Grandmothers on mothers day...am i being silly?

[AP]

I know the children and DH have been making things at playgroup for me, and he told me not to look in a large envelope on the shelf. he did however, pull out a shop-bought card and asked "What do you think?"

And my heart dropped. It's been a long time since I've felt so defensive about the in-laws but I felt quite hurt. Mothers day, well, I'm the children's mother, right?

Thing is, I had this debate with myself last week. As a child I used to give my granny something for mothers day too, but this was because they actually cared for me more than my mother (we were at her house all day every day and basically only slept at my house) Now I don't know what my mum thought about that, but she didnt seem to mind. But when I put myself in her shoes, I thought "shit, what if she did feel hurt?"

So I just said to DH "Isn't there a grannys day? I'm their mum?" I almost cried but I think I'm feeling cigarette withdrawals to be fair

What do you think about Mothers Day cards for Grandparents?

Isn't there a grandmothers day?

Feel free to tell me I'm silly, won't ban you or anything

 

[DonnaBallona]

we do cards for mums, nans, and step mum.

iv also done a card before for my SIL, she can't have children and dotes on my 3

I'm happy to share, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. xx

 

[cookette]

Personally, I think its mothers day for a reason. In your case where your granny raised you, I think thats different as it sounds like she filled the mother role herself. We do not do anything for the grandmothers.

 

[LeannieB]

Hi i have got my mum and OHs mum a card from the boys for Mother's Day. X

 

[DonnaBallona]

I guess it's more like 'influential women day' in our house as opposed to Mother's Day

 

[Vesta]

I never got my grandmothers a card for mother's day, and neither will my LO. It's Mother's Day! He only has one mum.

 

[RaspberryK]

Mothers day is for you. Dh can give his own mother a card.
Xx

 

[Lucasmum]

We do mothers only but we all sign our name on the cards for mine and OHs mum

 

[jd83]

We always do a card for the grandma from the boys, or grandpa from the boys on mothers/fathers day. I know not everyone does, as its not really their day from our kids, but they do enjoy it getting cards from the kids.

 

[AP]

I can't believe I felt that way , I almost feel bad. but she doesn't come close. She's never had them overnight. She never had to walk away from her baby in a hospital for 3 months, or take meds and tests to hold on to Tori's pregnancy. She isn't the one bringing up a toddler and child with autism.

I think I just feel fiercely protective over that status because I've had to go through more and work harder than some, and she's not even close. I don't mean to sound rotten.

Gonna look up grandmothers day I feel bad for making DH feel bad, he had good intentions

The celebration was introduced to the UK in 1990 by the charity Age Concern. It has been celebrated on the first Sunday in October since 2008,[14] although it is not widely advertised and hasn't been as commercially successful as Mother's and Father's Day. Businesses specialising in gifts and greeting cards have started merging the respective grandparents days with Mother's Day and Father's Day to try to boost sales.

 

[special_kala]

We dont do cards for nans x

 

[AP]

ARGH

I said off the cuff remark earlier
"Just give it to her"

I didn't think he'd take me seriously but he has just sat with the girls and signed it with them.

 

[Natasha2605]

Men! In your case I'd be a bit peeved, especially seeing as your relationship with your MIL is a little strained. I'd KILL my OH if he gave a card like that to his mum, she was a shit granny (before we stopped speaking to them as well)

We give a card to my mum from the kids cause she's amazing and to my nana from both me and OH and the girls. Cause she's amazing.

 

[jd83]

I don't think its wrong to feel that way, you ARE the mother and the day is for MOTHERS! that's why we just stick to cards, not gifts from the kids for the grandparents. We buy them gifts from us, since we are their kids, and just a card from our kids. If our kids do gifts, they are for us, the parents.

 

[Eleanor ace]

I'm not a fan of giving grandmothers or anyone else cards or presents on mothers day, I see it as a day to celebrate mothers and all what they do, it's not female relations day. It makes sense to give cards to people who take on a mothering role, like step mothers or godmothers/grandmothers etc if they play a big role.

 

[AP]

Natasha you probably remember as well as me what crap she put me through in the last few years. She's actually lessened a bit now, a few guilt trips thrown about (she's a bit like that)

I'm kinda heartbroken now to be honest that he knows how I feel about it and hasn't just said "you're right Hun"

It's hard enough to be mum when I'm working full time.

 

[AP]

I'm not a fan of giving grandmothers or anyone else cards or presents on mothers day, I see it as a day to celebrate mothers and all what they do, it's not female relations day. It makes sense to give cards to people who take on a mothering role, like step mothers or godmothers/grandmothers etc if they play a big role.

That's the thing, they are miles away and me and the kids see them less than monthly. I bought cards for my gran because she was the one who brought us up.

 

[Jaysmummy]

I buy a card for my mum of the kids, if OH wanted his mum to have one he can sort that himself.

 

[Baby Bell]

No LO doesn't give his grannies cards. Oh and I give our mums cards from us cause they our mums.....but no granny cards, neither of us ever gave granny cards when we were kids. It would be different if she was raising the kids, but if she's been as bad as you say I would tell your oh that you weren't happy about it.

 

[Stacey_Ann]

I have always got my nan and mum Mother's Day cards, I was fortunate enough to live 5mins away from my grandparents until I was 16 so am very close to them (even though we're now 2hrs away) and spent lots of time with them, however that's my family all over.

I get my grandad and step dad a Father's Day card too.

DH's never done this, he just gives to his parents.

Although we're not able to see my parents and grandparents as often as we'd like I've got them cards from me and cards from DS.

Xx