My husband came to one of my previous appointments (just to meet the midwife really) but the appointment I am going to have at home next week (at 31 weeks) will be a longer one than normal with him there. The midwife was very flexible about when it was, saying that it could be at weekend if necessary, so long as it was when she was on duty, so that he could be there.
She said to make a list of any questions we may have, and she will take time to go through them all. And she will run through all her normal stuff too, like what she brings along, etc.
edit I would mention it next time you speak Shirley, giving her a prod to organise it won't hurt. But it seems to vary from area to area as to when they do the home visit.
On a different note, how much baby clothing, blankets, etc have any of you got to get you started?
We are not wanting to get too much, as we figure for the clothes we will want to see how big the baby is before buying. And on the sheets, blankets, grobags, swaddling blanket front - we also figure we need to see what the baby responds too. I have heard of some hating being swaddled, or loving it, or hating grobags etc, so don't want to go crazy.
We have got about 7 basic short sleeve no-leg body things (and will get another pack of 5 or 7), 1 long sleeve one and 1 short sleeve one in nice designs for showing off purposes, a light cotton blanket, a fleecy blanket, 2 swaddling blankets (buy one get one half price from gro!), 3 pairs of huggalugs legwarmers, and a couple of lightweight cardigans. Plus a sun hat and a beanie type hat.
All of those are in 0-3 size rather than newborn as both my husband and I were 8lb+ at birth and I am consistently measuring a week ahead, so I figure it won't be super tiny. Does that sound OK to get us going? We have got, or will have, nappies, muslins, cot sheets, etc as well of course, and a sling, car seat and pram.
And we can race out to the local Asda Living/George as soon as we need to!