Well atm we know for sure that I have the hemoglobin e trait. Since it is just a trait, it doesnt affect my life. I can live my life like any other normal people. The problem is if my husband also has the trait (which we dont know at this point until further testing) this could result a baby with thalassemia which basically means a child who is severely anemic and will need life long blood transfusion and usually doesnt live past 30 years of age. The percentage for both parents who have this trait to have a thalassemic baby is 1 in 4. Thats pretty high if you ask me. My son only inherited the trait, which is good. That means he's just like me and wont be having any problems. So at this point there are only 2 scenarios. Either I'm the only one who carries the trait and my husband doesnt and I was the one who passed the trait down to my son or both of us have the trait and our son got lucky and wasnt affected.
We were supposed to go in for blood testing today to see if my husband has the trait or not. If we both have the trait, then the baby would need to be tested via amnio...but my husband couldnt get up in the morning so he said we would go in on Monday or Tuesday instead which means more waiting. I was super upset this morning and was crying because I just want answers.
God forbid but if my husband also has the trait and the baby turns out to have thalassemia, I dont think I will continue with this pregnancy. Not that I dont love my baby but I just dont want him/her to come to this world and end up suffering from a life long condition. He/she would need regular blood transfusion starting at 6 months of age and will have growth problems and wont live past 30...in my opinion I think it is worse than down syndrome... but we shall see. At the moment, I am just keeping my fingers crossed and praying, but thinking about the possibility of not being able to carry my child much longer breaks my heart.
If things dont end will, dh and I have decided that we wont have anymore children and our son will be an only child. If the baby is unaffected..we will still stop at 2 since we dont want to take a risk each time... but I am still hoping that my husband doesnt have the trait and our lives can go back to normal and we can continue havign children as planned.