Hospital vs home birth?

[krismarie621]

I was talking about over here in response to 'maybe mws in the uk are different'.

& No, its not uncommon in the US, as is csections due to failure to progress. Coinsidense ?

I think the beauty of pregnancy and labor is that no two are alike, and we all have different ideas on how we want our pregnancy/labor to go. What works for some or makes sense to some, may not be the same to others.

I'm in Canada, not the US, by the way

 

[Pixie2320]

Put down a sheet? then bin the sheet? Or have your LO in the water? What an odd reason to say homebirth isnt for you


Anyway it seems that the US homebirth attitude is quite far behind the UKs Its really weird how different childbirth is treated in 2 similar countries.

I think it comes down to the difference in level of care.

I think I can count on one hand how many pleasant hospital birth stories I've heard from people in the UK since joining B&B, all I ever hear is how they are left alone for long periods of time un monitored, on a birthing ward with 5-20 other women, husbands being sent home at X time instead of being allowed to stay with their wife and new baby. Honestly if I was getting that kind of crap care I would probably want a home birth too.. Can't fathom spending the night in a room with other peoples newborns waking me up as well as my own... Noooo thanks.

I don't get why people seem to think that being in the hospital means you're strapped to a bed either - until it's time to push ( or once you've had your epidural) you are free to walk the halls, bounce on birthing balls, take showers, watch TV, listen to music etc etc etc all in the comfort of your own private room.

Since joining B&B I've honestly never been happier to not have uniform health care

That being said, In response to the OP, I would never consider a home birth - I could honestly never forgive myself if something went wrong and my baby died or something horrible during the 30+ minutes it would take them to transfer me to the hospital

 

[Blah11]

I was talking about over here in response to 'maybe mws in the uk are different'.

& No, its not uncommon in the US, as is csections due to failure to progress. Coinsidense ?

I think the beauty of pregnancy and labor is that no two are alike, and we all have different ideas on how we want our pregnancy/labor to go. What works for some or makes sense to some, may not be the same to others.

I'm in Canada, not the US, by the way

Exactly, so do you not find it a little bit hypocritical that you said that your friends needed an epidural so you will too?

 

[Blah11]

Put down a sheet? then bin the sheet? Or have your LO in the water? What an odd reason to say homebirth isnt for you


Anyway it seems that the US homebirth attitude is quite far behind the UKs Its really weird how different childbirth is treated in 2 similar countries.

I think it comes down to the difference in level of care.

I think I can count on one hand how many pleasant hospital birth stories I've heard from people in the UK since joining B&B, all I ever hear is how they are left alone for long periods of time un monitored, on a birthing ward with 5-20 other women, husbands being sent home at X time instead of being allowed to stay with their wife and new baby. Honestly if I was getting that kind of crap care I would probably want a home birth too.. Can't fathom spending the night in a room with other peoples newborns waking me up as well as my own... Noooo thanks.

I don't get why people seem to think that being in the hospital means you're strapped to a bed either - until it's time to push ( or once you've had your epidural) you are free to walk the halls, bounce on birthing balls, take showers, watch TV, listen to music etc etc etc all in the comfort of your own private room.

Since joining B&B I've honestly never been happier to not have uniform health care

That being said, In response to the OP, I would never consider a home birth - I could honestly never forgive myself if something went wrong and my baby died or something horrible during the 30+ minutes it would take them to transfer me to the hospital

lets be honest, if your baby died during a homebirth, or during a hospital birth, you'd blame yourself and never get over it anyway.

 

[Pixie2320]

Put down a sheet? then bin the sheet? Or have your LO in the water? What an odd reason to say homebirth isnt for you


Anyway it seems that the US homebirth attitude is quite far behind the UKs Its really weird how different childbirth is treated in 2 similar countries.

I think it comes down to the difference in level of care.

I think I can count on one hand how many pleasant hospital birth stories I've heard from people in the UK since joining B&B, all I ever hear is how they are left alone for long periods of time un monitored, on a birthing ward with 5-20 other women, husbands being sent home at X time instead of being allowed to stay with their wife and new baby. Honestly if I was getting that kind of crap care I would probably want a home birth too.. Can't fathom spending the night in a room with other peoples newborns waking me up as well as my own... Noooo thanks.

I don't get why people seem to think that being in the hospital means you're strapped to a bed either - until it's time to push ( or once you've had your epidural) you are free to walk the halls, bounce on birthing balls, take showers, watch TV, listen to music etc etc etc all in the comfort of your own private room.

Since joining B&B I've honestly never been happier to not have uniform health care

That being said, In response to the OP, I would never consider a home birth - I could honestly never forgive myself if something went wrong and my baby died or something horrible during the 30+ minutes it would take them to transfer me to the hospital

lets be honest, if your baby died during a homebirth, or during a hospital birth, you'd blame yourself and never get over it anyway.

Obviously, but I would feel much better knowing that she had immediate access to help and everything possible was able to be done for her.

 

[moomin_troll]

sorry i keep forgetting that every woman who plans a homebirth is stupid and putting our babies at risk because something is going to go wrong and our babies are going to die!

seriously why on earth would people like me plan a hb if it was so dangerous? and im getting so sick of people having this nieve opinion of homebirths

 

[krismarie621]

I was talking about over here in response to 'maybe mws in the uk are different'.

& No, its not uncommon in the US, as is csections due to failure to progress. Coinsidense ?

I think the beauty of pregnancy and labor is that no two are alike, and we all have different ideas on how we want our pregnancy/labor to go. What works for some or makes sense to some, may not be the same to others.

I'm in Canada, not the US, by the way

Exactly, so do you not find it a little bit hypocritical that you said that your friends needed an epidural so you will too?

I do believe my exact words were "Several of my friends have already known halfway through their pregnancy if or if not they are going to try for pain management - it's really not uncommon" - out of that sentence, where do you get me saying that they had an epidural so I'll need one too?

Why can you not accept/respect that my birthing views are different than yours? Why does it have to be a debate?

 

[Pixie2320]

sorry i keep forgetting that every woman who plans a homebirth is stupid and putting our babies at risk because something is going to go wrong and our babies are going to die!

seriously why on earth would people like me plan a hb if it was so dangerous? and im getting so sick of people having this nieve opinion of homebirths

I don't recall saying anything about being stupid or putting your baby at any more risk. There ARE risks involved with giving birth, and I said that *I PERSONALLY* would not risk it being as it would take at least 30 minutes to pack me up and get me to the hospital - that is my choice just like you choosing home birth is yours.

I don't think that makes me Naive it means I'm making the best choice for ME

 

[Blah11]

Whats wrong with a debate anyway. Im not being nasty, neither are you

 

[Blah11]

I dont think naive is the right word but clearly there is a lot of misinformation surrounding home births.

 

[Pixie2320]

I was talking about over here in response to 'maybe mws in the uk are different'.

& No, its not uncommon in the US, as is csections due to failure to progress. Coinsidense ?

I think the beauty of pregnancy and labor is that no two are alike, and we all have different ideas on how we want our pregnancy/labor to go. What works for some or makes sense to some, may not be the same to others.

I'm in Canada, not the US, by the way

Exactly, so do you not find it a little bit hypocritical that you said that your friends needed an epidural so you will too?

I do believe my exact words were "Several of my friends have already known halfway through their pregnancy if or if not they are going to try for pain management - it's really not uncommon" - out of that sentence, where do you get me saying that they had an epidural so I'll need one too?

Why can you not accept/respect that my birthing views are different than yours? Why does it have to be a debate?

I would agree And if you're so silly for already planning to use pain meds, then so is anyone already planning NOT to have pain meds It works both ways

 

[Blah11]

I was talking about over here in response to 'maybe mws in the uk are different'.

& No, its not uncommon in the US, as is csections due to failure to progress. Coinsidense ?

I think the beauty of pregnancy and labor is that no two are alike, and we all have different ideas on how we want our pregnancy/labor to go. What works for some or makes sense to some, may not be the same to others.

I'm in Canada, not the US, by the way

Exactly, so do you not find it a little bit hypocritical that you said that your friends needed an epidural so you will too?

I do believe my exact words were "Several of my friends have already known halfway through their pregnancy if or if not they are going to try for pain management - it's really not uncommon" - out of that sentence, where do you get me saying that they had an epidural so I'll need one too?

Why can you not accept/respect that my birthing views are different than yours? Why does it have to be a debate?

I would agree And if you're so silly for already planning to use pain meds, then so is anyone already planning NOT to have pain meds It works both ways

Ive already given birth. I went into my first with an open mind but belief in my body and unsurprisingly, my body made its own pain relief.

 

[krismarie621]

Whats wrong with a debate anyway. Im not being nasty, neither are you

I have a problem with people putting my words in my mouth. I don't have any issues with debates but when things that I say are twisted around, it annoys me.

I was talking about over here in response to 'maybe mws in the uk are different'.

& No, its not uncommon in the US, as is csections due to failure to progress. Coinsidense ?

I think the beauty of pregnancy and labor is that no two are alike, and we all have different ideas on how we want our pregnancy/labor to go. What works for some or makes sense to some, may not be the same to others.

I'm in Canada, not the US, by the way

Exactly, so do you not find it a little bit hypocritical that you said that your friends needed an epidural so you will too?

I do believe my exact words were "Several of my friends have already known halfway through their pregnancy if or if not they are going to try for pain management - it's really not uncommon" - out of that sentence, where do you get me saying that they had an epidural so I'll need one too?

Why can you not accept/respect that my birthing views are different than yours? Why does it have to be a debate?

I would agree And if you're so silly for already planning to use pain meds, then so is anyone already planning NOT to have pain meds It works both ways

THANK YOU.

 

[ahcigar1]

sorry i keep forgetting that every woman who plans a homebirth is stupid and putting our babies at risk because something is going to go wrong and our babies are going to die!

seriously why on earth would people like me plan a hb if it was so dangerous? and im getting so sick of people having this nieve opinion of homebirths

Everyone has their own opinions. I have heard many women who prefer home births also say abad things to us women who prefer the hospital route, or epidural route. Every woman is different and what she chooses what she wants shouldn't be put down by one person or the other. It should just be taken as that persons wants and opinions and left at that. If you feel more comfortable being at home then that is fine, and not faulting you for it or any other woman who chooses that route, and neither should us women who prefer to be at a hospital or to recieve epi's.

 

[Blah11]

So its okay to say homebirths are dangerous but god forbid if anyone disagrees with the overuse of epidurals

 

[Pixie2320]

I can respect that and even acknowledge that it might happen, but for now- my plans are to have pain management.. I was just pointing out that tutting someone for already planning to have it is just as silly as if I went around telling women they were going to have a natural drug free birth that they were daft for already making plans savvy?

 

[ahcigar1]

So its okay to say homebirths are dangerous but god forbid if anyone disagrees with the overuse of epidurals

In my mind there is a bit of danger involved yes. But I know what can happen. My cousin has dealt with severe life or death for mom and baby need immediate care no 5 min drive to hospital type emergency that no midwife could handle. And that is why I am saying for me I would feel much safer and more comfortable being in a hospital knowing that I would get that help if required immediately.

 

[krismarie621]

Maybe I should re-read the responses, but I don't think anyone here has said home births are dangerous. It's more about their own comfort level.

 

[moomin_troll]

sorry i keep forgetting that every woman who plans a homebirth is stupid and putting our babies at risk because something is going to go wrong and our babies are going to die!

seriously why on earth would people like me plan a hb if it was so dangerous? and im getting so sick of people having this nieve opinion of homebirths

Everyone has their own opinions. I have heard many women who prefer home births also say abad things to us women who prefer the hospital route, or epidural route. Every woman is different and what she chooses what she wants shouldn't be put down by one person or the other. It should just be taken as that persons wants and opinions and left at that. If you feel more comfortable being at home then that is fine, and not faulting you for it or any other woman who chooses that route, and neither should us women who prefer to be at a hospital or to recieve epi's.

i have not had a bad thing to say about people wanting hospital births..ive had one myself.
epidurals are there for a reason, but most people in the UK dont get why women would just choose to have one before even getting one contraction.

people do seem to be very misinformed about homebirths and this is shown by people calling it dangerous and that to me and alot of homebirthers is very insulting.

if something was to go wrong and i needed to go hospital during my HB i no i will get seen in the same amount of time, just because your in hospital does not mean u get the help u need at all

 

[Blah11]

Don't try and belittle me with your patronising 'savvy?' lol.

Our body IS made to give birth. Its what nature intended and the human body is remarkable at dealing with pain. We release all sorts to lessen the pain, and the risks that comes with an epidural isnt really worth it for a few pain free hours. Labour only lasts a few hours

But yeah, do what you like, it's your body and i dont particularly care. Hope you have a nice labour and all that.