"Guesses"

[Naaxi]

I am so nervous for people to "guess" that I am having a girl. I have a boy already and DH and I decided that this will be our last (even though I'd be happy to have four more). Well we also used a donor that only has boys so far, so chances are high that this one will be another boy. To a degree, I have already mourned the fact that I will probably never have a daughter. I look at cute little girl clothes and sigh. But I can get over it. I know I will love another son as well. BUT those "guesses" that because I have a boy, the majority will be saying this is a girl... I know they will inadvertently get my hopes up slightly and I don't want that. Does anyone else feel the same about these "guesses"?

 

[motherofboys]

I found girl guesses got my hopes up and boy guesses deflated me. I'd have rather had no guesses at all LMAO

 

[Naaxi]

Eurgh yes. I would prefer no guesses at all, but I know they are coming. It's a boy, people! And if you say you "have a good feeling" otherwise... I'm going to go all pregnant hormonal on your ass! This way, if it *is* a girl, I will be pleasantly surprised. But if it is a boy, as I can assume it will be, I won't cry right in the ultrasound room as I will be prepared. It isn't that I don't want another boy. If I was having my desired six kids, another four boys would be fine! But because this is my last, I don't want to never have a daughter.

 

[motherofboys]

I know what you mean. I found out on Tuesday I'm having my 4th boy.
We had a pretty obvious nub which got all boy guesses at my 12 week scan so I had 4 weeks to prepare myself.
Everything in this pregnancy has been so different from my 1st 3, and everyone said that must mean its a girl. But I just kept telling myself it was a boy.
When I stopped building up the need for a girl and just accepted that this was a boy, I actually felt at peace with the idea and although if we ever did have another baby (undecided at the moment) I'd love to have a daughter, I know now that I'd be ok with a boy too. This is my first gender disappointment experience and I think because I knew there was a chance it was my last it made it worse.

 

[Naaxi]

I am glad that I am not alone. I am also glad that you are at peace with your fourth boy. They must all have a pretty great bond, though That's another thing I keep telling myself; brothers can be best friends, more so than a brother and a sister, for sure.

 

[motherofboys]

There are many benefits to having the same gender. I've saved lots of money with clothes and baby toys. I buy bigger sets of some toys now they are older than I would have done had there just been one because they can share things and I don't mind buying some slightly more expensive things because I think at least the next one will play with it and I'll get more value for money out of it. They all have similar interests. I hope that they remain close and keep doing things together when they are older.

 

[maybebaby3]

Yeah girl guesses got my hopes up only to find out its another boy! Gotten over it more or less now tho!