"Guesses"

Discussion in 'Gender Disappointment' started by Naaxi, May 8, 2013.

  1. Naaxi

    Naaxi 2 little raggamuffins

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    I am so nervous for people to "guess" that I am having a girl. I have a boy already and DH and I decided that this will be our last (even though I'd be happy to have four more). Well we also used a donor that only has boys so far, so chances are high that this one will be another boy. To a degree, I have already mourned the fact that I will probably never have a daughter. I look at cute little girl clothes and sigh. But I can get over it. I know I will love another son as well. BUT those "guesses" that because I have a boy, the majority will be saying this is a girl... I know they will inadvertently get my hopes up slightly and I don't want that. Does anyone else feel the same about these "guesses"?
     
  2. motherofboys

    motherofboys Mum of 4 boys. Baby 5 due April

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    I found girl guesses got my hopes up and boy guesses deflated me. I'd have rather had no guesses at all LMAO
     
  3. Naaxi

    Naaxi 2 little raggamuffins

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    Eurgh yes. I would prefer no guesses at all, but I know they are coming. It's a boy, people! And if you say you "have a good feeling" otherwise... I'm going to go all pregnant hormonal on your ass! This way, if it *is* a girl, I will be pleasantly surprised. But if it is a boy, as I can assume it will be, I won't cry right in the ultrasound room as I will be prepared. It isn't that I don't want another boy. If I was having my desired six kids, another four boys would be fine! But because this is my last, I don't want to never have a daughter.
     
  4. motherofboys

    motherofboys Mum of 4 boys. Baby 5 due April

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    I know what you mean. I found out on Tuesday I'm having my 4th boy.
    We had a pretty obvious nub which got all boy guesses at my 12 week scan so I had 4 weeks to prepare myself.
    Everything in this pregnancy has been so different from my 1st 3, and everyone said that must mean its a girl. But I just kept telling myself it was a boy.
    When I stopped building up the need for a girl and just accepted that this was a boy, I actually felt at peace with the idea and although if we ever did have another baby (undecided at the moment) I'd love to have a daughter, I know now that I'd be ok with a boy too. This is my first gender disappointment experience and I think because I knew there was a chance it was my last it made it worse.
     
  5. Naaxi

    Naaxi 2 little raggamuffins

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    I am glad that I am not alone. I am also glad that you are at peace with your fourth boy. They must all have a pretty great bond, though :) That's another thing I keep telling myself; brothers can be best friends, more so than a brother and a sister, for sure.
     
  6. motherofboys

    motherofboys Mum of 4 boys. Baby 5 due April

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    There are many benefits to having the same gender. I've saved lots of money with clothes and baby toys. I buy bigger sets of some toys now they are older than I would have done had there just been one because they can share things and I don't mind buying some slightly more expensive things because I think at least the next one will play with it and I'll get more value for money out of it. They all have similar interests. I hope that they remain close and keep doing things together when they are older.
     
  7. maybebaby3

    maybebaby3 Proud mum of 4!

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    Yeah girl guesses got my hopes up only to find out its another boy! Gotten over it more or less now tho! :)
     

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