to do it and they do it unsafelt rather than inform them on how it can be done safely. Sorry, end rant

Gigs - I’m sorry about your cat. We had a foster cat be put down for that and it was impossible to tell leading up to her getting very sick. I like the painting with ashes idea. You’re so creative. I’m still thinking about that possible painting of our cat (not ashes, though, I hope). I haven’t forgotten!

AFM - had a nice break with bro and SIL visiting from the UK but they’ve gone back now and hubby is back to work next week and I start my course on the 17th and and dreading juggling school without proper childcare. She’s also been a bit fussy on and off at night, likely because her molars on both sides at the top are partially through. At least she can chew properly almost anything now, which is nice. We are also still BFing, esp at night, which means we have to clean her teeth properly before bed, otherwise food residue + breast milk can lead to cavities. It’s been a challenge getting her to brush her teeth, but I figured out a way of doing it - hubby and I sing a silly song about brushing her teeth but we stop dead every time she pulls away or purses her lips. She loves hearing the song so she usually opens her mouth right up haha. So cute.

Wow sorry for essay.

 

[DobbyForever]

Thanks ladies. I mean as a mom 98% of the time she is awesome. She just can't regulate her negative emotions. I'm pretty sure whatever med she takes is an antipsychotic. She does verbally abuse my stepdad on the daily, to the point where I have seriously reconsidered naming them guardians. But as you can see by my cousins, I don't really have a lot by way of family or friends I can leave Aiden to. Idc. Just exhausting. Like yeah it's weeks between when she blows up at one of her kids, but it's so aggravating. Like I've had teachers (yes, plural) call in CPS and she would tell me I had to stop going to class/counseling crying about how she's so verbally abusive because they'd take away my younger brothers. ANYWAY I told my mom that I will not have that kind of behavior around Aiden and that I would like to work things out one day because she is an important part of both our lives. But I also told her and all the idiots to no long consider me family. I am so sick of them.

Jez the singing while brushing is so flipping cute!!! I didn't mind your "Rant" at all. I know some women can safely bedshare. I'm just not one of them. I love my pillows and blankets and rolling around and I don't nurse at night/at all and there was totally a gap he could have rolled into. He just always rolls towards me never away because he's clingy so I used that to my advantage

Wook sorry about the bottle. hopefully she takes. worrying about feeding while working stinks gl with W30 i have a lot of friends who have done it but they were already super fit so i was like why lol

 

[M&S+Bump]

Defo with you on the bedsharing Jez. Way better to be educated on all possibilities and accept and help people instead of just a blanket no.

Tattoos - text is printed off, checked and signed off by artist and customer, then stencilled, checked again and then the stencil is placed on the skin exactly as it came out of the computer and/or stencil machine, checked AGAIN by everyone involved, and only then tattooed onto the skin following the stencil. At least in my shop. If a mistake happens, it really depends whose fault it is as to what is done - if a customer brought in a phrase in a foreign language or script, then on their own head be it that it may have errors in it. If they provided a phrase verbally but the artist misspelled it and it wasn’t picked up at any point ( has happened once) then the options were fix it - that turned out not to be possible - cover it up free of charge or laser removal (which we also provide but if didn’t, would pay to get it done elsewhere although I doubt many people would be as generous and would just say tough titties, you checked it) then fix of the letters in question. Customer opted for laser and re-do. Any other time it has happened it has been the customer’s fault for providing incorrect spellings of names or wrong dates, or bad translations (any time someone brings in script, we always say ’I don’t speak latin/mandarin/etc - are you SURE this is correct and the way you want it because this exactly is what you’re going to get tattooed on you’) in which case, sorry dude, that’s your fault and I don’t care. If it’s an easy fix like changing an o into an a or something then out of goodwill we’ll do that as a touch up for free. Anything else, your problem, not mine.

As for mistakes made during fine tattoos - they should not be taking on things they can’t handle, and yes, most tattoo artists have incredibly steady hands in spite of the brick of a vibrating machine they’re holding - it’s incredible to me who can’t draw a straight line on a piece of paper lol. If an artist is not confident they can carry out what is asked, then they should turn down the request or advise a way it would be more tattooable. If a genuine mistake happens then in a decent studio, everyone will bend over backwards to try and fix it to the customer’s satisfaction (thickening lines is a simple way of fixing a tiny wobble for example) But at the end of the day, it’s not drawing on paper or canvas - skin is moving, changing, stretching and shrinking continually. Anyone getting a fineline circle tattooed and expecting it to look like a perfect circle for more than a few weeks is an idiot. That isn’t how tattoos work. An artist who gives a crap will tell you that upfront.