Hospital vs home birth?

[xheartsx]

I will be having a hospital birth. It's my first, and to be honest i don't trust myself to not totally freak out! I think i would feel much safer being in a hospital.

Home birthing sounds fab though, and maybe after my body has been through this once, i will consider it for my 2nd!

 

[moomin_troll]

the only "belittling and unnecessary" comments i have seen is from some posters calling home births dangerous.

Nikki_d72 was only pointing out that theres more risk in day to day life like riding a horse then giving birth at home.

Just because some dont "believe" in homebirths it doesnt give them the right to make out that people who are planning a hb are risking their childrens lives, especialy when they dont seem to understand homebirths at all.

i havent seen anyone who likes HBs saying people having a baby in hospital is wrong, but have only pointed out to as why its really not for them...like me this is my second birth and i had my first in hospital and it was horrible.
if something had of gone wrong i couldnt even get a mw to come to my room let alone help if i really needed it, so for me being at home if something was to go wrong id get seen quicker

 

[Lara310809]

We can't have home births (or water births for that matter) over here, so for me it's not a choice. But had I had the choice, I would go for a hospital birth.

I have never liked the idea of a home birth simply because if something goes wrong you're not at the hospital and you have to get an ambulance out to collect you. That having been said, I think home births are nice because you're at home when you have your baby; familiar surroundings etc. I don't have an issue with hospitals feeling clinical though, and that was the last thing I was thinking of while I was in labour

My daughter was born in a hospital without complications, but she had muconium in the waters, which indicate that the baby is in stress. For that reason the paediatrician had to be brought in for the birth, to check she was okay etc. Thankfully she was fit and healthy, but had she not been, and had I been at home labouring, it could have been worse. I would just feel better knowing I'm closer to medical help, and closer to pain relief if I need it.

I kinda wish I could have a water birth though, as it was so nice labouring in the bath at the hospital. They don't have a bath big enough for an actual birth though

 

[Lara310809]

Nikki_d72 was only pointing out that theres more risk in day to day life like riding a horse then giving birth at home

I heard that the most dangerous times in our lives are when our mother is pregnant with us and giving birth to us. I don't know how true that is, but I feel childbirth is more dangerous than every day activities; otherwise why would you need medical people on hand?

 

[moomin_troll]

Nikki_d72 was only pointing out that theres more risk in day to day life like riding a horse then giving birth at home

I heard that the most dangerous times in our lives are when our mother is pregnant with us and giving birth to us. I don't know how true that is, but I feel childbirth is more dangerous than every day activities; otherwise why would you need medical people on hand?

thats the point! u dont always need a health care professional at a birth, this is just how things are done now.

for me no i wouldnt have a unassisted birth but many women do

 

[Lara310809]

I thought you had to have a medical professional there. I thought the only people that didn't were the ones that specifically chose to hide their labour to the professionals I'm too much of a chicken to do it differently though

 

[Blah11]

Well, people who are refused a homebirth do sometimes just not say when theyre in labour amd do it themselves. idk, its a step too far for me but i understand why people do.

 

[Belle25]

My dd was born and she wasn't breathing at birth and was all blue. When I remember that panic I had I want to be in a hospital as much as I would like a home birth.
xx

 

[missmayhem]

i would LOVE a homebirth, but this is my first, and i have some issues, i am currently fighting for the birthing centre but i can't see me getting very far...

that and the new carpet we just had put down, i wouldn't want to ruin it so soon..........



but for me the idea of being at home, near my own coffee and kettle, my own bed, my own music. i cannot wait to get out of hospital and home with my new born, were its nice and quiet, no bustling, no strangers.

 

[moomin_troll]

I thought you had to have a medical professional there. I thought the only people that didn't were the ones that specifically chose to hide their labour to the professionals I'm too much of a chicken to do it differently though

ive never seen any law (in the UK anyway) that says u must have a health care provider there. personaly i wouldnt have a unassisted birth but ive seen so many videos of women giving birth in water with only them and there oh and its amazing

 

[clairealfie]

This is my first so I definately want it in the hospital. That said if this one goes well I'll definately consider a home birth or going to a midwife centre. I don't particular like the whole medical feeling of hospitals but I'm far too scared as a FTM to do it anywhere else this time.

 

[sam#3]

^^ WSS

I think it's a bit redonkulous that something as personal as your birth choice is being debated. This isn't a debate-worthy topic, it's a personal private choice.

Sorry, but the thread title is "Hospital V's Home Birth" - surely it's then open to debate? Is that not the purpose of the thread, to gather differing opinions? Yes, it's personal choice, but the OP asked for opinions.

Yes and its possible to give your opinion without talking down to others regarding their opinion- and possible to give opinions without debating them there is no" right" answer

Thats rich coming from you who said that some of the people on the thread had their 'panties up their arse'....... contradiction much???????????

 

[88Keys2]

Just because some dont "believe" in homebirths it doesnt give them the right to make out that people who are planning a hb are risking their childrens lives, especialy when they dont seem to understand homebirths at all.

And yet, those of us who feel more comfortable birthing in a hospital are made to feel like we are doing something bad for ourselves or our children if we have an epidural or end up having a c-section. Can't we all just have what we want and stop judging each other?

the only "belittling and unnecessary" comments i have seen is from some posters calling home births dangerous.

Put down a sheet? then bin the sheet? Or have your LO in the water? What an odd reason to say homebirth isnt for you

Anyway it seems that the US homebirth attitude is quite far behind the UKs


I do find it strange how people want an epidural 22 weeks before even in labour, lol. How do you know what the pain will be like or how your body will cope with it? Its not like a broken leg pain.

I find all of those comments belittling and condescending. Especially the last one. For some people, the pain is horrific. It may be worse than broken leg pain. Just because it wasn't for you doesn't mean it isn't for them. I find it odd that you trust midwives 100%, yet you don't seem to trust doctors and hospitals at all.

 

[lynnikins]

My dd was born and she wasn't breathing at birth and was all blue. When I remember that panic I had I want to be in a hospital as much as I would like a home birth.
xx

You dont have to answer but, id be interested to know when your LO was born did they cut the cord imediately or was your placenta already somehow detached? just asking because as long as your connected to your baby via the placenta then there is really actually little need for babys to breathe as your body is providing oxegenated blood to them till that line is severed

both my boys were rather blue/purple when born simply from having the squeeze through the birth canal ( as most V birth babies are , at least the many ive seen ) with a bit of a rub a cry and a feed the pinked up fine, in fact with ds1 they cut the cord and took him to give him oxegen ( as is typical practice following ventouse delivery ) but ds2 who arrived the same color as his older brother was passed to my chest and a towel placed over him and i cuddled and nursed him and he became pinker as that process happend we allowed the cord to stop pulstating with him before cutting it so he got his full amount of blood ( as much as 1/3 of the babys blood can be in the cord and placenta at birth ) then clamped and cut the cord with no rush my body was providing for him till that point.

perhaps something to think over ..?

 

[moomin_troll]

how on earth have i made anyone feel bad for having a hospital birth? ive had one myself, and i really cant see how me saying comments such as homebirths are dangerous are belittling anyone

and again how has anyone said epidurals are bad? they have their place and arent for everyone....but by saying we dont get why someone would want one before even feeling a contraction, thats some how seen as saying they are evil.....

i really think people need to actualy read posts

 

[Blah11]

Just because some dont "believe" in homebirths it doesnt give them the right to make out that people who are planning a hb are risking their childrens lives, especialy when they dont seem to understand homebirths at all.

And yet, those of us who feel more comfortable birthing in a hospital are made to feel like we are doing something bad for ourselves or our children if we have an epidural or end up having a c-section. Can't we all just have what we want and stop judging each other?

the only "belittling and unnecessary" comments i have seen is from some posters calling home births dangerous.

Put down a sheet? then bin the sheet? Or have your LO in the water? What an odd reason to say homebirth isnt for you

Anyway it seems that the US homebirth attitude is quite far behind the UKs


I do find it strange how people want an epidural 22 weeks before even in labour, lol. How do you know what the pain will be like or how your body will cope with it? Its not like a broken leg pain.

I find all of those comments belittling and condescending. Especially the last one. For some people, the pain is horrific. It may be worse than broken leg pain. Just because it wasn't for you doesn't mean it isn't for them. I find it odd that you trust midwives 100%, yet you don't seem to trust doctors and hospitals at all.

At what point did I say labour wasn't as painful as a broken leg? I said it was different. & Yes, the pain CAN be horrific. I had a back to back labour and a direct OP vaginal birth. My baby was facing the ceiling when she came out and that is one of the most painful labour experiences you can get so don't talk to me about how horrific the pain can be
I've already said I had a hospital birth with my 1st and that it was a good experience so idk where you're getting that i don't trust doctors and hospitals at all? I do, and i think they're great for women who have complicated pregnancies and labours but I'm not sick, i don't need to go to one.

 

[Blah11]

I think all babies are born bluey grey Amelie was. My little brother was very blue, but fine.

 

[Belle25]

My dd was born and she wasn't breathing at birth and was all blue. When I remember that panic I had I want to be in a hospital as much as I would like a home birth.
xx

You dont have to answer but, id be interested to know when your LO was born did they cut the cord imediately or was your placenta already somehow detached? just asking because as long as your connected to your baby via the placenta then there is really actually little need for babys to breathe as your body is providing oxegenated blood to them till that line is severed

both my boys were rather blue/purple when born simply from having the squeeze through the birth canal ( as most V birth babies are , at least the many ive seen ) with a bit of a rub a cry and a feed the pinked up fine, in fact with ds1 they cut the cord and took him to give him oxegen ( as is typical practice following ventouse delivery ) but ds2 who arrived the same color as his older brother was passed to my chest and a towel placed over him and i cuddled and nursed him and he became pinker as that process happend we allowed the cord to stop pulstating with him before cutting it so he got his full amount of blood ( as much as 1/3 of the babys blood can be in the cord and placenta at birth ) then clamped and cut the cord with no rush my body was providing for him till that point.

perhaps something to think over ..?

Hi,
I can't remember 100% for sure (very high on gas & air) I think they were about to cut the cord as they were holding this floppy baby asking my OH do you want to cut the cord and I was saying I don't care who cuts it, just get her breathing!
After it was cut she still wasn't breathing so they started rubbing her back-nothing. Then I started getting upset so they took her off for oxygen. She was fine.
I think what happened was I had pethidine and if you have it too close to delivery baby can be drowsy.
I have heard its good to delay the cutting of the cord(but it was something I had forgotten)so I am going to put that in my birth plan. Thanks for reminding me of that
xx

 

[lynnikins]

Oh just an experience for everyone who thinks they will get imdiate care if needed in a hospital , no country I know of has a full surgical staff pre scrubbed and waiting round the clock for an emergancy c-section, even a crash section takes 30min to prepare /gather the team and prep the womans body for it even with GA rather than an epidural.
for myself when the MW made the choice to ask me to get out of the pool and examined me after 2 hours of pushing with ds1 and we realised his hand was up in front of his face and he was stuck it still took 45 min for them to prepare 1 doctor for me 1 for my son and 2 spare MW's and get all the equipment to do the ventouse for his birth. now technically my son and I were classed as quite an urgent case because of the 2 hours pushing then his heart-rate dropping a bit with each contraction plus id been in labor for 55 hours! but still things took time to prepare.
even if they had the theatre next door and all the staff there waiting there would be delays in getting an emergancy section of at least 10min.but on average for the UK it takes minimum of 30 min to get a crash section 45min+ for a standard emergancy section and some times more than an hour for paitents in the hospital so for those having to transfer from home then all those min of prep happen (if deemed nessacary) while you are on the way not after you arrive at the hospital.

i had my boys in a MW unit attached to a very good birthing unit and NICU because i felt better there than at home but after giving birth twice i know what my body can handle and how i cope with labor and dispite complications with /following both births then im more comfortable with having this baby at home.

i think what the women supporting homebirths are trying to say is to do your research and look at the facts , find out what your doctors "interventions" and "sections" rates are and consider why, do the reading and find out before just opting to listen to all the doctors say becaus like everyone else including MW's they are just humans,
to me handing my birthing experience over to someone who has seen more "complicated and medicalised" births than someone who has been there and seen more "natural " births doesnt sit right I want someone whos familiar with things going the way they are suppsoed to and will encourage that not someone who is always looking for something to "fix" about my birth.

 

[Belle25]

I think all babies are born bluey grey Amelie was. My little brother was very blue, but fine.

Your probably right as the midwives seemed so laid back about it all holding this baby blue and floppy like it happens all the time. They were very experienced midwives too-very lucky I had the ones I had.
But when you see them on tv having babies they are screaming and I just expected that.
With second baby hopefully I will feel more relaxed.
xx