General chatter while we wait (and commentary on the "pull out method")

[autumnal]

I cannot wait to test I'm feeling so impatient!! Monday feels so far off. But I'm 7 dpo today and no good symptoms..

 

[shaescott]

Whelp BFN today, spotting increased slightly, progesterone is still super low, and my temp took a small dip, so I’m calling it. Oh well. At least I get to drink at DH’s best friend’s New Year’s Eve party

Unfortunately the PMS mood is hitting and I am very overstimulated today, every sound that isn’t directly under my control to stop is bad, so I’m hiding in my bedroom listening to Christmas music while DH does his ADHD multitasking thing of watching a TV show on his phone while making himself ramen because God forbid he do any task ever without videos playing in the background (can you tell this pisses me off immensely?). The man is incapable of finding his damn headphones. Also I had to change into a tank top because I got overheated with rage when he was eating Reese’s puffs. I’m starting to think the idea of being sent away to a hut during menstruation might not be a terrible thing I told DH that if we ever get rich, I want either a cabin in the woods or a soundproofed room in the basement where I can go hide (he suggested a lobotomy, might be cheaper), I just need modern plumbing, electricity, heat/ac, and a comfy bed. Ideally I wouldn’t be able to hear any appliance noises, those would drive me up a wall. Fridge compressors in a quiet room are the worst, I started sleeping with earplugs in college because the mini fridge was so damn loud. Bonus for a TV and nice speaker system in said room/cabin. I like noise when I can control it. The moment it’s out of my control to shut off or change immediately, we’ve got a problem (when I’m super overstimulated, usually amplified by being hormonal, most days I deal perfectly fine). Anyway, somehow my mom didn’t ever suspect I might be autistic

 

[gigglebox]

I was just going to say Shae, with all due respect, are you on the spectrum? The older I get, the more I realize I probably am…especially since I’m fairly certain my Dad had Asperger’s and my first kiddo is HFA…well there must be a link in between lol.

Anyway so sorry about the negative but yay for New Year’s parties! And Christmas too! Don’t be too harsh with hubby!

Autumnal look at you! I’m impressed by your determination. 7dpo and I’d have the cheapies out at least. I will say I don’t put any stock into any symptoms anymore, especially not after this last time. I mean I had zero inklings I might be pregnant. So you never know!

 

[HalfricanMa]

Don't feel bad if you don't get started as soon as you'd like ... Lots of people these days are starting in their 30s and managing to have like five or six shockingly!!! I'm one of those who can't get pregnant while breastfeeding so it takes me forever to produce them hahahah

I am the same way!! Breastfeeding totally stops my cycle entirely! Hence, the provera this time to kick start it and after baby 1 they just used clomid because I wasnt getting my first pp period. Lmao!

 

[HalfricanMa]

Whelp BFN today, spotting increased slightly, progesterone is still super low, and my temp took a small dip, so I’m calling it. Oh well. At least I get to drink at DH’s best friend’s New Year’s Eve party

Unfortunately the PMS mood is hitting and I am very overstimulated today, every sound that isn’t directly under my control to stop is bad, so I’m hiding in my bedroom listening to Christmas music while DH does his ADHD multitasking thing of watching a TV show on his phone while making himself ramen because God forbid he do any task ever without videos playing in the background (can you tell this pisses me off immensely?). The man is incapable of finding his damn headphones. Also I had to change into a tank top because I got overheated with rage when he was eating Reese’s puffs. I’m starting to think the idea of being sent away to a hut during menstruation might not be a terrible thing I told DH that if we ever get rich, I want either a cabin in the woods or a soundproofed room in the basement where I can go hide (he suggested a lobotomy, might be cheaper), I just need modern plumbing, electricity, heat/ac, and a comfy bed. Ideally I wouldn’t be able to hear any appliance noises, those would drive me up a wall. Fridge compressors in a quiet room are the worst, I started sleeping with earplugs in college because the mini fridge was so damn loud. Bonus for a TV and nice speaker system in said room/cabin. I like noise when I can control it. The moment it’s out of my control to shut off or change immediately, we’ve got a problem (when I’m super overstimulated, usually amplified by being hormonal, most days I deal perfectly fine). Anyway, somehow my mom didn’t ever suspect I might be autistic

That might be a challenge when an uncontrollable baby comes along. But on a positive note, when you have 10 minutes, check out on youtube Drew Lynch “Being married to someone with ADHD”. It’s a standup act. My DH has adhd and it’s prevalent in his family. I found that 10 min comedic act so hysterical that I texted it to his family group text. Everyone died laughing and we now frequently quote it!

 

[shaescott]

I was just going to say Shae, with all due respect, are you on the spectrum? The older I get, the more I realize I probably am…especially since I’m fairly certain my Dad had Asperger’s and my first kiddo is HFA…well there must be a link in between lol.

Anyway so sorry about the negative but yay for New Year’s parties! And Christmas too! Don’t be too harsh with hubby!

I’m not diagnosed, but I like to say I’ve been diagnosed by peer review getting diagnosed as a woman who is able to function in public spaces 99.9% of the time, makes great eye contact, and just has misophonia and also has supbar social skills, is near impossible. If I was having frequent meltdowns maybe it would be different, but I’m not. Also, without my misophonia trigger sounds being involved, I really don’t get overstimulated. Apparently it doesn’t count as autism overstimulation if there’s a specific trigger sound, only if it’s from too many sounds/sensory inputs at once. Once one of those triggers is introduced (chewing gum, eating crunchy foods, lip smacking, etc [just typing those out makes me uncomfortable agh]), my brain begins to go into fight or flight mode. The good news is that usually I can walk away from those sounds, or at least within a few minutes. If I’m not hormonal, off my Prozac, or already frustrated by something else, I can last a few minutes until escape becomes available, and even if those things are true I often am able to control my reaction for a short period of time. It’s when there’s no escape from the sound that’s the problem. I will hyperfixate on the sound, start overheating, plan escape routes, try to think of appropriate ways to ask the person to stop making the sound without being disrespectful (sometimes not an option at all cuz people are allowed to eat food), and desperately do everything I can not to let myself snap. So yeah, I worry immensely about when my children are too young to understand how to chew with their mouths closed. But anyway, I didn’t yell at hubby, don’t worry, I told him I was going to go hide in the bedroom so I didn’t snap at him, and he understood.

 

[shaescott]

That might be a challenge when an uncontrollable baby comes along. But on a positive note, when you have 10 minutes, check out on youtube Drew Lynch “Being married to someone with ADHD”. It’s a standup act. My DH has adhd and it’s prevalent in his family. I found that 10 min comedic act so hysterical that I texted it to his family group text. Everyone died laughing and we now frequently quote it!

Yeah, I’m not worried about crying/yelling terribly much, just slurping/eating noises. When they’re a baby if they’re a loud breastmilk drinker I can just throw in some headphones if I really need to, but once they’re a bit older and loudly chomping on solid foods, they’ll need my full attention. Hopefully I’ll find it cute

I feel like I’ve heard of that comedian. I’ll look it up!