xLeeBeex
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Hey ladies,
Some of you may have seen me around, I've been on BnB since 2010. Very slowly achieving the goals on our list before thinking about starting a family.
Over this lovely four day weekend it's made me really broody, happens most weekends actually lol. Starting to think about it more and more as we tick things off the list and I get a bit panicky.
The last three things on our list are:
- Go on a few more holidays, which we've got planned already.
- Pay off debt, reckon that'll all be gone by about September/October
- Buy a house, that'll probably be happening middle of next year (fingers crossed we can buy the house we're currently renting)
- If we can buy it, ideally we'll need to get an insulated office/shed type thing built in the garden as OH works from home. Maybe get windows done too, but not top priority.
Then we'll be good to go, I'll be 25 by then and OH will be 35.
However, what panics me is work. I've just been promoted to contract manager, and I worry that taking a year out to have a baby is a long time to have off work. I'd also feel like I'm letting my boss down...But I don't want to put having a family on hold just because of my job. To me, a family is more important. But, I don't want to lose a good job or have them replace me. Plus, I'd miss it. But I want to bring up my child and teach them things. I'm very confused about it as you can tell lol.
How do you decide when is the right time? I mean, I could always say that we need to wait a bit longer because of work but I don't want to keep saying that for years lol. The OH has a great job so money wouldn't be an issue but I don't want to rely on just his wages either, so I'll definitely go back to work.
I don't think I've done a very good job of explaining myself lol.
Some of you may have seen me around, I've been on BnB since 2010. Very slowly achieving the goals on our list before thinking about starting a family.
Over this lovely four day weekend it's made me really broody, happens most weekends actually lol. Starting to think about it more and more as we tick things off the list and I get a bit panicky.
The last three things on our list are:
- Go on a few more holidays, which we've got planned already.
- Pay off debt, reckon that'll all be gone by about September/October
- Buy a house, that'll probably be happening middle of next year (fingers crossed we can buy the house we're currently renting)
- If we can buy it, ideally we'll need to get an insulated office/shed type thing built in the garden as OH works from home. Maybe get windows done too, but not top priority.
Then we'll be good to go, I'll be 25 by then and OH will be 35.
However, what panics me is work. I've just been promoted to contract manager, and I worry that taking a year out to have a baby is a long time to have off work. I'd also feel like I'm letting my boss down...But I don't want to put having a family on hold just because of my job. To me, a family is more important. But, I don't want to lose a good job or have them replace me. Plus, I'd miss it. But I want to bring up my child and teach them things. I'm very confused about it as you can tell lol.
How do you decide when is the right time? I mean, I could always say that we need to wait a bit longer because of work but I don't want to keep saying that for years lol. The OH has a great job so money wouldn't be an issue but I don't want to rely on just his wages either, so I'll definitely go back to work.
I don't think I've done a very good job of explaining myself lol.