Heaven as a name?

[fieryphoenix]

I like Heaven, I think it's pretty!

It does possibly sound like a stripper name or a porn star name -- but a lot of names fall into that category. After all, strippers & porn stars are choosing names that are intentionally pretty & feminine.

I love Angelina. There is no reason to argue with the FOB as you said. Most likely he will change his mind, or his family will say something negative about the name and he will find a diff one he likes.

Just say to him "I'm happy you are getting excited about the baby" or something that encourages his involvement!

what stippers do you know lol... around here strippers HAVE to have normal names, it make clients more relaxed and everything feel more real - I know an Ely, Libby, Louise, Mary, Donna, Joanna, Kelly, Denise etc... Ive never in my life met a stripper with a weird or even slightly out there name

It must be a US thing, most strippers have silly names here! At least in my experience

 

[JJKCB]

I like Heaven, I think it's pretty!

It does possibly sound like a stripper name or a porn star name -- but a lot of names fall into that category. After all, strippers & porn stars are choosing names that are intentionally pretty & feminine.

I love Angelina. There is no reason to argue with the FOB as you said. Most likely he will change his mind, or his family will say something negative about the name and he will find a diff one he likes.

Just say to him "I'm happy you are getting excited about the baby" or something that encourages his involvement!

what stippers do you know lol... around here strippers HAVE to have normal names, it make clients more relaxed and everything feel more real - I know an Ely, Libby, Louise, Mary, Donna, Joanna, Kelly, Denise etc... Ive never in my life met a stripper with a weird or even slightly out there name

It must be a US thing, most strippers have silly names here! At least in my experience

how exotic lol wonder what the 'stripper' names are now

 

[yogababy]

love it !!! i love hippie names such as heaven flower honey rainbow peace moon gaia river summer avril-april ......

 

[Tasha]

I am not against hippie names (I have a Honey) but I don't like it x

 

[xjesx]

I think it would sound like a stripper's stage name in her attempt to be ironic.

 

[slg76]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

 

[surprisepg]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

Thank you. Its not right to feel like this around the man I created this miracle with. We were never like this so I'm having such a difficult time with all of this.

 

[RubyRainbows]

I like Heaven, I think it's pretty!

It does possibly sound like a stripper name or a porn star name -- but a lot of names fall into that category. After all, strippers & porn stars are choosing names that are intentionally pretty & feminine.

I love Angelina. There is no reason to argue with the FOB as you said. Most likely he will change his mind, or his family will say something negative about the name and he will find a diff one he likes.

Just say to him "I'm happy you are getting excited about the baby" or something that encourages his involvement!

what stippers do you know lol... around here strippers HAVE to have normal names, it make clients more relaxed and everything feel more real - I know an Ely, Libby, Louise, Mary, Donna, Joanna, Kelly, Denise etc... Ive never in my life met a stripper with a weird or even slightly out there name

In the US strippers always have "Stage names" names like: Chasity Raine or Amber Skyy or Diamond or Sapphire Starr

 

[deafgal]

I know some with the name star or angel. Not a big deal. No bigger than being named after a flower that most people do.

 

[surprisepg]

I guess I rather Heaven over blue, north and apple *shrugs shoulders*

 

[slg76]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

Thank you. Its not right to feel like this around the man I created this miracle with. We were never like this so I'm having such a difficult time with all of this.

I assume from your screen name that this pregnancy wasn't planned. Maybe he is having a hard time dealing with the surprise and added responsibility? I had a hard time adjusting to the idea of being pregnant and all the changes that it was going to bring and I was in my 30s and had planned the baby! I hope he comes around and decides to support you through the pregnancy and motherhood. Make sure if you let him stick around that he is being great to you and LO

 

[surprisepg]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

Thank you. Its not right to feel like this around the man I created this miracle with. We were never like this so I'm having such a difficult time with all of this.

I assume from your screen name that this pregnancy wasn't planned. Maybe he is having a hard time dealing with the surprise and added responsibility? I had a hard time adjusting to the idea of being pregnant and all the changes that it was going to bring and I was in my 30s and had planned the baby! I hope he comes around and decides to support you through the pregnancy and motherhood. Make sure if you let him stick around that he is being great to you and LO

You are spot on!! I didnt think pregnancy was possible at my age :/ I know soooooooo stupid to think that. Thing is this was a long distance relationship. Met him over the net then we decided it was time to meet... we did and lo and behold it took us 2 weeks to conceive this child. He is having a real hard time with this to the point he avoids it as much as he can but will have his moments of showing me how interested he is in this pregnancy. He gets overwhelmed again then backs off.

I too hope he come around the way it was I miss him so much, I miss my friend above everything else, but I also recognise that this baby was meant to be.

 

[JJKCB]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

Thank you. Its not right to feel like this around the man I created this miracle with. We were never like this so I'm having such a difficult time with all of this.

I assume from your screen name that this pregnancy wasn't planned. Maybe he is having a hard time dealing with the surprise and added responsibility? I had a hard time adjusting to the idea of being pregnant and all the changes that it was going to bring and I was in my 30s and had planned the baby! I hope he comes around and decides to support you through the pregnancy and motherhood. Make sure if you let him stick around that he is being great to you and LO

You are spot on!! I didnt think pregnancy was possible at my age :/ I know soooooooo stupid to think that. Thing is this was a long distance relationship. Met him over the net then we decided it was time to meet... we did and lo and behold it took us 2 weeks to conceive this child. He is having a real hard time with this to the point he avoids it as much as he can but will have his moments of showing me how interested he is in this pregnancy. He gets overwhelmed again then backs off.

I too hope he come around the way it was I miss him so much, I miss my friend above everything else, but I also recognise that this baby was meant to be.

similar-ish to me... we met and got pregnant very quick and he 'never' wanted kids, even said at one point he would shoot the baby - he is now the best dad you will ever meet in your life, something just clicked the second he saw him

hope it works out for you

 

[surprisepg]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

Thank you. Its not right to feel like this around the man I created this miracle with. We were never like this so I'm having such a difficult time with all of this.

I assume from your screen name that this pregnancy wasn't planned. Maybe he is having a hard time dealing with the surprise and added responsibility? I had a hard time adjusting to the idea of being pregnant and all the changes that it was going to bring and I was in my 30s and had planned the baby! I hope he comes around and decides to support you through the pregnancy and motherhood. Make sure if you let him stick around that he is being great to you and LO

You are spot on!! I didnt think pregnancy was possible at my age :/ I know soooooooo stupid to think that. Thing is this was a long distance relationship. Met him over the net then we decided it was time to meet... we did and lo and behold it took us 2 weeks to conceive this child. He is having a real hard time with this to the point he avoids it as much as he can but will have his moments of showing me how interested he is in this pregnancy. He gets overwhelmed again then backs off.

I too hope he come around the way it was I miss him so much, I miss my friend above everything else, but I also recognise that this baby was meant to be.

similar-ish to me... we met and got pregnant very quick and he 'never' wanted kids, even said at one point he would shoot the baby - he is now the best dad you will ever meet in your life, something just clicked the second he saw him

hope it works out for you

Its not that he never wanted kids, he just never thought he would have any especially not now. You give me hope. Thank you!! Not to pry are you and him together?

I really hope something clicks for him when he sees this baby, I guess he could and still can walk away but I hope that he steps up. I know that he would be a great dad.

 

[JJKCB]

sorry FOB is being so difficult. You are right that you shouldn't have to tiptoe around him to keep him from leaving. I hope things work out for the best and you two can both be with LO and love LO whether together or apart.

Thank you. Its not right to feel like this around the man I created this miracle with. We were never like this so I'm having such a difficult time with all of this.

I assume from your screen name that this pregnancy wasn't planned. Maybe he is having a hard time dealing with the surprise and added responsibility? I had a hard time adjusting to the idea of being pregnant and all the changes that it was going to bring and I was in my 30s and had planned the baby! I hope he comes around and decides to support you through the pregnancy and motherhood. Make sure if you let him stick around that he is being great to you and LO

You are spot on!! I didnt think pregnancy was possible at my age :/ I know soooooooo stupid to think that. Thing is this was a long distance relationship. Met him over the net then we decided it was time to meet... we did and lo and behold it took us 2 weeks to conceive this child. He is having a real hard time with this to the point he avoids it as much as he can but will have his moments of showing me how interested he is in this pregnancy. He gets overwhelmed again then backs off.

I too hope he come around the way it was I miss him so much, I miss my friend above everything else, but I also recognise that this baby was meant to be.

similar-ish to me... we met and got pregnant very quick and he 'never' wanted kids, even said at one point he would shoot the baby - he is now the best dad you will ever meet in your life, something just clicked the second he saw him

hope it works out for you

Its not that he never wanted kids, he just never thought he would have any especially not now. You give me hope. Thank you!! Not to pry are you and him together?

I really hope something clicks for him when he sees this baby, I guess he could and still can walk away but I hope that he steps up. I know that he would be a great dad.

kind of, we have our moments though... he left when our DS was 3 months and I dated someone else for a while but we still saw each other everyday because he came to see our son and then we just sort of ended up back together although he never moved back in (keeps claiming hes going to but I think hes just too comfortable at his mothers house) and were just about to start fertility treatment for number 2 so I guess he doesnt hate babies anymore

 

[daneuse27]

I'm shocked that anyone would ever say that they would shoot an innocent baby That is just horrific.

 

[surprisepg]

Its not that he never wanted kids, he just never thought he would have any especially not now. You give me hope. Thank you!! Not to pry are you and him together?

I really hope something clicks for him when he sees this baby, I guess he could and still can walk away but I hope that he steps up. I know that he would be a great dad.

kind of, we have our moments though... he left when our DS was 3 months and I dated someone else for a while but we still saw each other everyday because he came to see our son and then we just sort of ended up back together although he never moved back in (keeps claiming hes going to but I think hes just too comfortable at his mothers house) and were just about to start fertility treatment for number 2 so I guess he doesnt hate babies anymore

Well if you two are planning on another baby I would say that you both have come a long way. I guess not all men are dead beat dads. The issue with us is the distance. We live in different countries. He can be very immature and selfish but he has shown me a side that I adore. He did tell me at the beginning that he was thinking about moving to be with me and our child something I didnt think he would even consider. I'm hopping that maybe once he sees the baby he might think about it or at least try. I guess thats why I dont want to rock the boat with him.

 

[slg76]

Its not that he never wanted kids, he just never thought he would have any especially not now. You give me hope. Thank you!! Not to pry are you and him together?

I really hope something clicks for him when he sees this baby, I guess he could and still can walk away but I hope that he steps up. I know that he would be a great dad.

kind of, we have our moments though... he left when our DS was 3 months and I dated someone else for a while but we still saw each other everyday because he came to see our son and then we just sort of ended up back together although he never moved back in (keeps claiming hes going to but I think hes just too comfortable at his mothers house) and were just about to start fertility treatment for number 2 so I guess he doesnt hate babies anymore

Well if you two are planning on another baby I would say that you both have come a long way. I guess not all men are dead beat dads. The issue with us is the distance. We live in different countries. He can be very immature and selfish but he has shown me a side that I adore. He did tell me at the beginning that he was thinking about moving to be with me and our child something I didnt think he would even consider. I'm hopping that maybe once he sees the baby he might think about it or at least try. I guess thats why I dont want to rock the boat with him.

Wow! It sounds like you have a complicated situation. Can I ask how old you are? No wonder you guys are so overwhelmed. Two weeks is such a little amount of time to be with somebody before a pregnancy! How long were you talking on the internet beforehand? I sure hope that you two get a a peaceful place before LO is born. I met my hubby on the internet

 

[surprisepg]

Its not that he never wanted kids, he just never thought he would have any especially not now. You give me hope. Thank you!! Not to pry are you and him together?

I really hope something clicks for him when he sees this baby, I guess he could and still can walk away but I hope that he steps up. I know that he would be a great dad.

kind of, we have our moments though... he left when our DS was 3 months and I dated someone else for a while but we still saw each other everyday because he came to see our son and then we just sort of ended up back together although he never moved back in (keeps claiming hes going to but I think hes just too comfortable at his mothers house) and were just about to start fertility treatment for number 2 so I guess he doesnt hate babies anymore

Well if you two are planning on another baby I would say that you both have come a long way. I guess not all men are dead beat dads. The issue with us is the distance. We live in different countries. He can be very immature and selfish but he has shown me a side that I adore. He did tell me at the beginning that he was thinking about moving to be with me and our child something I didnt think he would even consider. I'm hopping that maybe once he sees the baby he might think about it or at least try. I guess thats why I dont want to rock the boat with him.

Wow! It sounds like you have a complicated situation. Can I ask how old you are? No wonder you guys are so overwhelmed. Two weeks is such a little amount of time to be with somebody before a pregnancy! How long were you talking on the internet beforehand? I sure hope that you two get a a peaceful place before LO is born. I met my hubby on the internet

Yea its complicated and it worries me so much. I'm 37 and he's 33 although he can be very immature and selfish at times if not most. He's never had a real relationship and has admitted to me he has commitment issues so you can imagine how this is overwhelming him. We were talking for 2 years before we met. We had an instant connection still have this insane attraction for one another and like he has told me we have chemistry and now a soul tie.

I have a feeling that things wont change until LO is born. Up till last week he was telling me how I dont look pregnant and things that basically hinted to me that this hasnt sunk in. We were on cam and he was in awe of my belly and said I did that to you and he did reveal to me that he doesnt like to think about this situation so Im assuming that talking to me reminds him therefore he stays away from me.

UGHHHH!!! Ive been going to a therapist about this and like she says to me I have to just keep him up to date with all things baby and hopefully he comes around before the baby is born. She told me that shes seen many first time fathers react this way and only truly come around once baby is born and they see their child for the first time. I'm starting to believe this is true.

 

[slg76]

What your therapist says does make sense. It can be hard for a pregnancy to sink in for a woman and it's inside our body!! It must be pretty easy for him to distance himself from it since he is so far away and has his own everyday life apart from you. I hope he falls madly in love with LO when he/she gets here and maybe even before. Sounds like you should hope for the best but prepare to raise baby on your own just in case. I am 37 also. I have a beautiful 3 year old and I've been trying for #2 for a year and a half now. Hopefully I won't be far behind you!